How to Get Passion Back in Your Marriage & Reignite the Fire

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how to get the passion back in a relationship - man and woman going out again getting ready for a date

MORE MARRIAGES DIE FROM neglect than anything else.

It is simply a matter of life getting in the way. The neglect soon grows into antipathy and animosity. Soon, the relationship opens up the potential for affairs and other marriage crises.

When people rate their life priorities, many people rank their marital relationship in the top three. Yet, couples spend only a few minutes every day discussing issues that do not concern schedules and children.

Do you see the irony here?

The marriage slowly starves to death

Through the course of the marriage, a lot happens. You get busy with the details of your lives that you forget why you got together in the first place.

Things that did not exist when you first got together become priorities: children, careers, hobbies, building empires. The ‘we’ gets lost. There is so much to do that it becomes challenging to pay attention to your spouse.

Then before long, you catch yourself saying things like:

  • You never compliment me on what I am wearing”
  • “When was the last time you paid attention to me? You always focus all your attention on your work/the kids/something else”
  • “You never make love to me anymore”
  • “How can we have sex when you are always tired?”

Marriages die slowly under the rising wave of indifference. Eventually, partners fall out of love with each other, and the marriage is broken.

Marriages do not die with a bang. They quietly tiptoe away and are gone before you know they have left. – Psychology Today

When the passion is gone

Ask yourself what feels broken about your marriage. Admitting that your marriage is in trouble is the first step towards healing your marriage. Some of the telltale signs of a struggling marriage include:

  • You are constantly criticizing each other
  • There is a lack of affection in the relationship
  • The two of you are arguing all the time
  • The two of you have withdrawn and built impenetrable walls between you
  • Mutual respect between and your spouse is waning
  • You no longer do things together
  • There is a reduced comfort zone: You can no longer open up to each other or be yourselves for fear of being hurt
  • You do not feel as close as you used to be
  • You feel frustrated with each other

Answered yes to many of the above points? Read on…

What next?

When a marriage is in trouble, there are only two choices: You can either commit to save the marriage or call it quits.

Deciding not to do anything is the same as calling it quits. It will only be a matter of time before your marriage erodes when not given the time and effort it requires.

While there are definitely times when separation and divorce are okay, they are no picnic and are definitely not ‘the easy way out’.

For starters, you will never escape the knowledge that you failed in your marriage. Think of all the disrupted lives and the expenses. What about the children if you have them? Many couples will say it is better for the children not to witness all the fighting. But do you know what is even better? Not fighting anymore.

How to get the passion back in your marriage

Fixing your broken marriage is not easy, but it is worth every try. And yes it is possible.

If you focus on restoring the connection and putting the past in the past, your marriage can be healthy again. The key here is not trying to fix every little thing that you think is wrong with the marriage, but committing on building a new relationship.

how to get the passion back in your marriage - man and woman having a serious conversation

Reflect on what has damaged your marriage.

This may seem like an obvious step, but it is crucial to mending your relationship. It is going to be painful but this time for honesty is a must if the marriage is to heal.

Here are some questions to help initiate thought or conversation around the potential issues in your marriage:

  • Has there been an absence of affection and passion in your marriage?
  • Have you been having constant arguments because of money?
  • Does either party feel that they are not getting due respect in the relationship?
  • Do either of you feel that your individual needs are not being taken care of?
  • Has either of you developed habits which have become destructive to your marriage?

Make a list of all the issues that are problematic in your relationship. Include those that you do not talk about for fear that they might lead to further conflict.

Being honest about the problems in your marriage goes a long way towards fixing it.

Acknowledge your part in the problem

Having identified the problem areas, you now have the opportunity to identify the things you are doing that have contributed to the situation.

Many times, one partner may look at the problem as the other partner’s to fix. After all, everyone wants to believe that they are the model spouse.

You say:

I clean up after him, and he is never grateful. It is his fault your marriage is falling apart.

He says:

I work hard and provide all the finances, and she is never grateful. It is her fault the marriage is coming undone.

The truth of the matter is that all of your motives are not always as pure as you would want your spouse to think. Also, it doesn't really matter who is right and wrong.

You can either be right or you can be happily married. Not both. – Anonymous

Each partner has plenty of room for improvement. Ask yourself:

  • Are my expectations always realistic?
  • Are there things I am doing or failing to do that are hurting my marriage?
  • Do I give my husband the benefit of the doubt?
  • Do I always respond to my wife with love and grace?
  • Am I truly on my husband's side?

You cannot fix a broken marriage unless you are willing to take responsibility for ALL OF IT. No matter what kind of a spouse you have, you are always responsible for your responses.

Quit the blame game. At this point, it does not matter who was right or wrong. And no single person wins. You all win or lose. – Jane Kamiri

Improve your communication

An essential component of fixing your marriage is communication. Your spouse could never read your mind. You, therefore, have to articulate your needs clearly.

At the same time, ensure your communication is honest and respectful. Do not speak in anger and do not be sarcastic. This will only invoke an angry reaction from your spouse, and you will soon be arguing.

  • Be patient with each other and talk to each other, not at each other.
  • Express your concerns constructively.
  • Keep the tone friendly and omit any judgment, criticism, and irritation.
  • Focus on solutions rather than dwelling on what went wrong.
  • Improve your listening skills.

You might find it easier to start writing a letter or a text message to help take some of the emotion out initially.

Find forgiveness

When the problems have been clearly articulated, it is time to apologize, forgive and move on. Look for ways to find forgiveness both for yourself and your partner so that you can move forward.

Commit to connecting again

Make rebuilding your marriage a priority: value your time together. No matter how busy your schedules are, always find time to spend together.

  • You can spend a few minutes every night chatting
  • Go out on dates if you can
  • Always find ways of aligning together through the good and bad times
  • Restore your intimacy
    • Sexual intimacy is crucial for the growth of your marriage. Even when you are not up to it, make an effort to be open to intimate moments as often as possible.

Also,

  • Stop asking yourself the wrong questions. Asking yourself ‘Did I marry the wrong person?’ is the wrong question. Instead, ask yourself, ‘How can I love correctly the person I married?’
  • Don’t talk to friends and family about your situation. Exposing your marriage makes it more vulnerable.
  • Even if your spouse is not on board, commit to doing it alone. Your effort can change the momentum of your marriage. Your effort will also motivate the obstinate spouse to make efforts to save the marriage.

Finally,

Be the change you want to see. Speak in the vocabulary of your actions. Your problems will be resolved more by new choices than many discussions.

If your concerned about your marriage and want more help I encourage you to watch this short video. It is put together by a marriage expert that has many years of experience helping couples reunite.

If you want help to work together for your marriage, then I recommend that you put everything aside for the next few minutes and watch the video.

Best of luck in your situation.

“Husband Angry All The Time?” How His Pent-up Anger Effects Your Marriage

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Husband angry all the time and sitting with wife

LIVING WITH AN ANGRY HUSBAND IS LIKE living at the base of an active volcano.

You are always alert, anticipating the next eruption. You stay in a constant state of hyper-vigilance; always looking for ways to cover for him.

And you spend all your energy keeping his anger from swamping the entire family.

Understanding Anger

Anger is just a form of emotional energy. It is not yelling and screaming. And it is not violence. Anger can be both constructive and destructive.

However, since many people have seen more of unhealthy expressions of anger, they only associate anger with negative things.

Anybody can become angry; that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way: that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. – Aristotle

Healthy versus unhealthy anger in the marriage

Anger the emotion is not bad by itself. It is the choices that one makes in expressing the anger that makes the difference in the health of a marriage.

A spouse who expresses his anger healthily is able to talk about his feelings in a calm manner. Also, he does not try to manipulate the partner’s behavior.

Instead, he expresses himself, makes a request and is willing to accept the answer. When he realizes that his anger is escalating, he takes time out since he recognizes that he will not be logical and rational anymore. He can then revisit the topic at a later time once he has calmed down.

Unhealthy anger, on the other hand, is constant. The person seems ready to snap over little things, is always irritated by the spouse and those around him and he argues for the sake of arguing.

This anger also seeks to control the spouse and is often used as a weapon. It can also be used to punish the partner through things like silent treatment, withholding sex and sabotaging the partner’s efforts.

At the extreme, unhealthy anger is abusive. The abuse can either be verbal: calling names, intimidation, and threats; restricting the partner’s interactions; financial or even physical abuse.

Fact: While other emotions are healed in the presence of love, anger is blind and usually cannot see or receive the care that is being offered.

Anger and the sexless marriage

One cause for lack of intimacy in marriage is anger. If your husband expresses his anger disrespectfully, this will build resentment in you.

Over time, this resentment may evolve to dislike and even hatred for him. And how can you possibly be intimate with someone whom you do not like?

Another way an angry husband expresses himself is through constant criticism of his wife.

Criticism in a marriage is like water dripping on a rock. Slowly, the rock will be eroded. If you are regularly made to feel like you cannot do anything right, that you do not measure up to certain expectations, this will affect the quality of your intimacy.

At some point, you will become resentful and even angry even if you may not admit it. With time, you will find it completely difficult to be intimate with your husband. Sex will either be a chore or the most unpleasant thing that you have to endure in the relationship.

Your husband’s anger will drive you to depression.

A study by the University of Missouri has revealed that angry husbands can cause depression in their wives. In the study, researchers observed video clips of 416 married couples interacting at home.

The study found that husbands’ treatment of their wives dramatically influences their psychological wellness. Criticism and hostility have a lasting effect on the wives' wellbeing. It was further found that the effects of husbands’ anger on the wives continue throughout the marriages.

Anger begets anger: your marriage will produce angry children

Experts say that children learn how to form relationships from their parents through observation and social learning.

Your children will watch you and either learn the skills of problem-solving and conflict resolution; which lead to healthy relationships or distress, anxiety, and aggression; which lead to unhealthy relationships.

