Text the Romance Back Review – The PROS and CONS

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NOTE: Below is my review of Text the Romance Back by Michael Fiore. I have tried many different relationship programs and I bring some of that experience to this review also. You can see some of my other reviews here. This article contains affiliate links.

Text the Romance Back screenshot on my computer

IT'S NOT EASY WHEN we feel like we are missing something when it comes to the relationships in our lives..

Because we never really get sat down and talked to about relationships, even though they are one of the most important parts of our lives

So it can seem like divine intervention when someone tells us they can resolve the relationship issues we are facing

Stuff like reconnecting with our partner, bringing the romance back and even getting the state of our relationship back to when we first met our partner

After watching the video on texttheromanceback.com it's right to feel a little cautious

You are probably asking ‘Who is Michael Fiore and how does he propose to get the romance back in my relationship?'

And have other questions like…

  • What exactly do i get?
  • What happens after you go through the program?
  • What are the pros and cons?
  • What does someone who has been through the program actually think of it?

If so, then this review is written to answer those and other questions. So without any further stalling…

The Theory Behind Text the Romance Back (TRB) (How it Works)

You may not realize that your communication with your partner is not always… letting itself to romance and passion

It happens slowly but we do take each other for granted and our communication reflects that

We might only talk to our partners and tell them i need to go to the shops after work to get bread, do you want anything’ type texts, calls, emails, instant messangers

And although it doesn’t sound like much, it starts to erode your relationship

Enter TRB

It’s very much like a breakdown of ‘how to flirt’ and packaged for people in relationships who may have lost the art. Or more correctly, life got in the way and keeps getting in the way.

So when you talked it was to make each other feel good. Not so much trying to do the chores or run errands or do all the ‘necessary things’

This program is a nice ‘relationship reset button', to take you back to when you first met and fell in love. And you didn’t depend on each other, instead you thought about each other but didn’t need each other

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Text the romance back (in summary)

  • Text – Yes (PDF and online membership portal)
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – No (available in extras)

Bonuses

  • I like myself worksheet
  • FAQ
  • Facebook message secrets

Important Notes

The program is the same for men and women.

Wbo is it for?

It’s really for anyone aged 25+. More particularly those in a relationship but not necessarily. The only time i'd say that that isn't applicable is if your relationship is in more serious trouble. If you don't think that your man will answer texts from you then TRB won't help and it's time to get some more serious help.

What is it in one sentence

Text message techniques to bring back the love, romance, and connection back into your life.

What’s it All About (a Plain English Summary)

Text the Romance Back (TRB) is a system based around 8 different text message techniques.

The system runs for 4 weeks where you have 2 different techniques for texting every week.

The texts start tentatively and simply get his attention, and work their way up from there. (or down depending on how you look at it)

In fact the first week of texting techniques is stuff you can use with your friends and work colleagues if you simply changed words like ‘life’ to ‘team’ or ‘business’

You do also get access to quite a few ‘done for you’ text messages which helps get you started as well as helps you know what to do so u can come up with your own

In fact most of the program is the theory behind why the messages work, when they are best used and what to do if you don’t get a response.

At the start of the program there are 6 core concepts that detail more general love and life principles. Tenants that will help you if you need some guidance with love and relationships overall.

There’s also a few points on what to do if you don’t text (you prefer email, instant messenger or in person) and how the messages can still work for you.

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Here is Michael Fiore on the Rachel Ray show. You can click the image to see the video

A few points on Michael Fiore

If you’ve never heard of him before then… your like most people. He has appeared on some television shows and other mainstream media but he’s not Oprah either.

I guess the thing that stands out the most about him is that he brings his personality to what he does. And i can understand how some people may get turned off by the side tangent stories, along with the over the top detail in his descriptions and the faster-than-normal rate at which he talks.

Personally i like the personality that he brings… generally.

The stories are relevant and it does make the TRB feel more personal than other products/books I have gone through. Although sometimes the side tangents can get distracting.

Although whether you like him or not, his insights are good and are worth listening to. I don’t think there is any doubt that Michael knows what he is talking about when it comes to relationships.

Pros:

Simple to follow

I don’t say this lightly. But the program is easy to follow. It’s clear what the ideas are, the actions that you take are also clear and spelled out (literally in case of the ‘done for you texts’).

