His Secret Obsession Review – My Honest Opinion Including 3 PROS and 3 CONS

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NOT UNDERSTANDING WHAT MEN ARE DOING AND WHY, can leave you very frustrated…. Sometimes enough to give up on men altogether!

But when you do understand him, and you understand him enough to start influencing his behavior, for the betterment of you, him and your relationship… That’s where being in a relationship really comes into its own. And in comes the fun and joy of sharing your life with someone.

The His Secret Obsession program attempts to bridge women and men together, through education of his behavior and motivations.

His Secret Obsession - Files downloaded on computer
The His Secret Obsession files downloaded onto my computer

What is it in one sentence?

This is a guide to help women be in control of their relationships with men. By working with men's primal drives and instincts rather than against them.

His Secret Obsession - Digital copies only available
Although the images above are of physical products, his secret obsession is available through digital download only.

His Secret Obsession (HSO) Summary

The course is mostly text and audio versions of that text. There are 2 extras which are video.

Main course (&Bonuses):

  • Text – Yes
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – No

Extras

  • Text – Yes
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – Yes

Who is HSO for?

  • Who is it for
  • Married
  • Engaged
  • Dating
  • Single

This program is aimed at women who have a relationship with a man or at least have a potential suitor. However, single women will find the theory in this program very useful for future relationships.

What is it all about? (Overview)

Do you feel confused sometimes at the actions of men (or a particular man)?

Do you wonder why they seem to make the choices that they make and why do they care so much about some things but not about others?

If so, this program can really help. It covers men's motives for life and how as a woman, you can use them to your advantage, and to help make a better relationship

He as the ‘hero’, and you in control.

It breaks down his primary primal drive. The one that comes before all the rest. The fact that he needs to feel as though he is a hero…

This program shows you how to make him the hero, so you get what you want.

The best part is that the concept is simple and easy to understand. That’s the real beauty of it. It isn’t all basic exercises that a lot of programs like this can be, there is good quality new information available.

It’s straight to the point, with quite a few examples and analogies which help explain the different points.

For those people who really want to know those 12 words, (from the video) I won't reveal them here, but what they are and why they worked in that situation is fully explained in detail

There are also example phrases that can be used, but the author really teaches you how to fish, rather than just tossing you one. You may need to read or listen to the content a few times in my opinion, to get your head around it. You will also need to practice a little bit to get the hang of it.

 

The main program (His Secret Obsession) is broken up into two main parts

  1. How the Hero Instinct Works (The Theory)
  2. How to Use the Signals (The Practical)

The practical section in the program is still theory-laden, but does give enough to get you started on how to use the theory to help your relationships with your man or men in general

I think that this is a key pro, is that this program can help anyone who is having relationships with men. Whether it be personal relationships, or with men at work, in a social circle or whenever.

Part 2 has real-life applications and examples. These are generally the phenomena found in our psychology that is what helps form relationships. James (the author) identifies it and shows you how it works and how you can put it to work for yourself.

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

What you will learn

  • How every man sees himself and how you fit into that vision
  • The three things every man craves, and how they explain all of his actions
  • The three phases of a man's life and how to tell if he is ready to settle down or not (and you can do if he says he isn’t when he actually could be)
  • How to know if your man is happy in your relationship and how to increase his participation in it
  • How to ‘train’ a man to get him to do more of what you want
  • How to spark a mans interest
  • Questions you can ask him that will have him lavishing more attention on you
  • How to open your man up to you for better communication and connection in your relationship
  • How to get him out of his comfort zone
  • How he wants you to ask him for assistance – it will help grow your relationship

What’s in it

His Secret Obsession PDF and Audio Program

A 184 page eBook

Modules:

  • The Secret to Unlocking the Hero Instinct
  • Part 1: How the Hero Instinct Works
  • Module 1: The Secret Longing of Every Man
  • Module 2: The Unspoken Desire He’ll Never Admit
  • Module 3: Make Him See the Light
  • Module 4: The Fascination Trigger
  • Module 5: Why Men Say, “I’m just not ready”
  • Module 6: How Your Desires Can Fascinate Him
  • Module 7: The Secret Currency of Happy Relationships
  • Module 8: Rocket Fuel: How to Build Relationship Momentum Fast
  • Module 9: How to become His Secret Obsession
  • Module 10: Get Deeper Intimacy by Revealing More
  • Module 11: Three Things That Can Go Wrong (and how to fix them)
  • Part II: How to Use the Signals
  • Module 12: “The Private Island” Signal
  • Module 13: The “X-ray Question”
  • Module 14: The Glimpse Phrase
  • Module 15: The Secret “Currency” Of Happy Relationships
  • Module 16: The “I Owe You” Signal
  • Module 17: The “Damsel in Distress” Signal
  • One More Thing…
  • Text Message Formulas – Extra Training

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

Bonuses

Text Message Formulas

Overview:

This bonus is about how to generate interest when you're not around. How you can use texting along with your new knowledge about the male mind to get his attention (among other things).