Experts indicate that anger is contagious. Unhealthy anger in all forms of its expression: violence and aggression is a learned behavior. This is the reason why children who are brought up in families with violence are more likely to be more aggressive to their own romantic partners.

Children learn to identify with the aggressor since they discover that the parent (in this case the dad) who yells the loudest gets his way. Anger, aggression, and hostility become a way of life.

Evidence also indicates that if children are exposed to prolonged anger and aggression, they may experience brain and hormonal changes due to fear.

They freeze in response to loud voices and anger. Later in life, the effects show up in the form of promiscuity, alcohol and drug abuse, codependency and eating disorders.

Don’t worry that children never listen to you. Worry that they are always watching you. – Robert Fulghum

You will have an unhappy marriage

You were probably bewildered the first time you witnessed your husband’s angry outburst. But with subsequent eruptions, you have realized that your husband does not respect you.

Eventually, you will be put off by his immature and unreasonable behavior, and you will not have the patience to give him any attention. Your relationship will deteriorate.

Also, how can you be happy with someone you are scared of?

How can you:

  • Love him when you resent the way he treats you?
  • Laugh with yelling and angry shouting going on?
  • Want to spend any time that you do not have to spend with someone you resent?

Your marriage will not survive on the thin ice of lost love forever. It will eventually crumble under the pressure of anger.

Final thoughts

Anger coping mechanisms are entrenched in an individual, and they cannot change unless your husband makes a strong commitment to handle his anger more healthily. Your husband needs a structured program of anger management to learn how to break this destructive behavior.

Do not even for a minute think that you can change your husband’s anger patterns overnight. After all, he has had many years to practice before meeting you.

Ultimately, remember that you get what you put up with, not what you deserve. If you excuse, forgive and allow your husband’s repeated outbursts, why on earth should you expect him to change?

What you can  do

Make your husband ineffective in getting what he wants through anger. He has to learn that shouting, threatening and withdrawing will not get him what he wants.

If you give in to his anger, you will never get him to give up using anger as a manipulating tool. Be firm in your refusal; do not have any discussion about it.

Refusing to argue helps to put the issue to rest quickly so that you can both move on to other things. The next time you see him, be friendly and pretend like nothing ever happened. He will know how to treat you better, anger issues or not.

Thanks for reading this article on the effects on your marriage of when your husband angry all the time. You can contact me here if you have a question or query.

EXPERT ADVICE – “I Cheated On My Husband and I Want Him Back”

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I cheated on My Husband and I Want Him Back - woman pleading with husband

IS IT AFFAIRS THAT BREAK UP MARRIAGES?

The question sounds ludicrous but it isn’t as straightforward as it seems.

And the answer is somewhat good news for those in relationships which have experienced infidelity.

Caroline Madden, a marriage therapist, says that it is not affairs that break marriages up: it is the unfaithful spouse’s inability, to be honest about what happened and leave the affair behind them.

According to Madden, couples divorce after affairs, not because of the infidelity itself, but because the betrayed spouse simply gives up trying when the cheating spouse continues to be shady, selfish and untrustworthy.

Another encouraging fact is that the majority of couples stay together after infidelity. Psychology Today

Your marriage does not have to end because you had an affair. Even though the affair will cause your husband much heartache and anger, your marriage can survive. However, it is not going to be a walk in the park. Brace yourself for difficult work ahead of you to reclaim your husband and your marriage.

Healing your marriage will take dedication and perseverance, but the good news is that it can be done.

Take full responsibility for the affair

When you have betrayed your husband, you must acknowledge that you have inflicted anxiety, pain, and insecurity in him. You cannot expect your marriage to move forward if you do not take responsibility for your actions.

  • Your husband may have contributed to the breakdown of your relationship, but he did not force you to have the affair.
  • You may have felt lonely, rejected or neglected in the relationship, but you are the one who had an affair.
  • You may not have meant to hurt your husband, but you did it- deeply. And now his world is turned his world upside down.
  • You are the one who has caused him more pain than he could ever have imagined!

The earlier you can take responsibility, the sooner your marriage can start to heal.

A quick note why it hurts him so much

When you went outside the marriage, he no longer felt needed. All of a sudden, someone else could please you the way only he thought he could. In that way, he thought he was your hero. But now he will feel like a regular guy who doesn’t mean anything special to anyone.

There will also be pride issues, inparticular if the affair is public in some way. He may not be able to come to terms with his identity, (as someone whose wife had an affair) without breaking up the marriage.

There may be specific reasons as to why you cheated in the first place, but remember that infidelity is a choice. There are many other ways you would have approached the issues in your relationship, but you chose to have an affair. Forget about all the excuses; it was no accident.

The famous TV Doctor Dr. Phil thinks along these lines…

The one who cheats is solely responsible for his or her affair. No matter what problems exist in the relationship, and no matter how the betrayed spouse behaves him/she did not make you cheat, you chose that.

There are ways to deal with unhappiness in a marriage, but I assure you, cheating is absolutely not one of them. Cheating is merely a way to avoid dealing with either your personal shortcoming or the marital issues.

Cheating is about ego. It is selfish. Short of holding a gun to your head and forcing you to go outside the marriage, your spouse is not to blame for your affair. Own your stuff fully. – Relationship Rescue Written By Dr. Phil

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Immediately cut all contact with the other guy

This rule is of paramount importance for a reason: you cannot be fully emotionally available to your husband when you are still emotionally attached to the other guy. It will not be easy if you had an established friendship with the other guy, but it is best if you completely stop seeing him. This will help you to resist the temptation to cheat again.

Severing all ties with the other guy will help you emotionally reattach to your husband.

Be completely honest with your husband

After you have cheated, one of the ways to earn your husband’s trust is by being completely honest. Madden indicates that withholding information from the betrayed spouses is completely devastating.

Many betrayed spouses say that what made them give up on their relationship was not the affair. It was the drip, drip, drip of the facts about the affair that slowly leaked over time. (Trickle Truthing).  Just when the spouse was getting used to the facts that had been revealed, start to adjust and trust again -Boom, more information would surface.

Experts indicate that the best remedy is being upfront about everything from the start: how long the affair lasted, what you told the other guy about your marriage, where you went and what you did….. Everything.

Be accountable to your husband

Your husband needs a lot of proof that you are remorseful, serious, reliable and safe to love before he can trust you again. Rebuilding trust means rebuilding your credibility through complete accountability. This means that for a time, you will need to account for your time and actions.

Having to account for your every move may feel invasive, but it is non-negotiable. You might feel like you are being treated like a child; you may feel insulted; but, do you want your privacy or to save your marriage?

  • You may even swear that you have ended the affair, but your swearing means nothing right now.
  • The truth is that the blind, unconditional trust that your husband had in you has been destroyed, and regaining it is going to be a rite of passage.
  • As far as your marriage has gone so far, this is an extreme situation and extreme situations call for drastic measures.

Fact: your husband must catch you being ‘good’ in order to be able to trust you again.

For now, you must give up your passwords, access to your cellphones, email and social media accounts. The good news is that after a period of time of being caught being good, your husband’s need to check on you will diminish.

Are you willing to help your husband trust you again so that you can save your marriage?

Reassure your husband

It is unrealistic to think that your husband will get over the affair and move on immediately. You must reassure him over and over and over again, and as much as he needs it. Express remorse and repeatedly assure your husband that it will never happen again.

You turned his world upside down. Apologizing repeatedly is the least you can do. Your primary responsibility during this process is to show that you clearly understand what your husband has felt and experienced and to prove to him over and over that you truly regret it, and you are willing to earn back his trust, no matter what it takes.

You may think having to apologize repeatedly is hard. Well, think about how hard it is being your husband right now!

Allow your husband to set the pace of recovery: not you!

The process of recovering from infidelity is long and hard. After some time, you will feel that you have done all you can to help your husband heal and all you want is to put the affair behind your marriage and move forward. That is all good, but it is unfair and unrealistic.

Imagine you and your husband are climbing a mountain. You have already reached the summit but your husband is struggling to climb, and he is stuck. You are tired of waiting for him, and you want to get going. Will yelling at him to hurry up make him move any faster? The practical thing to do is to get down there and help him up.

It is the same case in this situation. You cannot dictate the pace at which your husband is going to heal.

Experts indicate that it takes at least two to five years for a marriage to get past an affair and reclaim the state of normalcy.

Do not push your husband and do not get impatient. He will seem happy one day and then avoid you the next. Sometimes he will need space. Sometimes he will cry about what you have done, ask a lot of questions, hurl judgment and even rage at you. Stand strong, stay faithful, keep apologizing and reach out with understanding.

Fact: Sometimes it will feel as if you are moving two steps forward and three steps back. Today you will be hopeful, and then tomorrow it will feel as if all hope is lost. Be patient. Pushing him to get over it before he is ready will only lead to further resentment.

You can survive this

Your marriage can survive the infidelity. Not only can it survive, but it can thrive. The journey will force both of you to do enormous amounts of introspection. You will learn a lot about yourselves and each other and become closer than ever before.

You might also get to resolve old issues that might never have been addressed. Your relationship will be kicked from its complacency, and you will learn what does not work.

You will both learn that your marriage is precious and that it is worth the effort. If you can get through this together, you will end up a stronger couple.

Additional insights:

Learn from this experience

Choose to learn from the experience. The best place to start is to explore the real reason why you cheated. Be honest with yourself and your husband about what was going on in your relationship before you cheated. This might be an incredible opportunity to build a stronger, healthier marriage.

Don’t become a punching bag

You have hurt your husband, and now you have to face the consequences. That being said, there are limits. Your cheating does not give your husband the license to abuse or attack you.

Forgive yourself

Yes, you made a horrible mistake. However, it does not mean you are evil, and you should not dwell on it forever. You are human, and everyone makes mistakes. Eventually, find a way to forgive yourself.

Protect your marriage

It is not enough to lead your marriage towards healing. You must also cushion your relationship against future attacks:

  • Ensure the other guy has no access to you or your marriage.
  • Surround yourself with friends of your marriage; people who will support your choice to save the marriage and not sabotage the process.