I like the fact that it’s organised well, that there is a plan to follow and it is simple to follow

Easy to read

I didn’t find this program talking to me about concepts that were over my head or hard to understand.. In fact it was easy to read and although i went through the entire program before i sent a text, then

Taking action is simple

Seeing as there are text messages you can copy and paste taking action is so simple. After you have sent a few of the ones on there then you can start making your own. Mike tells you how to come up with your own, and what will and wont work.

Cons:

Hard to download everything

It’s easy to download the book, but getting the audios was a bit of a pain. Finding them all and downloading them one at a time, then unzipping them. It’s a pain

Also finding some of the bonuses was a bit of a pain. You need to find them in the members section in the actual book. So if you aren’t reading it online then you need to look for them. Just for the record:

The ‘I like myself game’ worksheet is in the core concepts section

Audio is a little hard to follow:

Michael himself reads the audio version, which is great .It’s always better when the author reads the audio version as you can get a different insight that doesn’t come when an actor does it.

The audio version of the program is read by Michael Fiore and is a bit too fast. The words come thick and fast. However if you’ve already read it or you listen to it a couple of times you do get a better picture of what he is getting at.

Also you will need the text version to copy the texts from.

Your not going to get to the bottom of your more serious relationship problems

Text the Romance Back is a great way to initiate communication with your partner. But it's not therapy or any serious kind of relationship fix. If you can't talk to each other, this isn't going to help.

Bonuses:

Audio program:

The TRB program, read by Michael Fiore as mentioned above.

I like myself worksheet:

A quick guide/technique to improve your self esteem. I like it because although it is a little ‘cheesy', it's quick, comprehensive, and easy to do. It also has a use in the TRB program to help you find content for your text messages.

Crib sheet (done for you texts/messages):

A sheet of done for you text messages. A great place to start. Don't be afraid to simply write these down as you see them and send.

Not only do they help you start, but writing them out yourself gives you the feel for how to write more personalized messages in future.

TRB FAQ:

This is simply previous customers questions answered. Worth a browse. You do get access to a customer service email when you get into the members area of TRB, so you can ask any questions that aren't answered here.

Facebook Romance Secrets:

I couldn't find this bonus inside the program. I am not exactly sure how to access it.

Extras:

How to kiss a man and make him fall in love

Overview:

Kissing often gets overlooked in the later stages of a relationship, but it is still an important way to connect with your partner. In fact it’s one way you can communicate if some of the other ways you are talking are not working so well. There is three main sections to this extra report.

Why kissing is important (it’s history and place in human culture)

The steps of a great kiss (a kiss broken down into 8 steps)

Kissing techniques – (like a kissing playbook)

My thoughts:

There’s quite a bit of content in here for a short report, and some may like the fact that there will be some trial and error with this. There aren’t any pictures/video which in this case is a good and bad thing.

At the very least you will take away a couple of ideas for use in your relationship. There are plenty of ideas in this guide. The 8 steps also provides a platform for more ways to ‘change things up’ and maybe even control the physical side of your relationship better.

There are also some simple truths here, but no shocking suprises.

You will learn:

  • Why kissing is so important (it’s in our genes),
  • What happens to a man when he gets kissed ‘the right way
  • The theory behind kissing
  • Is finding a good kisser the key to finding a great guy? The answer will surprise you
  • Secrets around kissing
  • Ideas around kissing.

My Text the Romance Back Conclusion:

This program is not a fixall for your relationship. It isn’t going to be a magic pill that will fix everything. However, what it does do is give you a framework to build your relationship back up again. Back to when you were thinking of each other during the day, and showing more appreciation and affection for each other.

It’s a simple way to re engage your partner on a romantic and passionate level. I think it’s worth the price and that is why i am happy to recommend it.

You can get your copy here

Iif you want to ask me a question you can do so here.

“I Want to be a Mother so Badly… But He Wants to Wait” – What to Do When Your Maternal Drives are Determined but Your Partner Isn’t

'I want to be a mother so badly' - woman dreaming of having a baby

'I want to be a mother so badly-but he wants to wait' - woman dreaming of having a baby is thinking of baby and what to tell husband

Do you know research suggests that babies are designed to be adorable, so they appeal to our parental instincts? The cuteness forces us to give the babies the constant attention they need to survive.