My thoughts:

This isn’t just a massive list of texts you can use to start conversations. More like some sample text messages along with why they work. There’s also a simple formula you can follow to help when first starting. You may need some practice at this.

What’s in it:

  • Why Texting?
  • How “Curiosity Phrases” Can Keep Him Engaged
  • How to Create Curiosity Triggers When You’re Apart
  • Texting Your Life Story

7 Day Quick Start Action Guide

15 Pages

Overview:

The entire HSO course has a lot of information in it, it can seem like a whirlwind when you first start reading. This quick start guide will help you identify where you are at (there is a quiz in there to help) and give you some simple steps to focus. The ideas are to help build your confidence and show you some results.

My thoughts:

A simple to follow 7-day guide and a good way to start implementing the knowledge in the program.

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

Extras

(The following extras are available at an extra cost to the program)

Endless Honeymoon

87 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Is your current relationship feeling a little… stale? Has the honeymoon well untruly warn off? Does your man seem to want to spend time doing other things like playing games, or time with friends?

If this sounds like your relationship then this 87-page guide will take your hand, and lead you through desire in your relationship. Included is how to find your common desires, and how to make him feel like achieving those desires is his new most important goal (or latest game).

My thoughts:

There are a few good points including how to keep him interested in moving the relationship forward. Worth a read or a listen. Will make you with some of the relevant research and studies were done in the area of happiness and relationships.

What's in it:

  • Introduction: The elements of an endless honeymoon
  • Section 1: Make your wish lists
  • Section 2: How to get him addicted to making you happy
  • Section 3: The secrets of the endless honeymoon
  • Section 4: Making honeymoon mentality with reality
  • Section 5: Shortcut tips and tricks to making an endless honeymoon
  • Section 6: Making it work in the current phase of your relationship

Love(Attraction) Triggers

88 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

This guide centers around 9 ideas/techniques that you can use to help encourage his strong feelings toward you in your relationship. At first, it reads like a guide for the first 3 months of a relationship but these techniques can be used at any time in a relationship.

There is research, that you may have heard of, along with some that you likely haven’t. And it is all related to relationships. There are also good examples to follow, and bad ones to avoid.

My thoughts:

Some theory on what happens when two people first meet with a focus on psychology and decoding body language. There are also some different ways to look at particular concepts around meeting someone, including flirting and developing confidence.

  • Chapter 1: Signal interest
  • Chapter 2: Flirt
  • Chapter 3: Get your hearts pumping
  • Chapter 4: Engage in intimate self-disclosure
  • Chapter 5: Condition through association
  • Chapter 6: Trigger a ‘Yes’ mindset
  • Chapter 7: Make him work for you
  • Chapter 8: Thrive
  • Chapter 9: Develop a special type of confidence

The Reverse Attraction Technique

18 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Want to know how to get a guy to open up to you like an old friend? This guide will show you how to manipulate your own interest level to flip a switch that pulls guys toward you like a magnet.

My thoughts:

This concise guide will show you how he will talk himself into having feelings for you. It’s a bit of reverse psychology that may seem a little counter-intuitive. But as a man, I can tell you that it works.

The Fairytale Method

16 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Do you have short relationships with men? Burning bright but not for very long? This short guide gives you a technique to create deeper emotional bonds and identify where you may be going wrong.

My thoughts:

A quick guide to inviting your guy to have a relationship where he feels comfortable to share his emotions and generally open up.

Instant Authentic Connection

61 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Want a shortcut to a deep connection with a man? This guide explains how we create deep connections and how to ‘create windows of opportunity’ to create a longer lasting and more authentic connection with your partner.

My thoughts:

More about creating emotional bonds. Might be a little far-fetched or a bit hard to follow for some. Think of it as a little more ‘advanced’.

What’s in it:

  • Section 1: The two mindsets that make the difference
  • Section 2: Shortcuts to an authentic connection
  • Section 3: Enemies of authenticity

Get a Guy to Commit: A Method for Increasing Attraction While Setting Standards for Your Relationship

13 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

This short guide is to help you identify, set and enforce boundaries with your guy. This is very important in a lasting relationship and shouldn’t be skipped. It talks about when the best time to have these conversations is, and how to get your man to open up about what he really wants also.

My thoughts:

This guide is dedicated to those single women or those who are in a new relationship mostly. A few rules to follow when setting rules and boundaries for a new relationship.

The Win-Win Negotiation System

7 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Is there a lot of silent treatment, frustration, and disagreement in your relationship? This system contains a quick to use guide based off of a principle created by one of the most prominent social psychologists.

My thoughts:

A good rule for any negotiation. Personally, I hadn’t heard of this before. Requires some time so it’s more for the larger aspects of a relationship or something that has caused some angst between you and your man.

The Curiosity Effect

84 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Curiosity is something that we are exposed to all the time. It’s a hint of what something is about but not the full story. This guide shows you how you can use this trait to your advantage, in attracting his interest.