Is this the end?

In short, your husband wants you to choose him and your marriage again. And for a while, it has to be the most important thing in your life. As said earlier, he needs to catch you in the act of being a good wife before he will trust you.

If for some reason you can't face or see your husband, here is a guide on writing a letter to him to get him back.

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7 Things Every Husband Desires From His Wife… But Will Never Ask

Ways to Make a Man Feel Deeply Attached To You - Let him know you appreciate what he is doing

things every husband desires from his wife - Let him know you appreciate what he is doing

HOW AWESOME WOULD IT BE TO have your dream guy desire you and only you forever? To never fear that he will be attracted to other women while he is in a relationship with you…

While attracting his attention is one thing, getting him to develop a deep emotional attachment to you is another.

Why emotional attachment?

Emotional attachment is what will make a guy want to spend the rest of his life with you. It is what will make him go out of his way to make you happy.

Indeed, it is this attachment that will motivate your man to yearn to spend as much quality time with you as possible. It is because of emotional intimacy that your man will be blind to the miniskirts and push-up bras all around him, and come home to you every night.

It’s when he chooses you because he feels something he cannot get with anyone else. It’s on another level to physical attraction, commonalities or even compatibility. And it’s the level you want to be on to keep your dream guy coming back to you.

So how do you play at this level? Here are the 7 rungs to the emotional attachment ladder you need to climb to get there

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1. Believe that love can last forever

There is nothing as painful as losing your man to someone else. While statistics on the success of relationships are not encouraging, research shows that many couples are still deeply in love after decades together. Scientists say that love can last – much more than we give it credit for.

Indeed, research in neuroscience has proven that intense romantic love can last a lifetime. It is, therefore, possible to not only get into a great relationship with your dream man, but it is also possible to nurture a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship. The secret is in creating a deep emotional intimacy with him.

2. Change your mindset

Many women work hard to attract the men of their dreams, but deep down they do not believe that they can experience long-lasting relationships. Your mindset is critical to the success of your relationship.

Consider the following beliefs that some of us hamper:

  • A man will always look for something more outside the relationship.
  • It is not going to work out, men always leave.
  • A man will always feel attraction for other women. 80% of long-term relationships fail anyway.
  • One woman cannot meet all the needs of a man.

These kinds of negative thoughts will sabotage your relationship even before it has started. If you bring fear, doubt, and reservation to your relationship, you will never form a deep emotional attachment to your partner.

Your mindset will determine the fate of your relationship. To develop a deep attachment to your man, you have to come from a position of power and faith.

Here is an interesting fact:

As a woman, you are always influencing your partner. No matter what is happening around you, you can fulfill a man so much that he is so attracted to you that he does not notice any other woman. Haven’t you heard of men who have stuck to their wives like glue for life, completely in love?

You must have enough be confidence in yourself to believe that you can be enough for one man; forever. Once you have this confidence, you will attract commitment and devotion from your man.

You have no idea how much influence you have on your man when you dare to acknowledge that you already have it within you to be more than enough for your man for life.

3. Worship your man in the bedroom

To make a man feel deeply attracted to you, make him feel like your personal sex deity. Men love sex because it boosts their ego. For a man, sex is not just a physical activity.

Fact: A man who is in a serious relationship equates sex with love. It is his way of connecting with you. During sex, the bonding hormone: dopamine is released. During those intimate moments, oxytocin is also produced. Oxytocin is responsible for increasing a man’s attraction for you.

If you know your man well enough, you can keep these bonding chemicals flowing in his brain:

  • Discover your man’s sexual triggers and how to push his buttons to make him obsessed with you. Be open with your sexual affection.
  • Touch and caress your man lovingly and tenderly whenever an opportunity arises. This soothes him and invites him into an emotional connection.
  • Learn how to receive your man’s touch. Whenever your man touches you, relax into it like butter on a hot blade. Melt in his warmth.
  • Don’t be afraid to initiate sex. This excites your man and shows him that you want him as much as he wants you.

4. Become his haven

Through the passage of time, men have been elevated to close to perfection status: The ‘knight in shining armor syndrome.’ The man is expected to be strong, complete and whole in all the areas of his life. This has put tremendous pressure on many men. Many women attach a person to their man that he cannot possibly live up to.

The man has been denied the opportunity to have weaknesses, to cry, to fail, to be human. What unrealistic expectations many women have for their men! The truth is, like any other human being, your man needs a soft place to fall.

  • Offer him emotional and physical safety. Has he had a bad day? The moment he gets home, he should feel that he is walking into his haven. In your presence, he is not judged, and he feels protected from the world. Your emotional bond will never be broken.
  • Give him space to let his emotions out. The more your man can be himself around you, the more emotionally attached he will become.
  • Keep your man’s secrets. When he knows that he can come to you and share whatever is in his mind, you will become his confidant; his best friend. If he truly feels in his heart that he can trust you, he will never feel the need to stray away. He will genuinely let his guard down and become even more attached to you.

Teach your man that you have his back, that he can trust you like no other person on this planet. You will form an emotional bond that no one and nothing can break.

Rather than feel terribly disappointed when your man falls short, ask yourself, ‘how better you can support him?’

5. Build his adrenaline

Boredom can be a massive obstacle to emotional connection. You will form a stronger emotional bond if you keep things interesting. Research shows that couples who experience strong emotional attachment are those who enjoy participating in challenging and new activities.

In a relationship, you will sometimes get into those grey areas where nothing exciting is going on. Shaking things up now and then with something exciting is a good idea. When you get your man’s heart pumping, it tricks his brain into thinking that his excitement is arousal at being with you. This creates a deeper connection with you.

Remember: it is not how much time you spend together. It is how you spend the time that will increase your emotional attachment. And it does not have to be something elaborate. Seek out simple mentally challenging ways to break and spice up your daily routines.

6. Be supportive of his time alone

According to author Deborah Tannen, suffocating a man by denying him some free time is the fastest way to kill a relationship. A man needs breathing room in a relationship for his hobbies, his friends and to tail away on his projects so that he can feel fulfilled.

Dr. Rick Nauert says that giving a man space is especially important if he is under stress. He needs time to concentrate, reflect and figure out the next step.

  • If you can learn to sense when your man needs a break, all the better. Always set a time when your man will be back and make plans for later. You will always have more to talk about.
  • Smile when he says he is off to his man cave; give him a kiss. Your man will always feel seen, heard and treasured.

Finally,

7. Always make him feel like he is your hero

Men want to be needed. He wants to feel like he adds to your life something that you cannot get anywhere else.

Have your man do things for you. Even if you can open that jar by yourself, having him open it will make him feel great about himself and more connected to you. Your man needs you to need him in your life. Period.

Praise your guy for all his accomplishments. You need to be his number one fan. He will want to excel in everything including your relationship. The emotional intimacy will grow because he knows he will always get a pat on his back.

Express gratitude for all the things he does for you. He does not make an effort to make you happy for no reason. Do not just be grateful for the nice things that he does for you, but for all his sacrifices out there to make you happy.

Affirm your man: Let him know that you believe that he can do whatever he puts his mind to because of all the fantastic qualities that he possesses. Men have tender egos. A man needs frequent reassurance about himself: his attractiveness, his career path and his efficacy as a partner. So let your praise loose.

Fact: The more your praise his positives, the more you will see them.

Remember, creating a deep connection with your man is all about engaging and connecting with him on ways that stimulate him. Focus your attention on your man now and then and ask yourself how you can make him feel special. If you do this it will help you will effortlessly thrive in your relationship.

If you want to know more about how men work, then I recommend you watch this short video on how men view commitment and relationships. It is an eye-opener.

Thanks for reading my guide on things every husband desires from his wife. If you have any comments queries or questions you can contact me here.

“Does My Husband Love Me?” – The 8 Point Checklist To Know If He Has Checked Out

woman wondering does my husband love me while sitting on a bed

woman wondering does my husband love me while sitting on a bed

WHEN YOU LOOK AT HIM INSTEAD OF LOVE, you see a tired, impatient look in his eyes.

And all joy has drained from his life. He has not said anything, but you have started to feel less important than his work, his friends, and even his phone. Now you can hardly get him to spend any time with you. He always seems busy doing one thing or the other…

You try to win back his attention

And so you work even harder to attract his attention; to make him happy. You think that pleasing him will make things better, only to realize that your efforts only make him resentful.

You no longer feel validated, and affection has become a scarce commodity. And then it hits you; ‘Does my husband love me? or has he fallen out of love'

8 Signs that your husband does not love you anymore

Often, there are  signs that your husband no longer loves you. The problem is not inadequate signs but that wives do not want to see and accept them. It is not easy to admit that your husband has fallen out of love with you.

The following signs may be an indication that your husband is losing interest in you.

Before reading on, prepare to step back from your relationship for a moment and examine it from the perspective of an outsider. It can be helpful to use a pen and paper and write down a yes or a no in a column to keep score as independently as possible.

1. Sudden absence

One telling sign that your husband doesn't love you anymore is his absence. All of a sudden, he needs a lot of space. You get a distinct feeling that your husband is avoiding you. Experts say that men who fall out of love with their wives start coming home late and spending more time away.

He will give excuses such increased work at the office. He might also start going more to the gym. If you have consistently been spending weekends together, he will start making other plans.

Eventually, his excuses for his absence become more and more flimsy. One thing that is apparent is that it becomes harder and harder to connect with him. This is a clear indication that something is wrong.

2. Lack of interest

A sure sign that your husband may not love you anymore is that he has become less and less interested in the day to day happenings of your life:

  • He is no longer interested in knowing how your day was.
  • He does not inquire about your hobbies and interests anymore.
  • He might start making plans without involving you.
  • He no longer compliments you, and you don’t feel that he appreciates you or that he is attracted to you anymore.

Generally, if your husband is no longer engaged in your life, it is a bad sign.