MANY WOMEN HAVE BEEN where you are. When the longing to have a baby is overwhelming…

You already have visions of you mothering this incredible small human being. You constantly think of values you want to instill in your child, and of late you have found yourself googling ‘Private vs. Public schools.

But he says it’s not to be, not right now

He believes that something is holding the two of you back. Whether it be your careers, your relationship status, your living circumstances, your physical and emotional wellbeing, your financial situation… And even though it can be hell, it’s worth the wait.

To look at it from his side, it is true that once you have a child, your life is never the same again.

Parenthood has altered many people’s lives positively while others deeply regret welcoming new life into the world. In an interview, one parent readily admitted to being too much selfish to genuinely care for their child. They felt their child deserved better. Another dad indicated that he simply hated being a parent. Other parents confessed that if they had the opportunity to go back, they would take it.

I want to be a mother so badly - Older mother with her child

Parenthood is a profound and life-changing experience.

Parenthood is the world’s craziest roller coaster. There is, therefore, no reason to jump the gun on the process. As with any other superpower, the power of motherhood demands great responsibility. It is worth thinking about and dwelling on until you know for sure that when to have a baby is the right choice for the both of you, and your child.

A word of encouragement: You may think you are running out of time, but you are not. Research indicates that since 1970, the birthrate among mothers between 35 – 39 years has risen from 1% to 14.2%.

So how will you conquer that raging baby fever?

Before we continue, let us agree that motherhood is not like any other venture; like starting a new business or starting a new job. It is about creating a new person.

As much as there is no perfect time to have a child, it helps to stack the odds in your favor. Start by cultivating an amazing relationship with yourself, because you will need the whole of you to take care of your child. Do not settle at being a functional human being, be a thriving woman.

Stop shopping already

You are not being fair to yourself by perusing all those websites that are devoted to taunting you with the cuteness that is baby stuff: Etsy, Target Baby, Faith Baby, and Marshmallow Kisses. Stop taking strolls to the baby shops. And whatever you do, do not buy or accept (from well-meaning friends) any baby stuff.

Stop reading mommy blogs

Worse than looking at and buying beautiful baby things that you do not need is reading about mothers and their experiences. Soaking up their lives, how much they adore their babies and how they are, oh, so glad they have their children, will drive you up the wall.

While at it, avoid shows that transport you smack dab in the middle of other women’s pregnancies, deliveries and children. It is being cruel to yourself. After the episode, the mothers go on with their lives while you go back to yours. Only the difference is, they get to keep the baby while you fuel your baby fever.

If you cannot be around people’s babies without swallowing a lump in your throat, keep off.

Some people may tell you that hanging around babies and witnessing the running noses, the temper tantrums, and dirty diapers will cure you of baby fever. This could not be further from the truth. Ha! If you truly long to have a baby, these things will actually intensify your desire.

The last thought

It is important that when your child comes that they are supported by both parents. If this means waiting a little while, while you keep at your partner to change his mind then so be it. It isn't good for your relationship to not be in agreement on something as big as this. It will only send him away and make him feel more like a passenger than an active participant.

Meanwhile, work on being the best version of yourself so that you can give an innocent little human being the best shot at a great life.

If you are interested in knowing more about how to change your husband's mind, then you can see a short video on what makes men tick here. It's a great insight into men and why they do what they do. It can help in situations like this where you want to see his real point of view and what he's really thinking and feeling, but he won't come straight out and tell you (which, let's be honest, is most of the time).

Thanks for reading this article on ‘i want to be a mother so badly, but he wants to wait'. If you have a comment or query you can get in contact here.

5 Ways to Get Your Husband to Listen to You After You Make a Mistake

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Get your husband to listen to you after you make a mistake - husband ignoring wife

HAVE YOU DONE SOMETHING that has greatly upset your husband?

Did you share a private secret with someone else that your husband had trusted you to keep?

Or did you make a joke in front of your friends that you thought was funny, only to realize you greatly embarrassed your husband?

Perhaps you said something hurtful in the middle of an argument, and now you regret it.