What’s in it:

  • Section 1: The power of curiosity
  • Section 2: The simple (yet powerful) rules of curiosity
  • Section 3: The first curiosity pattern – story
  • Section 4: The second curiosity pattern – intermittent rewards through games
  • Section 5: Win his approach with curiosity
  • Section 6: Know when to be curious about him
  • Section 7: Reverse the number one threat to long-term relationships
  • Conclusion: Own his curiosity, you will own his heart

My thoughts:

This guide is not as simple to follow as some of the other ones. The concept is sound but you may need a few listens and some practice to understand it fully after you have read/listened to this. You may also feel like a marketer when you are trying it out, which doesn’t feel natural.

Emotional Imprint Method

47 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Relationships involve growth and change. So how do you keep on top of that and prioritize your relationship above all else? This guide will show you how to find things that work in your relationship, and use them to help create a stronger bond.

My thoughts:

This is a pretty common sense guide to keeping a relationship fun. I didn’t really get any new nuggets of information here, but it’s always good to be reminded of the basics whilst in your car on the way to work.

Unlock Your Charisma

41 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Think good looks are the only thing that will turn a man’s head? The truth is that to turn heads and have an aura, you need some charisma. This guide covers how others create charisma and how you can create some for yourself too.

My thoughts:

Some will find this a little woo-woo. If you're turned off by visualizing, affirmations and positive thinking then you might want to skip this.

Why Men Pull Away

13 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Ever wondered if there was a way to influence his desire? This guide covers why men pull away (it’s sometimes biological and sometimes psychological) and what you need to know to successfully deal with the situation.

My thoughts:

A good insight from this short guide. Worth a listen.

Awakening Your Feminine Intuition

10 modules (Approx 90 Pages & Audio)

Overview:

Learn how to tap into your intuition at a moment's notice when facing a difficult and unique relationship scenario. Plus, you will feel far more confident about your relationship decisions. You will also learn how to tap into a deep well of creativity and insights that will dazzle any man you set your sights on.

My Thoughts:

This bonus is about trying to tap into ‘intuition' which is mostly about a concept in cognitive science referred to in Daniel Kanehman's book ‘thinking fast and slow'. I think some might find it a little out there also. It wasn't for me.

 The Irresistable Vibe

Overview:

Discover a simple technique you can use to shine with an irresistible vibe. Learn how fulfilling life can be when you’re blessed with true and enthusiastic connections with people everywhere you go.

My thoughts:

By now the course is starting to get some familiarity to it. The idea behind this one is a little more abstract than some of the other content also.  So some may feel like it's a bit out there to begin with.

The PROS and CONS of His Secret Obsession

PROS

Insights

This isn’t simply doing exercises or dreaming about ‘the way you want things to be'.

This program provides new insights that show the reasons behind why men do what they do and explain their actions.

Once this is fully understood then it’s easy to in effect, become an artist with it. Be able to get what you want while giving him what he wants. A win-win.

(As a man, when I read this and listened to it I found myself nodding my head in agreement. Although I hadn’t thought of my life like this before, I found it to deliver some honest truths that I didn’t even realize of myself.)

Easy to Follow

The analogies, stories, and examples are simple to understand and make clear the point being made. There’s no second-guessing or what if’s. The program is clear.

CONS

No video

In the extras part, there is some video but the main part of the course doesn’t have a video section. If you find video the best way to learn (over text and audio) then there isn’t an option for you.

The author is a bit rude sometimes

Although the content is good, there are parts in this course which I felt treat the reader like a fool. In particular one section where ‘some readers just won’t get this part’… I didn’t like.

Price of extras

I thought the price of the extras was a little bit too expensive. They are good but they aren’t that good. (Note – if you want the extras for less money after you purchase the main program, you can reject them twice before being offered a more favorable price.)

What I think of HSO

Firstly I wasn't sure exactly what to expect after watching the video. If you are in the same boat as I was then here is what to expect

  1. There is plenty of theory in this. Plenty of ideas, research and new insights into your future relationships with men.
  2. The program is very polished and has been through the theory. It’s easy to follow and with the audio program, you can listen to it a few times to have it really sink into your head.
  3. I thought it was enjoyable, easy to follow and helpful. The best part though was the insight. Being able to classify men by one or two simple statements (as their schema) is important.
  4. The extras also compliment the main course which gives you a few more tools to use.

As a man, as soon as I started reading about ‘the hero instinct’ i could see it in my life. I thought about my actions and my priorities in life, and they do revolve around this drive. In a sentence, me trying to prove my worth, and me being drawn to things around the ideas of heroes and striving towards my goals.

I could also see how my wife was fitting into this. Where I felt like she was helping me, and where I felt there was friction.

After going through the program, I think that it’s important to get your head around this concept if you have or are planning to have a serious, long-term relationship with a man.

Understanding how he works, what his motivations are and what he needs to be happy (although he probably doesn't understand it himself) is a massive leap forward towards having better relationships with men.

This program is worth the price of a date, and I recommend it. You can get your copy here.

 

Thanks for reading my His Secret Obsession review. If you have any questions you'd like to ask me or anything else about the program, you can contact me here.

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