3. He has started to disrespect you

Your once loving husband has started to treat you rudely. He makes negative comments and criticizes you all the time. He may start verbally or emotionally abusing you, and his behavior has become passive-aggressive. You will find yourself walking on eggshells around him.

He might start to compare you with other women or your relationship with other couples’, in a negative light. Suddenly, everything you do irritates him, even those little quirks that he once thought were cute.

When you husband starts hurting you intentionally, this a clear indicator that he has lost interest in you.

4. He no longer cares about your emotional and sexual needs

There are many reasons why your sexual life can slump. However, if there is a definite shift in the way he interacts with you physically, it could mean that he is no longer attracted to you. If it feels as though the passion is completely dead and he shows no interest in reviving it, he is probably falling out of love with you.

You will notice that he is not doing anything to reciprocate your efforts at intimacy. If you realize that your husband no longer focuses on your needs or even bothers to satisfy them, something is wrong in your relationship.

5. The way he handles conflict has changed

When a partner has fallen out of love, he handles disagreements differently than he used to. All couples have their individual style of conflict resolution. However, when a couple’s relationship is stable, they use a relatively consistent method to solve their conflicts.

However, when love starts to wane, so does the attention to conflict resolution. Is your husband:

  • Indifferent; altogether giving up on arguing? He instead placates you and goes ahead to do what he wants anyway?
  • Picking abrupt and confusing fights and then using them as an excuse to leave the scene?
  • Choosing to stay angry long after you argued?

If your husband no longer genuinely wants to settle your conflicts and fix your relationship, then something else is going on with him.

6. He discusses your relationship in a negative, hopeless manner

Men are problem solvers. If there is a problem, especially with the woman that they love they will do everything to solve it.

When he falls out of love, he will not take any responsibility for the situation. He will blame you for everything that is wrong with your marriage. His tone will also turn from one of genuine curiosity to one of resignation. You will hear things like ‘I am just not happy anymore’; ‘is this all worth it?’

If he has decided that there is no way of fixing your relationship, he is looking for a way out of the marriage.

Does my husband love me - man spending time on phone instead of with wife

7. He has become obsessed with his phone or device

While he no longer communicates with you when you are a part, he will stay glued to his phone when you are together. This is a way of distracting himself from spending real time with you.

If he is flirting with someone else, he will never put his phone down in the fear that you will discover he is emotionally unfaithful (or even worse). If he no longer finds your presence stimulating, then he has probably lost all interest in you.

And the obvious one:

8. He stops telling you that he loves you

If your husband has shifted from saying ‘I love you’ to always just ‘me too,’ he is probably losing interest in you. If you observe this, stop saying ‘I love you’ for a few days and see what happens. If he also stops expressing his love, then clearly there is a problem.

We hope you have a much better picture of whether he loves you or not. This is a crucial moment in your relationship that will determine whether you will live happily ever after or he leaves you.

The future

If you have kept score, and indeed discovered that he is losing interest in you, do not panic. Wondering whether a husband loves you is one of the most common questions many wives ask during a rough patch in their marriage. You are not alone, and you know what, your marriage can rise from these ashes and blossom once again.

Many times, a marriage needs to hit rock bottom before it can be rebuilt and revived.

Thanks for reading my guide on ‘does my husband love me?' – the checklist to know if he has checked out. You can contact me here

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How to Write a Letter to Husband to Save Marriage – Or Edit this Example

Letter to husband to save marriage being written by wife

Letter to husband to save marriage being written by wife

CONFLICT IS INEVITABLE IN MARRIAGE, and it can either lead to discovery or damage depending on how well you handle it. When you effectively deal with conflict, you will discover new approaches, ideas, and solutions to make your marriage even more vibrant. If you do not solve your conflicts promptly, the wounds fester and conflicts intensify.

The place of effective communication in a marriage

Conflict is not the problem in marriage; how to deal with conflict is the issue. Effective communication, therefore, becomes a large part of a successful marriage.

Research shows that communication problems are a significant indicator of marriage breakdown. 65% of marriages end in divorce when couples struggle with communication.

Research by Dr. Kirsten Grarningen of University College London revealed that communication problems are the leading cause of divorce in Britain. The trick to staving off divorce lies in having a better relationship, which is helped by having a strong communication channel between you and your husband.

It is no wonder most advice on how to fix a marriage encourages couples to talk it out. But what do you do when your husband doesn't want to talk about your problems? Do you leave him alone and assume he will come to you when he is ready? Do you allow issues to go unresolved and expose your relationship to further strain?

First things first; why won’t your husband talk to you?

There are many reasons why your husband could go quiet on you in the face of conflict.

  • He does not feel safe. Is it possible that the way you respond to your husband when you discuss difficult subjects has made him dread discussing tough issues with you? Do you become defensive and argumentative whenever you discuss your relationship problems?
  • Your husband fears that you will not be considerate of his feelings. Do you always try to control the conversation with your husband? Do you tell him to get over his hurt already? Why should he talk to you about this critical issue when you will disregard his feelings like you have done every other time?
  • Your husband could be unsure about his feelings about the situation, and he wants to think them through before speaking to you.
  • Your husband could be worried about making a complicated issue even worse.

Important to note: you must recognize that an individual cannot not communicate. Even when your husband is not talking, he is communicating. The question is, what is he saying to you?

What to do when your husband won’t talk to you

Successful negotiation is a vital part of a healthy relationship. Your husband is avoiding negotiating with you by his silence. Unfortunately, issues will not solve themselves and they will not go away by being ignored. Your marriage needs serious attention right now.

To start the healing of your marriage, you must kick-start communication with your husband. Since verbal communication is temporarily on hold, what alternatives do you have?

Put it in writing

Sometimes an effective way to get your husband to open up is to use an unexpected method of communication. There are many practical advantages of putting your thoughts in writing:

  • A letter gives you more time to think about what exactly you want to convey.
  • It allows you to choose the right words for the message that you have in mind.
  • You can pour out your heart without having to worry about being interrupted or tripping over your words.
Man reading letter from wife about serious topics in the relationship
It is unlikely you will be there while he reads the letter, although it can help to write the letter if you picture him reading it

How to make the most out of your letter

You are hoping to achieve a number of things with your letter: you want to get your husband back to the negotiation table. You are also hoping that writing the letter will be the start of the journey back to reconciliation with your husband. It is therefore important that you consider how your letter is going to be perceived.

  • Do not focus on yourself in the letter. The most important thing right now is to focus on the feelings of your husband but not your own. ‘My heart is breaking, and I don’t know what I will do if I lose you’… You can sprinkle the letter with a few of these phrases but watch out that the entire letter is not all about you.
  • Your husband is dissatisfied with your marriage as it is presently. For your letter to have an impact, it must clearly show how things will be different going forward.

Hint: Men crave physical intimacy. Your husband will respond even better to references for improving your physical relationship.

The letter

A carefully written letter can be the catalyst for reconciling your marriage as long as it is followed up with the right actions. We understand that writing letters (especially emotional ones) can be daunting. Feel free to look at the sample letter below and tweak it to suit your situation.

Example letter

Dear husband,

I will never forget the elegance I saw when I first set my eyes on you. I told you every day how handsome you are (often with some irritation). You were and still are everything I want in a man: you are ambitious, hardworking and honest. You are a man of integrity and honor.

I still remember when we first met: we enjoyed each other’s company and our days were filled with laughter. I felt loved and wanted. Your zest for life was infectious. I knew then that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with you. That has not changed, and it will never change.

The last ten years have been adventurous. We have been blessed with our children, we have set up a thriving business, and we have bought our home. But we have also tasted the bitter side of life: we have stared at bankruptcy and survived a horrible accident. Through it all, you have been my rock.

You are smart, talented and capable and when things are happening around us, no one makes me and our children feel as whole and safe as you do. I believe in you. I know I do not say this often. Forgive me for taking you for granted.

I admit that I am not as wise as you are and I have not been as patient as you. I know that I can be a mystery to you. You are pretty steady and consistent, and I am much less so. I am more emotional and sensitive than you to things that happen.

I know that I sometimes lash out at you when things do not go my way. I frustrate you a lot of times. I admit that the way I have handled our arguments in the past was not always very constructive. I have walked out in the middle of arguments and shut you out. I now realize how damaging my behavior has been to our relationship.

I regret the many things that I have said and done that have hurt your feelings. I am sorry for not being more attentive to you. Forgive me for all the times I disrespected you and made you feel anything less than the great man you are. Forgive me for putting our marriage in jeopardy.

I have reflected deeply, and I know where I have erred. I am now willing to begin the process of changing for the better. I plead for another chance to make things right. I will respect you and listen to you patiently. I will put your concerns into consideration. I will meet your needs to the best of my ability. Please help me to put our family back together.

I miss our late night conversations. I miss your cuddles and kisses. Please talk to me.

Love,

Me.

What happens next…

Writing a letter like this can be daunting. Putting everything on the line like this can feel like your giving him all the power in the relationship.

But to save your marriage you must try.

Give him some time to get back to you. It might take him a while for it all to sink in, but at the same time, don't let it drag on for months.

While you are waiting, it's important to start righting the wrongs of your marriage. Show him you have changed by understanding his needs better than any other woman can. Everything you need to know about understanding men and what they really want is in this video.  (Hint: It isn't what they say they want)

If the letter doesn't have the desired effect

If the letter you write doesn't have the desired effect then you do still have choices. There is also affordable professional assistance here. This is a DIY guide which will help educate and inform you on what else you can do to get through to your husband and turn your marriage around.

There is more information on saving your marriage on ManageYourMan.com

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Language Of Desire Review – What’s Really In It and Is It Right For You & Your Relationship?

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Note: This is my review of the Language Of Desire program after getting a copy and reading/listening to it. Others may experience the program differently. I have used the program and my knowledge of other programs in writing this review.