As much as these situations are terrible, what is worse is allowing them to drag out. By not speaking about the issue, withdrawing from your husband, and digging in your heels, you will breed bitterness and end up hurting your marriage.

To propel your relationship after you have made a mistake, here are some tips on how to make your husband listen to you.

1. Timing is everything

Your husband does not multitask as well as you do (no man does). Initiating the conversation when he is watching TV is not a good idea. You will not get his full attention. You cannot compete with distractions. The place and time when you have the conversation are crucial. It might be tempting to call him and apologize over the phone, but calling him while at work or attempting to solve a conflict when he is busy is not going to end well.

Take yourselves out of your home: go to a restaurant or take a walk. Juggling an intense conversation with rushing to wipe your children’s spills just won’t work. If you cannot leave, wait until the children are asleep.

Is it a good time for your husband?

Also, find out whether it is a good time for your husband. Is he sleepy, exhausted or in a bad mood? These are not good times to talk. If he indicates that it is not a good time, respect that. Ask him when it would be better to talk. If talking needs to wait, set a realistic time and stick to it.

Tip: When it is finally time to have the conversation, sit beside your husband and not face to face. Sitting face to face could be intimidating, and the eye contact might be distracting during a tough conversation. It also increases the emotional distance between the two of you when there is already tension. Sitting beside your husband sets a more relaxed and comfortable environment for the conversation.

2. Start the conversation on the positive

This is going to be a tough conversation; indeed it is one we would rather not have. So it's tempting to postpone it. When a window to talk pops up you think maybe tomorrow, maybe next week.

But the longer you wait, the bigger the issue will become. And it can eventually start eating into your relationship.

Even when the look of hurt and disappointment in your husband’s eyes fills you with dread. And all words feel inadequate and you do not know how best to express your remorse, it is still important to have the conversation, and have it in a quick time frame. But there is a trick you can use to make starting the conversation easier…

A couple talking in their bed

So, why not start smart?

Before you even utter the first word, set yourself up for success. Starting the conversation on the positive can significantly change the atmosphere of the conversation.

If you are not sure exactly what to say, express how much you value your husband’s willingness to sit down and talk with you. Express your appreciation for how your husband handled things even when he was clearly hurt. True appreciation of what he has done for you is a great way to start a hard conversation with your man. (Men absolutely love being appreciated).

Appreciate other gestures of kindness from your husband during that difficult period. Also, highlight the attributes that make you confident that your relationship will thrive despite the conflict: his patience, wisdom and his forgiving nature.

Quick tip: Do not come with expectations of how your husband will react when you apologize. He may or may not grant the forgiveness right away. He may even need time to let your apology sink in. Let your husband know that you will respect his reaction to your apology, even if he needs the space to process your mistake.

3. Apologize: the right way

‘I am sorry you are feeling bad about what I did; but can we please just forget about it and move on?’ is not an apology.

Yes, there is such a thing as a lousy apology. Not being sincere in your apology is one of the worst mistakes that many of us make. Your husband knows you, and he will know you are merely apologizing to end the conflict. I mean, you did not marry a fool, did you?

Also, an apology that turns into an explanation of why you did what you did is horrible. I know you are trying to show you did not intend to hurt him, but it just comes off as an excuse.

‘I didn’t mean it,’ doesn’t really help. The fact of the matter is that your husband is hurting, whether you intended it or not. Attempting to justify your intention damages the attempted apology. There is a very thin line between an apology and a justification.

4. Admit you are wrong – without any excuses.

Owning your mistakes is hard, and it can be a painful process. However, the healing of your relationship relies on your ability to take full responsibility for your actions. It might take some time for your husband to heal if the mistake was too hurtful, but your willingness to be vulnerable and own your mistakes goes a long way towards your reconciliation.

  • Show true remorse for the pain that you have caused your husband.
  • Commit to not hurt your husband again by repeating the hurtful behavior.
  • Acknowledge the consequences of the action that created the pain.
  • Present a plan of action to make things right.

Quick tip: Refusing to admit you are wrong and seeking forgiveness from your husband will severely damage your marriage. Pride has no place in marriage. You can only strengthen your relationship by practicing vulnerability. And do not ever, dismiss your husband’s feelings of betrayal by telling him to get over it. This is lack of wisdom.