IF YOU ARE READING THIS, IT’S LIKELY that your relationship isn’t exactly where you want it to be…

And the issue at the core is that your husband isn’t as open and honest with you as you’d like. Maybe you feel like he’s keeping things, or simply not telling you what he thinks, and you're tired of being kept ‘out of the loop’ and trying to put things together yourself.

I know as a man that it’s not that I don’t want to share, it’s that I feel like my wife doesn’t really want me to share. The good news is that how to overcome this problem, is in the program.

What is the Language Of Desire in one sentence?

An upfront and honest guide on how to build and strengthen your relationship with your man using intimacy.

The Language Of Desire (LOD)… in More Detail

At its core, LOD is a written and audio program designed to show you how to get your mans attention, keep it, and build a deeper relationship between the two of you.

The how is through sex.

The reason IS NOT that you have to ‘become a slut’ but actually because sex gets a mans attention… pretty much every time. It simply plain works. Your man doesn’t want you to become a slut. But he does want you to worship him among other factors. And due to the kids, the house, our careers and life in general, these factors get forgotten about or neglected in our relationships.

As well as the fact that we don’t really get taught how to build strong relationships, have great sex and increase our levels of intimacy with a partner… the only places that talk about these topics are movies, magazines, celebrity-based websites, and maybe friends…

But none of these are really great teachers.

Felicity Keith is the author of the Language Of Desire

Enter Felicity Keith

She had enough of what others were telling her because it wasn’t working. So she decided to figure it out for herself. And the Language Of Desire program is her manifesto/little-black-book. Her tell-all guide on what she found, and more importantly, how you can make a difference in your relationship with your man.

One of the best parts of this program is that it cuts the crap. (Which is why I was interested enough to get a copy and review it in the first place).

Simply put there are things that you can do to turn your intimacy around. And this book covers many of them.

It doesn’t cover everything. But if you're looking for something to do to get your intimacy back on the right track, or want something you can do pretty much straight away. This will give you those tools, techniques, and tips.

There’s also the reasons why covered in this program. Why a particular technique works, and what issue you are potentially solving with it. As well as how you can customize what you are doing to really get his attention.

For example, LOD reveals the tricks porn companies use to seduce men and keep them coming back for more. It also discloses exactly how women act in porn and exactly why it turns men on so much.

You will also learn why what you are currently doing is not working, and how your man sees it through his eyes. It’s a great eye opener as your actions may not convey what you are trying to tell him.

There is also a section in this program about how to get what you want. And how to supercharge your intimacy in your relationship, and bring him closer (the science behind that is in the program).

So without further adieu:

Note: If you want to go straight to the pros and cons and my verdict, then keep scrolling down in the review. The next section covers what you actually get in the program.

Language of Desire - Pack
Although there are packs and boxes shown here, the Language Of Desire is a digital download only.

What’s In Each Module In The Program

Module One: Introduction

Module Two: Become a Sexual Superwoman

  •     Learn to dump your fear over the “slut” label
  •     Determine your sexual boundaries
  •     Discover your growl-inducing Madonna Moan

Module Three: Loving Man’s Best Friend (hint: it’s not his dog)

  •     Understand the secrets of his sex drive
  •     Learn why his penis is so important to him
  •     Rethink pornography (this one is controversial!)
  •     Learn The Porn Destroyer

Module Four: Brain Chemistry and Sex

  •     Explore how desire and sex work with our primitive brain
  •     Using the potent Cuddle Hormone technique
  •     Have fun with Pavlov’s Erection technique
  •     Learn the power of Sexual Singularity

Module Five: Create an Erotic Action Movie

  •     Make him the star of your own sexy movie script
  •     Writing your script step by step
  •     Learn a variety of ways to share your movie with him

Module Six: Desire Intensifiers

  •     Masterfully crank up the sexual heat
  •     Make him pant with desire with the Tease Intensifier
  •     Learn a blow job to blow his mind with the Oral Intensifier
  •     Snap “him” to attention with Verbal Viagra

Module Seven: For the Single Ladies

  •     Use dirty talk effectively when dating
  •     Get him to commit with the Monogamous Male Maximizer
  •     How to go from Friend-Zone to Fantasy Girl

Module Eight: Getting Your Fantasies Met

  •     Planting desire seeds
  •     Have dirty fun with The Lust Mirror technique
  •     Practically read his mind using Erotic Telepathy
  •     Make him your hero with the Romance Rotator
  •     Explore your kinky side with 50 Shades of Experimenting

Module Nine: When “Sex” Isn’t Possible

  •     Getting around life’s sexual obstacle course
  •     Learn how to be dirty from a distance
  •     Use the No Touch Lay to keep things hot
  •     Learn about the Invisible Chastity Belt (it’s more fun than it sounds)

Module Ten: Master Class

  •     What if he’s a cold fish
  •     Overcome objections
  •     Fine-tune your technique
  •     Plan out your dirty deeds

Language Of Desire Bonus Content

Silent Seduction

Summary

This 12 page text guide is the body language accompaniment to the Language Of Desire program. The guide includes how to use your body to send signals straight to his subconscious brain, and how to amp up attraction and his attention when your out in a social group together. Caters for both single and those in a relationship.

My Opinion

Some good insights, some general knowledge, and plenty of techniques. This quick read is at the very least a good reminder of how to subtly get the message across and keep his attention squarely fixed on you.The techniques are kind of blunt so discretion is advised while practising them in public. Overall a good addition as there is something here for every woman.

Good Girl's Guide to Texting Dirty

Summary

This 15 page text guide includes 200 text messages to help you get over your creative block when it comes to getting things started with your man. The texts involve one liners, all the way through to intimate stories and private conversations over text. There are some introductory information here as well if your wondering which type of message you should pick.

My Opinion

A lot of templated text messages. This will help even the more subdued and shy get the message across. There are different types of messages including direct and indirect here, something for everyone. A great way for both of you to start the day.

Unstoppable Confidence with Michael Griswold

Summary

This 90 minute audio (with transcription) is an interview with the relationship coach Michael Griswold (interviewed by Michael Fiore.) It covers:

  • The one most desirable trait that men find in a woman (it isn’t what you think it is)
  • The two things (Michael G thinks) a woman needs to do to get a man to fall in love with her
  • The three types of women Michael sees when doing his relationship work

… Along with many other areas of interest

My opinion

This 90 minute conversation includes some new insights and different ways of looking at different relationship dynamics. It is quite casual (almost like a conversation) and a lot is covered. This isn’t going to suit everyone. The particular information along with how it is delivered isn’t for everyone, but it’s good to listen to get a difference in opinion.

It’s important to note that Michael G is covering information that is different from the main program, and this bonus doesn’t add to LOD, it gives a different perspective.

The Language Of Desire Program – What you will learn:

  • The powerful little secret that will make your man addicted to you and re-energize the intimacy in your marriage
  • How to protect your relationship and create a bond so strong other women won't be able to make your man stray
  • What you can do to get his erection on a string for you to control
  • The phrase you can use to start a open and honest conversation with him, if he’s always telling you what he's really thinking
  • What you can text to him right now that will have him thinking about you all day and very excited to see you when you get home
  • One thing men hate about relationships with particular women, and how you can avoid it
  • How you can get and keep his attention while he is engrossed in something else
  • How to build a portfolio of experiences he loves in your relationship that will bond you two forever
  • How to subtly change your relationship from more like roommates to lovers again
  • How to grow your connection and his confidence in your relationship
  • Why men hate nagging, how to identify it and a simple technique to fix it
  • Why your man might be sexually repressed and how you can help him get in touch with his inner stag – binding him to you forever
  • The 6 fantasy themes and how to identify how your man fantasies about sex when your not around
  • How to make your man become more attentive and romantic
  • Why your sex life isn’t what it used to be, and how to get it back on track
  • How you can turn a mundane situation, into an intimate one
  • How to keep him thinking about you, even when he’s hundreds of miles away
  • The best way to use your past intimate experiences, to create new future experiences
  • What to do when he doesn’t respond to your advances the way he used to
  • The vital elements of planning your intimate time with your man
  • And quite a bit more!

Felicity Keith is the author of the Language Of Desire

A Quick Note on ‘Who is Felicity Keith?’

The LanguageOfDesire.com says that Felicity Keith is a regular woman who, after a relationship shock has taken the time to learn about relationships, men and women and what they want.

Although I haven’t spoken to Felicity directly, she reads the audio version of the program. She also uses email to ‘check in’ after you get the program to see how you are doing and deliver a few more pointers.

PROS and CONS

PROS

Real

This program is Felicity’s experience. While going through the program, she will drop in stories or bits and pieces about her life which I think make the program more relatable.

It’s easy to tell from the program that she is quite experienced in this area, and has knowledge. Because of this, she breaks things down really well and makes them quite easys to understand and follow. She doesn’t hold back either, it’s quite a comprehensive program.

Plenty of done for you

There are tasks that you need to do in this  program, but as far as wanting to get started straight away there is plenty templates and done-for-you samples that you can use to get started.

You could literally be texting or telling him something you learned 20 minutes after getting your copy. As a man, these techniques would work on me. So you will be sure to get a rise out of him.

Plenty of exercises

They will take work. About 2 weeks i reckon

They will stretch your comfort zone in a good way. Even if you just work on one or two of them to begin with.

CONS

Audio

I like having the audio program to listen to in the car and when I can't read. But the quality is poor. It sounds like Felicity (who also reads the program) is on the other end of a phone line. Also the audio files aren’t ordered when you download it. So if you want to listen to the whole thing in order, you will need to organize it yourself before putting it in your car.

Layout

The program comes in a PDF. But there isn’t much logical flow, and i found myself getting confused at which point i was in the program. Especially at the start. Even when following the pdf i felt a little lost. The modules seem to be independent, which is good, but when first going through it i didn’t like it.

Explicit Content

This program is not for the easily offended or women who simply don’t want to go into depth about sex and changing how you look at your relationship in the bedroom.

The program centres itself around sex. The program delves into some of the rauncher aspects of life. This may be an issue for some readers. The program is quite explicit in it’s language. Felicity doesn’t hold back in what to say and do. Some of the ideas and techniques might also be a bit much for some.