5. Do not dwell on conflict

After your husband forgives you, it is time to mend your relationship, draw closer and deepen your intimacy. Take the initiative to organize activities that you can enjoy together. And, do not make it a habit of repeating the mistake. After you make a mistake enough times, the apology becomes meaningless. The apology will also be rendered worthless if it is not accompanied by a change of behavior.

Most importantly, how do you treat your husband when he has hurt you? This is the true benchmark of how you can expect him to treat you when you make mistakes. If you are hard on him and demand for your pound of flesh when he errs, you will find it harder to expect compassion and understanding from him when the tables are turned.

Final thoughts

We all make mistakes, it's how we deal with those mistakes that matters. If you're still umming and ahhing about what, when and how to get your husband to listen then it's time to put the relationship first and lead by example.

If this sounds like a big step for your current situation then you can get some help.  I recommend educating yourself and getting a different perspective from an expert before trying to take your husband to any formal counseling.

It's also important to remember that you are not alone. Not only are there people to help you, but many women have gone through similar situations and come out the other side with a stronger relationship.

Lastly, do not let this experience go to waste. Learn from it; use it to strengthen your relationship. If your marriage can overcome this challenge, it can overcome the next and the next. Your relationship is not as fragile as you probably feared. Take pride in that.

How to Get Your Unsure Husband to Decide What He Wants… So You Can Get On With Your Life

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Unsure husband says he does not know of what he wants in relationship - busy on phone

HAS HE TOLD YOU HE IS NOT sure he wants to be married to you anymore?

Maybe he has said he needs time and space to figure out what he wants. Or he has given you the cliched ‘I love you but I am not in love with you’.

Worse still, he may have stated that even though he loves you deeply, he has fallen in love with someone else and he does not know what to do.

Or he may not have said any of these things but is simply emotionally distant since he is trying to figure out whether he wants to continue his marriage with you.

What his doubt does

If you are in a situation where your husband is expressing doubts about your marriage, it can be frightening. Witnessing the falling apart of your family is the most painful thing you can ever experience.

You may become desperate and depressed. There are days you will wake up and wonder if it is all a dream.

You will try everything in your power to make him change his mind; to make everything ok. However, you will soon realize that you cannot force him to make a decision. So, you will resign yourself to whatever decision he will make.

But after a while, it can feel like ‘relationship limbo’ where the not knowing is the most painful part, and all you want is to move on; in or out of the marriage.

But how will you help your husband to decide what he wants so that you can both continue with your lives?

Do not pursue your husband

It is human to want to save your marriage. However, remember you cannot control the decisions your husband makes. Crying, pleading and begging your husband to stay will only push him even further away. You come across as completely unappealing and it will never work in your favor. Your desperation only solidifies his resolve to end the marriage.

Do not cling

Texting and emailing thousands of messages saying that you are sorry, that you will forgive him, that you will change, that no one will ever love him the way you do, that he is destroying the children, will not make your husband stay. Many of us even ‘fall sick’ or ‘accidentally’ hurt ourselves, hoping to hear the husband say that he has decided to stay.

Question: do you want your husband to stay because he loves you, and he wants to be with you or because it's too hard to change and start over?

Wife is pushing husband away

Things you should NOT do to make your husband make the decision you want:

  • Do not act needy or desperate.
  • Do not keep pointing at all the good things about you and the marriage.
  • Do not try to manipulate your husband by making him look at your wedding photos.
  • Do not try to make your husband feel guilty about your relationship or the current circumstance
  • Do not follow him around the house like a sad puppy. In fact, do not appear like a sad puppy at all.
  • Do not enlist the help of your friends and family to make your husband stay with you.

What to do

Tell your husband that you have also thought about the situation and you agree with him. This is important and lets him know that you have listened and you're in fact in the same situation as him.

But don’t agree about the plans to give up. Instead, agree on what you both don’t want. Then, when everything is out in the open, tell him that you want to start a new relationship with him.

And commit yourself to improve your relationship no matter what he decides.

Draw the boundary

Many women have reacted to unsure husbands by providing them permission to do whatever they wish. Many of us will ignore or tolerate inappropriate behavior. We think that this will facilitate a positive outcome.