Overall (My Opinion)

Felicity, is well versed and you can tell her experience when going through the program. She answers the most common questions in FAQ sections along the way. There is also a customer support email that you can use to ask any questions you might have. Felicity talks about comments, although i cannot see where to leave any (i assume email customer support)

There is plenty of ideas, techniques, tips, stories and samples in this program. In this way it is a good way to get started. It is also a good way to get into things.

What some people may not like is that it does cover a lot of sexual stuff. You may not be comfortable with some of the stuff (some would be weird for me), but the program does give a wide selection, there will be a few things here that you will want to try.

There is a good mix between theory and action here. You can understand why it works and there are some examples and guides on what to do next. Step by step.

This program isn’t going to fix all your problems. But there is a lot of tools in here to help a intimacy starved relationship.

Mr Recommendation (after having gone through the program)

Something important to note is that the Language Of Desire is mostly about meeting his needs. There is a section in the program about getting your needs met. But i think generally, The theory i think behind it is, if you make him happy, he will make you happy.

So, if your after something that is focused on making you happy then there could be two things.. Either this isn’t the program for you, or you will have to be patient and see what your man does after you follow the program.

This program will educate you to become a better partner, and lover. While reading and listening, there were at least a few points that I did not know, or had misconceptions about particular things that LOD helped me identify.

Overall i do recommend this program. I would think that after this program the quality of your relationship will improve.

I think it’s likely that you will take at least 2-3 things away from it and use them on your man. He will be happily surprised and going through the program and understanding what he wants will lead your relationship with him on a new trajectory.

You can get your copy here

And if you have any further questions about the program, you can ask them here and I will get back to you.

Thanks for reading my Language Of Desire Review.

“My Husband Wants a Divorce but Still Sleeps With Me…” – The PROS and CONS of Sex with Undecided Husbands

Husband sleeping while wife wonders what she should do when he has asked for divorce but still keeps sleeping with her

Husband sleeping while wife wonders what she should do when he has asked for divorce but still keeps sleeping with her

HAS YOUR HUSBAND ASKED YOU for a divorce but says that he will miss you and doesn’t want to give you up? Does he keep sending you mixed signals? Does he go as far as wanting to make love with you? You are frustrated and very confused.

Are you wondering ‘What does he really want?’ Because when you decide to divorce your spouse, aren’t you letting them go in every sense of the word?

Contrary to what you may think, many spouses have reported continuing having sex with their soon to be ex-spouses for a variety of reasons. After all, sex with your almost sex is familiar, probably comforting and the absurdity and the naughtiness makes it all too hot.

Why your soon to be ex-husband wants to have sex with you

  • Your husband could be finding sex with you familiar and convenient, even though you are separated. He knows what he is getting. He may not be ready to date, but he still gets his needs met in the comfort of your home.
  • Being intimate could be part of the grieving process for him: the funeral sex. Sex at this stage could really be a way for him to grieve, heal and say goodbye to you.
  • Again, it could be because of the looming divorce, things are much nicer and calmer. There is no fighting, and the pressure is off. You have gotten some me-time, you are taking care of yourself and you have probably started working out. You're looking much better than you have looked in a long time and he has noticed. He is attracted to you all over again.
  • It could also be that your husband is conflicted about the looming divorce. This can especially be the case when he sees how much you are hurting. Having sex with you could be his way of comforting you.
  • Your husband could be finding it hard to turn off his feelings for you. Just because he wants to divorce you does not necessarily mean that he no longer loves you or that he doesn’t wish that things were different. He is probably only dissatisfied with the marriage he has with you at present, but he does not know how to fix things. Feelings do not just disappear just because the marriage is in trouble.

My Husband Wants a Divorce but Still Sleeps With Me - Women thinking what to do, weighing up pros and cons

Sex: To have it or not

The little window of time between the separation and divorce is very significant; a lot of important things can happen. It is also when a definite decision will be made to either save or kill the marriage. Many times, you will be willing to do whatever you need to do to keep your family together: including having sex with your spouse.

This is completely honorable considering how much you desire to save your marriage. However, it is highly advisable that you should have sex with your eyes wide open (no pun intended).

Why you should make love with your separated husband

Many times, a marriage could be in trouble despite the fact that the spouses love each other. The love is there, but the ability to make a healthy and fulfilling marriage is not.

Your husband may therefore still have loving feelings towards you only that he does not know how to make your marriage more fulfilling. If you perceive this to the case, then, by all means, go ahead and sleep with your husband. During sex, oxytocin is produced. Oxytocin is also produced during touching and kissing with the highest amounts being released during orgasm.

Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that plays a significant role in bonding spouses together. Having sex may, therefore, set both of you on a journey back to closeness.

Of course, sex alone will not fix your marriage since there is something that is keeping the feelings between the two of you from being sufficient to make your husband stay. You must, therefore, work through whatever the issues might be:

  • A conflict that keeps cropping up
  • Lack of intimacy and therefore drifting apart
  • Communication breakdown
  • Money issues

As you work through your problems, sex will help your feelings to once again take the center stage, followed by the commitment to your marriage.

The big question is, is your husband honest when he says that he still loves you?

Reasons to not have sex with your separated husband

Do you want to save your marriage or just let go? Do you still love your partner? Is your marriage worth saving? Is there any chance of saving your marriage? Only you can answer these questions.

If you have no desire to save your marriage, having sex with your husband is probably a bad idea. Having sex with your husband will not only slow down your healing process but severely compromise your efforts to move on.

Having sex with your husband is also inadvisable if he is involved with another person sexually. Even if you saved this marriage, you would have given your husband the message that you are willing to be intimate with him even when you know he is concurrently having sexual relations with someone else. Is this the message you want to send?

Also, it is almost impossible to compete with an illicit lover. Illicit love is very exciting: the exaggeration of the emotions and the thrill of doing something forbidden. You will find it hard to match up to your husband’s illicit sex when you are emotionally drained by your impending divorce.

If your husband has truly decided to end your marriage, the bonding and closeness that sex brings might set you up for disappointment. If he insists on moving on, having sex with him will set you up for more misery by creating within yourself false hope.

Final thoughts

So, what do we say about having sex with your husband even after he has asked for you for a divorce? The decision is yours.

Just a small word of caution, though. Do not allow sex with your partner to go on for too long if he is not deciding to get back together with you. You will be stuck in ‘Limbo land,' and it won’t be good for you.

Also, bear in mind that there is no such thing as meaningless sex with someone whom you still have feelings for. And you can never call it casual when you are embroiled in the inherent misery of a looming divorce.

Many women have experienced the pain and confusion that inevitably accompanies sex with a soon to be ex. If it is clear you are headed for a divorce, put on the breaks.

Give yourself and your marriage some space. You have many decisions to make and negotiations to settle. You need to navigate the divorce with a clear mind. Love yourself enough to allow yourself time and distance to move on.

Thanks for reading. If you were asking ‘my husband wants a divorce but still sleeps with me' I hope this has gone some way to answering your questions.

If you have a question, query or comment, you can get in contact with me here

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His Secret Obsession Review – My Honest Opinion Including 3 PROS and 3 CONS

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NOT UNDERSTANDING WHAT MEN ARE DOING AND WHY, can leave you very frustrated…. Sometimes enough to give up on men altogether!

But when you do understand him, and you understand him enough to start influencing his behavior, for the betterment of you, him and your relationship… That’s where being in a relationship really comes into its own. And in comes the fun and joy of sharing your life with someone.

The His Secret Obsession program attempts to bridge women and men together, through education of his behavior and motivations.

His Secret Obsession - Files downloaded on computer
The His Secret Obsession files downloaded onto my computer

What is it in one sentence?

This is a guide to help women be in control of their relationships with men. By working with men's primal drives and instincts rather than against them.

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Although the images above are of physical products, his secret obsession is available through digital download only.

His Secret Obsession (HSO) Summary

The course is mostly text and audio versions of that text. There are 2 extras which are video.

Main course (&Bonuses):

  • Text – Yes
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – No

Extras

  • Text – Yes
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – Yes

Who is HSO for?

  • Who is it for
  • Married
  • Engaged
  • Dating
  • Single

This program is aimed at women who have a relationship with a man or at least have a potential suitor. However, single women will find the theory in this program very useful for future relationships.

What is it all about? (Overview)

Do you feel confused sometimes at the actions of men (or a particular man)?

Do you wonder why they seem to make the choices that they make and why do they care so much about some things but not about others?

If so, this program can really help. It covers men's motives for life and how as a woman, you can use them to your advantage, and to help make a better relationship

He as the ‘hero’, and you in control.

It breaks down his primary primal drive. The one that comes before all the rest. The fact that he needs to feel as though he is a hero…

This program shows you how to make him the hero, so you get what you want.

The best part is that the concept is simple and easy to understand. That’s the real beauty of it. It isn’t all basic exercises that a lot of programs like this can be, there is good quality new information available.

It’s straight to the point, with quite a few examples and analogies which help explain the different points.

For those people who really want to know those 12 words, (from the video) I won't reveal them here, but what they are and why they worked in that situation is fully explained in detail

There are also example phrases that can be used, but the author really teaches you how to fish, rather than just tossing you one. You may need to read or listen to the content a few times in my opinion, to get your head around it. You will also need to practice a little bit to get the hang of it.

 

The main program (His Secret Obsession) is broken up into two main parts

  1. How the Hero Instinct Works (The Theory)
  2. How to Use the Signals (The Practical)

The practical section in the program is still theory-laden, but does give enough to get you started on how to use the theory to help your relationships with your man or men in general

I think that this is a key pro, is that this program can help anyone who is having relationships with men. Whether it be personal relationships, or with men at work, in a social circle or whenever.

Part 2 has real-life applications and examples. These are generally the phenomena found in our psychology that is what helps form relationships. James (the author) identifies it and shows you how it works and how you can put it to work for yourself.

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

What you will learn

  • How every man sees himself and how you fit into that vision
  • The three things every man craves, and how they explain all of his actions
  • The three phases of a man's life and how to tell if he is ready to settle down or not (and you can do if he says he isn’t when he actually could be)
  • How to know if your man is happy in your relationship and how to increase his participation in it
  • How to ‘train’ a man to get him to do more of what you want
  • How to spark a mans interest
  • Questions you can ask him that will have him lavishing more attention on you
  • How to open your man up to you for better communication and connection in your relationship
  • How to get him out of his comfort zone
  • How he wants you to ask him for assistance – it will help grow your relationship

What’s in it

His Secret Obsession PDF and Audio Program

A 184 page eBook

Modules:

  • The Secret to Unlocking the Hero Instinct
  • Part 1: How the Hero Instinct Works
  • Module 1: The Secret Longing of Every Man
  • Module 2: The Unspoken Desire He’ll Never Admit
  • Module 3: Make Him See the Light
  • Module 4: The Fascination Trigger
  • Module 5: Why Men Say, “I’m just not ready”
  • Module 6: How Your Desires Can Fascinate Him
  • Module 7: The Secret Currency of Happy Relationships
  • Module 8: Rocket Fuel: How to Build Relationship Momentum Fast
  • Module 9: How to become His Secret Obsession
  • Module 10: Get Deeper Intimacy by Revealing More
  • Module 11: Three Things That Can Go Wrong (and how to fix them)
  • Part II: How to Use the Signals
  • Module 12: “The Private Island” Signal
  • Module 13: The “X-ray Question”
  • Module 14: The Glimpse Phrase
  • Module 15: The Secret “Currency” Of Happy Relationships
  • Module 16: The “I Owe You” Signal
  • Module 17: The “Damsel in Distress” Signal
  • One More Thing…
  • Text Message Formulas – Extra Training

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

Bonuses

Text Message Formulas

Overview:

This bonus is about how to generate interest when you're not around. How you can use texting along with your new knowledge about the male mind to get his attention (among other things).

My thoughts:

This isn’t just a massive list of texts you can use to start conversations. More like some sample text messages along with why they work. There’s also a simple formula you can follow to help when first starting. You may need some practice at this.

What’s in it:

  • Why Texting?
  • How “Curiosity Phrases” Can Keep Him Engaged
  • How to Create Curiosity Triggers When You’re Apart
  • Texting Your Life Story

7 Day Quick Start Action Guide

15 Pages

Overview:

The entire HSO course has a lot of information in it, it can seem like a whirlwind when you first start reading. This quick start guide will help you identify where you are at (there is a quiz in there to help) and give you some simple steps to focus. The ideas are to help build your confidence and show you some results.

My thoughts:

A simple to follow 7-day guide and a good way to start implementing the knowledge in the program.

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

Extras

(The following extras are available at an extra cost to the program)

Endless Honeymoon

87 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Is your current relationship feeling a little… stale? Has the honeymoon well untruly warn off? Does your man seem to want to spend time doing other things like playing games, or time with friends?

If this sounds like your relationship then this 87-page guide will take your hand, and lead you through desire in your relationship. Included is how to find your common desires, and how to make him feel like achieving those desires is his new most important goal (or latest game).

My thoughts:

There are a few good points including how to keep him interested in moving the relationship forward. Worth a read or a listen. Will make you with some of the relevant research and studies were done in the area of happiness and relationships.

What's in it:

  • Introduction: The elements of an endless honeymoon
  • Section 1: Make your wish lists
  • Section 2: How to get him addicted to making you happy
  • Section 3: The secrets of the endless honeymoon
  • Section 4: Making honeymoon mentality with reality
  • Section 5: Shortcut tips and tricks to making an endless honeymoon
  • Section 6: Making it work in the current phase of your relationship

Love(Attraction) Triggers

88 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

This guide centers around 9 ideas/techniques that you can use to help encourage his strong feelings toward you in your relationship. At first, it reads like a guide for the first 3 months of a relationship but these techniques can be used at any time in a relationship.

There is research, that you may have heard of, along with some that you likely haven’t. And it is all related to relationships. There are also good examples to follow, and bad ones to avoid.

My thoughts:

Some theory on what happens when two people first meet with a focus on psychology and decoding body language. There are also some different ways to look at particular concepts around meeting someone, including flirting and developing confidence.

  • Chapter 1: Signal interest
  • Chapter 2: Flirt
  • Chapter 3: Get your hearts pumping
  • Chapter 4: Engage in intimate self-disclosure
  • Chapter 5: Condition through association
  • Chapter 6: Trigger a ‘Yes’ mindset
  • Chapter 7: Make him work for you
  • Chapter 8: Thrive
  • Chapter 9: Develop a special type of confidence

The Reverse Attraction Technique

18 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Want to know how to get a guy to open up to you like an old friend? This guide will show you how to manipulate your own interest level to flip a switch that pulls guys toward you like a magnet.

My thoughts:

This concise guide will show you how he will talk himself into having feelings for you. It’s a bit of reverse psychology that may seem a little counter-intuitive. But as a man, I can tell you that it works.

The Fairytale Method

16 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Do you have short relationships with men? Burning bright but not for very long? This short guide gives you a technique to create deeper emotional bonds and identify where you may be going wrong.

My thoughts:

A quick guide to inviting your guy to have a relationship where he feels comfortable to share his emotions and generally open up.

Instant Authentic Connection

61 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Want a shortcut to a deep connection with a man? This guide explains how we create deep connections and how to ‘create windows of opportunity’ to create a longer lasting and more authentic connection with your partner.

My thoughts:

More about creating emotional bonds. Might be a little far-fetched or a bit hard to follow for some. Think of it as a little more ‘advanced’.

What’s in it:

  • Section 1: The two mindsets that make the difference
  • Section 2: Shortcuts to an authentic connection
  • Section 3: Enemies of authenticity

Get a Guy to Commit: A Method for Increasing Attraction While Setting Standards for Your Relationship

13 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

This short guide is to help you identify, set and enforce boundaries with your guy. This is very important in a lasting relationship and shouldn’t be skipped. It talks about when the best time to have these conversations is, and how to get your man to open up about what he really wants also.

My thoughts:

This guide is dedicated to those single women or those who are in a new relationship mostly. A few rules to follow when setting rules and boundaries for a new relationship.

The Win-Win Negotiation System

7 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Is there a lot of silent treatment, frustration, and disagreement in your relationship? This system contains a quick to use guide based off of a principle created by one of the most prominent social psychologists.

My thoughts:

A good rule for any negotiation. Personally, I hadn’t heard of this before. Requires some time so it’s more for the larger aspects of a relationship or something that has caused some angst between you and your man.

The Curiosity Effect

84 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Curiosity is something that we are exposed to all the time. It’s a hint of what something is about but not the full story. This guide shows you how you can use this trait to your advantage, in attracting his interest.

What’s in it:

  • Section 1: The power of curiosity
  • Section 2: The simple (yet powerful) rules of curiosity
  • Section 3: The first curiosity pattern – story
  • Section 4: The second curiosity pattern – intermittent rewards through games
  • Section 5: Win his approach with curiosity
  • Section 6: Know when to be curious about him
  • Section 7: Reverse the number one threat to long-term relationships
  • Conclusion: Own his curiosity, you will own his heart

My thoughts:

This guide is not as simple to follow as some of the other ones. The concept is sound but you may need a few listens and some practice to understand it fully after you have read/listened to this. You may also feel like a marketer when you are trying it out, which doesn’t feel natural.

Emotional Imprint Method

47 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Relationships involve growth and change. So how do you keep on top of that and prioritize your relationship above all else? This guide will show you how to find things that work in your relationship, and use them to help create a stronger bond.

My thoughts:

This is a pretty common sense guide to keeping a relationship fun. I didn’t really get any new nuggets of information here, but it’s always good to be reminded of the basics whilst in your car on the way to work.

Unlock Your Charisma

41 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Think good looks are the only thing that will turn a man’s head? The truth is that to turn heads and have an aura, you need some charisma. This guide covers how others create charisma and how you can create some for yourself too.

My thoughts:

Some will find this a little woo-woo. If you're turned off by visualizing, affirmations and positive thinking then you might want to skip this.

Why Men Pull Away

13 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Ever wondered if there was a way to influence his desire? This guide covers why men pull away (it’s sometimes biological and sometimes psychological) and what you need to know to successfully deal with the situation.

My thoughts:

A good insight from this short guide. Worth a listen.

Awakening Your Feminine Intuition

10 modules (Approx 90 Pages & Audio)

Overview:

Learn how to tap into your intuition at a moment's notice when facing a difficult and unique relationship scenario. Plus, you will feel far more confident about your relationship decisions. You will also learn how to tap into a deep well of creativity and insights that will dazzle any man you set your sights on.

My Thoughts:

This bonus is about trying to tap into ‘intuition' which is mostly about a concept in cognitive science referred to in Daniel Kanehman's book ‘thinking fast and slow'. I think some might find it a little out there also. It wasn't for me.

 The Irresistable Vibe

Overview:

Discover a simple technique you can use to shine with an irresistible vibe. Learn how fulfilling life can be when you’re blessed with true and enthusiastic connections with people everywhere you go.

My thoughts:

By now the course is starting to get some familiarity to it. The idea behind this one is a little more abstract than some of the other content also.  So some may feel like it's a bit out there to begin with.

The PROS and CONS of His Secret Obsession

PROS

Insights

This isn’t simply doing exercises or dreaming about ‘the way you want things to be'.

This program provides new insights that show the reasons behind why men do what they do and explain their actions.

Once this is fully understood then it’s easy to in effect, become an artist with it. Be able to get what you want while giving him what he wants. A win-win.

(As a man, when I read this and listened to it I found myself nodding my head in agreement. Although I hadn’t thought of my life like this before, I found it to deliver some honest truths that I didn’t even realize of myself.)