Worse still, you are still having sex with your husband even though he is not sure whether he wants to be with you. Here is a dose of reality: sparks may still go off whenever you come together in bed, but it takes more than sex to build a relationship. I know you are confused because you still care about your husband. You are waiting for loathing to set in so that you can triumphantly turn down his advances. But what if you never feel that hatred?

What to do

Put some boundaries in place to prevent the prolonging of the ‘limbo’ situation. Also, you do not want to be his back up if his other plans do not work out. You should not give him an option to have a month or two off from your marriage so that he can explore how it feels to be single again and how much he likes it. You deserve better than that.

Let him know that he can leave if he wants to. However, once he does, he will not be coming back until your marriage is fully restored. Also, let him know that you will not wait for long. Lastly, he will lose you and your family if he is unfaithful to you. This message sobers him up because it greatly increases the risk to him. He will also make a decision quicker since he will realize that he cannot have his cake and eat it too!

Request him to go for counseling

A man who really cannot decide what he wants needs to work with his wife and a counselor to make a decision. Since going through a divorce will impact all the areas of your lives, the pressure on your husband to make the right choice is enormous. If your husband refuses, then he has already decided.

A good counselor will help your husband to work through his issues:

  • Does he still have feelings for you?
  • Is he truly ready to leave or is he just threatening? Many times, spouses threaten to leave for the following reasons:
    • Anger and Frustration.
    • To gain power and control over the spouse
    • To finally be taken seriously
    • As a wakeup call that the marriage is ailing
  • Is the passion between the two of you really no longer present or is it just buried under responsibilities?

What if he does not want to go for therapy?

Do you know you can convince your reluctant husband to attend counseling by offering something? Many counselors indicate that a lot of people attend therapy because the other spouse offered something in return for their attendance. The good news is that the reluctant spouses report to finding the sessions helpful and many have eventually embarked on saving their marriages.

The final thought

We invest a lot of blood, sweat, and tears in our marriages and put a lot on the line. We devote our emotions, time, efforts and energy to our marriages. We want our marriages to be happy and healthy.

I am sorry you are going through this difficult period. But you know what, research shows that many marriages have beat the odds and survived the threat of divorce. Yours can also be a success story. Maintain your commitment and keep the faith.

If your husband decides to work on the marriage, it's time to get some help. The first step is to educate yourself on what your husband needs out of your marriage. You'd be surprised how quickly a marriage can change when you can correctly recognize the real issues.

This is not the time to stick your head in the sand and leave your marriage to fate. Making promises to change is not enough because you will invariably fall back into old habits. You both need help to make the changes stick.

If after educating yourself and implementing change in your marriage doesn't work, then it's time to Reach out to a good counselor to help you realize the relationship that you both want and deserve.

Unfortunately, I cannot recommend a good counseling service at this time. If you don't know one, ask around discretely with your close married friends. You might be surprised whose been to counseling.

Thanks for reading this guide on how to deal with your unsure husband. If your stuck or have any comments or queries, then please contact me here

How to Repair a Broken Marriage After He Has Moved Out

How to repair a broken marriage - sad woman who is not sure of what to do next

How to repair a broken marriage - sad woman who is not sure of what to do next

I CANNOT THINK OF ANYTHING MORE HEARTBREAKING and painful than having your partner check out of your marriage.

Right now you may be angry and frustrated, scared and helpless. What’s more, you may be feeling like a loser.

However, I want you to know that you are not alone. Consider the following statistics:

  • 32 million people are experiencing challenges in their marriages right now.
  • 87% of the people in troubled marriages do not want to end their marriage, but they have no idea what to do.

You are not alone!

There is absolutely nothing unique about your situation. Even the strongest marriage can get off track because of various reasons: Mismatch of expectations, stresses of life, and attachment injuries.

But even that which seems like an impossible situation can be turned around. Marriages have risen from the throes of separation and grown to become beautiful, fulfilling relationships.

You can save your marriage

It must feel like a helpless cause especially when your husband repeatedly says it is over. Sometimes he may even yell it. He probably becomes furious when you attempt to talk about it.

Many of us have thought that since your husband is the one who wants out, there is absolutely nothing that can be done. You believe that all that is left is to wait and see what he decides. This is simply not true.