Easy to Follow

The analogies, stories, and examples are simple to understand and make clear the point being made. There’s no second-guessing or what if’s. The program is clear.

CONS

No video

In the extras part, there is some video but the main part of the course doesn’t have a video section. If you find video the best way to learn (over text and audio) then there isn’t an option for you.

The author is a bit rude sometimes

Although the content is good, there are parts in this course which I felt treat the reader like a fool. In particular one section where ‘some readers just won’t get this part’… I didn’t like.

Price of extras

I thought the price of the extras was a little bit too expensive. They are good but they aren’t that good. (Note – if you want the extras for less money after you purchase the main program, you can reject them twice before being offered a more favorable price.)

What I think of HSO

Firstly I wasn't sure exactly what to expect after watching the video. If you are in the same boat as I was then here is what to expect

  1. There is plenty of theory in this. Plenty of ideas, research and new insights into your future relationships with men.
  2. The program is very polished and has been through the theory. It’s easy to follow and with the audio program, you can listen to it a few times to have it really sink into your head.
  3. I thought it was enjoyable, easy to follow and helpful. The best part though was the insight. Being able to classify men by one or two simple statements (as their schema) is important.
  4. The extras also compliment the main course which gives you a few more tools to use.

As a man, as soon as I started reading about ‘the hero instinct’ i could see it in my life. I thought about my actions and my priorities in life, and they do revolve around this drive. In a sentence, me trying to prove my worth, and me being drawn to things around the ideas of heroes and striving towards my goals.

I could also see how my wife was fitting into this. Where I felt like she was helping me, and where I felt there was friction.

After going through the program, I think that it’s important to get your head around this concept if you have or are planning to have a serious, long-term relationship with a man.

Understanding how he works, what his motivations are and what he needs to be happy (although he probably doesn't understand it himself) is a massive leap forward towards having better relationships with men.

This program is worth the price of a date, and I recommend it. You can get your copy here.

 

Thanks for reading my His Secret Obsession review. If you have any questions you'd like to ask me or anything else about the program, you can contact me here.

Text the Romance Back Review – The PROS and CONS

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NOTE: Below is my review of Text the Romance Back by Michael Fiore. I have tried many different relationship programs and I bring some of that experience to this review also. You can see some of my other reviews here. This article contains affiliate links.

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IT'S NOT EASY WHEN we feel like we are missing something when it comes to the relationships in our lives..

Because we never really get sat down and talked to about relationships, even though they are one of the most important parts of our lives

So it can seem like divine intervention when someone tells us they can resolve the relationship issues we are facing

Stuff like reconnecting with our partner, bringing the romance back and even getting the state of our relationship back to when we first met our partner

After watching the video on texttheromanceback.com it's right to feel a little cautious

You are probably asking ‘Who is Michael Fiore and how does he propose to get the romance back in my relationship?'

And have other questions like…

  • What exactly do i get?
  • What happens after you go through the program?
  • What are the pros and cons?
  • What does someone who has been through the program actually think of it?

If so, then this review is written to answer those and other questions. So without any further stalling…

The Theory Behind Text the Romance Back (TRB) (How it Works)

You may not realize that your communication with your partner is not always… letting itself to romance and passion

It happens slowly but we do take each other for granted and our communication reflects that

We might only talk to our partners and tell them i need to go to the shops after work to get bread, do you want anything’ type texts, calls, emails, instant messangers

And although it doesn’t sound like much, it starts to erode your relationship

Enter TRB

It’s very much like a breakdown of ‘how to flirt’ and packaged for people in relationships who may have lost the art. Or more correctly, life got in the way and keeps getting in the way.

So when you talked it was to make each other feel good. Not so much trying to do the chores or run errands or do all the ‘necessary things’

This program is a nice ‘relationship reset button', to take you back to when you first met and fell in love. And you didn’t depend on each other, instead you thought about each other but didn’t need each other

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Text the romance back (in summary)

  • Text – Yes (PDF and online membership portal)
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – No (available in extras)

Bonuses

  • I like myself worksheet
  • FAQ
  • Facebook message secrets

Important Notes

The program is the same for men and women.

Wbo is it for?

It’s really for anyone aged 25+. More particularly those in a relationship but not necessarily. The only time i'd say that that isn't applicable is if your relationship is in more serious trouble. If you don't think that your man will answer texts from you then TRB won't help and it's time to get some more serious help.

What is it in one sentence

Text message techniques to bring back the love, romance, and connection back into your life.

What’s it All About (a Plain English Summary)

Text the Romance Back (TRB) is a system based around 8 different text message techniques.

The system runs for 4 weeks where you have 2 different techniques for texting every week.

The texts start tentatively and simply get his attention, and work their way up from there. (or down depending on how you look at it)

In fact the first week of texting techniques is stuff you can use with your friends and work colleagues if you simply changed words like ‘life’ to ‘team’ or ‘business’

You do also get access to quite a few ‘done for you’ text messages which helps get you started as well as helps you know what to do so u can come up with your own

In fact most of the program is the theory behind why the messages work, when they are best used and what to do if you don’t get a response.

At the start of the program there are 6 core concepts that detail more general love and life principles. Tenants that will help you if you need some guidance with love and relationships overall.

There’s also a few points on what to do if you don’t text (you prefer email, instant messenger or in person) and how the messages can still work for you.

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Here is Michael Fiore on the Rachel Ray show. You can click the image to see the video

A few points on Michael Fiore

If you’ve never heard of him before then… your like most people. He has appeared on some television shows and other mainstream media but he’s not Oprah either.

I guess the thing that stands out the most about him is that he brings his personality to what he does. And i can understand how some people may get turned off by the side tangent stories, along with the over the top detail in his descriptions and the faster-than-normal rate at which he talks.

Personally i like the personality that he brings… generally.

The stories are relevant and it does make the TRB feel more personal than other products/books I have gone through. Although sometimes the side tangents can get distracting.

Although whether you like him or not, his insights are good and are worth listening to. I don’t think there is any doubt that Michael knows what he is talking about when it comes to relationships.

Pros:

Simple to follow

I don’t say this lightly. But the program is easy to follow. It’s clear what the ideas are, the actions that you take are also clear and spelled out (literally in case of the ‘done for you texts’).

I like the fact that it’s organised well, that there is a plan to follow and it is simple to follow

Easy to read

I didn’t find this program talking to me about concepts that were over my head or hard to understand.. In fact it was easy to read and although i went through the entire program before i sent a text, then

Taking action is simple

Seeing as there are text messages you can copy and paste taking action is so simple. After you have sent a few of the ones on there then you can start making your own. Mike tells you how to come up with your own, and what will and wont work.

Cons:

Hard to download everything

It’s easy to download the book, but getting the audios was a bit of a pain. Finding them all and downloading them one at a time, then unzipping them. It’s a pain

Also finding some of the bonuses was a bit of a pain. You need to find them in the members section in the actual book. So if you aren’t reading it online then you need to look for them. Just for the record:

The ‘I like myself game’ worksheet is in the core concepts section

Audio is a little hard to follow:

Michael himself reads the audio version, which is great .It’s always better when the author reads the audio version as you can get a different insight that doesn’t come when an actor does it.

The audio version of the program is read by Michael Fiore and is a bit too fast. The words come thick and fast. However if you’ve already read it or you listen to it a couple of times you do get a better picture of what he is getting at.

Also you will need the text version to copy the texts from.

Your not going to get to the bottom of your more serious relationship problems

Text the Romance Back is a great way to initiate communication with your partner. But it's not therapy or any serious kind of relationship fix. If you can't talk to each other, this isn't going to help.

Bonuses:

Audio program:

The TRB program, read by Michael Fiore as mentioned above.

I like myself worksheet:

A quick guide/technique to improve your self esteem. I like it because although it is a little ‘cheesy', it's quick, comprehensive, and easy to do. It also has a use in the TRB program to help you find content for your text messages.

Crib sheet (done for you texts/messages):

A sheet of done for you text messages. A great place to start. Don't be afraid to simply write these down as you see them and send.

Not only do they help you start, but writing them out yourself gives you the feel for how to write more personalized messages in future.

TRB FAQ:

This is simply previous customers questions answered. Worth a browse. You do get access to a customer service email when you get into the members area of TRB, so you can ask any questions that aren't answered here.

Facebook Romance Secrets:

I couldn't find this bonus inside the program. I am not exactly sure how to access it.

Extras:

How to kiss a man and make him fall in love

Overview:

Kissing often gets overlooked in the later stages of a relationship, but it is still an important way to connect with your partner. In fact it’s one way you can communicate if some of the other ways you are talking are not working so well. There is three main sections to this extra report.

Why kissing is important (it’s history and place in human culture)

The steps of a great kiss (a kiss broken down into 8 steps)

Kissing techniques – (like a kissing playbook)

My thoughts:

There’s quite a bit of content in here for a short report, and some may like the fact that there will be some trial and error with this. There aren’t any pictures/video which in this case is a good and bad thing.

At the very least you will take away a couple of ideas for use in your relationship. There are plenty of ideas in this guide. The 8 steps also provides a platform for more ways to ‘change things up’ and maybe even control the physical side of your relationship better.

There are also some simple truths here, but no shocking suprises.

You will learn:

  • Why kissing is so important (it’s in our genes),
  • What happens to a man when he gets kissed ‘the right way
  • The theory behind kissing
  • Is finding a good kisser the key to finding a great guy? The answer will surprise you
  • Secrets around kissing
  • Ideas around kissing.

My Text the Romance Back Conclusion:

This program is not a fixall for your relationship. It isn’t going to be a magic pill that will fix everything. However, what it does do is give you a framework to build your relationship back up again. Back to when you were thinking of each other during the day, and showing more appreciation and affection for each other.

It’s a simple way to re engage your partner on a romantic and passionate level. I think it’s worth the price and that is why i am happy to recommend it.

You can get your copy here

Iif you want to ask me a question you can do so here.