Marriage takes two people to build and in the same way, two people have to agree that it is over. The truth is that one committed partner can make a huge difference in a relationship. So what will you do to save your marriage?

Do not panic

Yes, he has said it is over, and yes he has moved out. Still, I say, do not panic. Stop for a minute and breathe. And then treat this like a break. Many couples have greatly benefited from some breathing room to get a fresh perspective on their relationship.

Temporary separations are not new. Statistics indicate that 2.3 percent of married couples have been separated at one point in their marriage. However, you must discuss some boundaries with your husband:

  • How often will you see each other?
  • Will you date other people?
  • What do you tell the children?

Ultimately, the separation can be a time of tremendous personal growth. It also takes away the sense of being trapped in the marriage for your husband. Resentment dissipates, and he can be his objective self once again.

Do not chase after your husband

Many women that are holding onto the marriage start acting in desperate ways when their husband announces that he is leaving: they beg, plead, cajole, guilt trip him and implore him. They make endless phone calls, send numerous text messages and emails.

These efforts will fail miserably. Let me tell you why:

  • When you are doing all these things, your husband interprets them as pressure. He will, therefore, dig in his heels, insisting that the marriage is over. The more you coerce him, the more he feels trapped, and then the more he wants to flee.
  • Your begging and pleading are making you appear desperate and unattractive. You cannot be attractive when you are falling apart emotionally.
  • Human compassion drives people away from people whose pain they have caused, especially when they have no intention of stopping the action that is causing the pain.
  • If your husband wants out, there are aspects of the marriage that he was gravely uncomfortable with. The marriage you have was making him miserable; sounds cruel but I am sorry it has to be said. So tell me, why on earth would he want to return to that same unfulfilling marriage?

Here’s is what you should do instead:

  • Agree with your husband that you also no longer want the marriage you had because at least one of you was unhappy.
  • Agree that the marriage should be over.
  • Inform him that you want to start a new relationship with him.

This allows you and your husband to get on the same page. Your husband will feel the relief, and this has the potential to restart the entire marriage saving conversation.

How to repair a broken marriage - woman taking up her passions again

Get a life

Separation is one of the most painful times we can experience. You will naturally be inclined to become depressed. You will most likely be in tears half of the time, mope around sadly and probably lose all interest in the things you used to enjoy. However, how helpful is this going to be? How can you get your marriage out of the ditch if you continue like this?

So, yes, you are in the worst pain and heartbreak, but it is absolutely important that you get a life. Choose to be ridiculously happy right now. Roll up your sleeves and do whatever you have to do make yourself feel inspired and alive. And laugh once again. I cannot emphasize this enough. Purpose to reclaim a small part of your life by having some pleasurable moments every day.

A quick question: when you inevitably meet your husband due to various engagements; which one do you think he will like more? The happy you or the you who is gorging her eyes out in misery?

So, become the best version of yourself. What are the characteristics that made you attractive to your husband all those years ago? Reflect and resurrect those attributes. Go on and become daring, charming and adventuresome once again. This sad situation can be an incredible opportunity for your husband to fall in love with you again.

Clarify what you need to change

Yes, your husband is the one who is misbehaving. However, there is a need to inspect your side of the street to see if there are messes that you need to sort out. Were you too critical of him? Have you been making any angry comments? Check with your husband. The next course of action; map out a plan for fixing every single item on your list.

By the way: have sex, lots of it. But only when your husband initiates it. During sexual connection, bonding hormones are released. Use them to your advantage.

The reconciliation

By now, your husband thinks you have had an awakening. You are no longer nasty, angry or cold. You now have a life, and you are feeling good and healthy again. You have rediscovered your joy. You are taking care of yourself and becoming a better person.

He will become curious. He will want to spend more time with you. He might even have a change of heart and come back home. While it may not happen overnight, all thoughts and talks of divorce could be forgotten. You only need to pace yourself and be patient.

Final thought

Regardless of how bad things between you and your husband are, your marriage can be saved. It is not only possible to repair your marriage, but you can indeed turn things around, rekindle your love and build a healthy lasting relationship.

Even though your husband has given up, you have the most important thing going for you: commitment.

Remember, you are not alone, and it is not over until it is over.

Best of luck.

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