How to Boost your Libido – 5 Ways For A Sustained Sex Life

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IF YOU USED TO ENJOY making love with your husband… But now it is just something you do for ‘relationship maintenance' to get him off your case then

You are not alone

Low libido is a common problem.  According to Dr. Rebecca Amaru, a gynecologist, reduced libido happens in women as young as 30.

A study that was published in the Journal of Impotence indicated that 43% of the women interviewed revealed that they experienced declining or loss of sexual desire by the time they were 40. The study also showed that 36% of the women who were actively having sex indicated that they were not enjoying it.

Fear not

Here comes the good news, Libido decline or loss is not a permanent condition.

Just as many things can affect your sexual desire: emotional, physical and biological, there are many ways in when you can rectify your sex drive.

5 Ways to Boost Your Libido

1. Practice mindfulness

According to Sherry Rose, MD, women’s sexual desire starts in the brain. Therefore, the daily stresses of children, money, work, and relationships will lead to low libido.

A woman's libido is made up of a complete emotional algorithm. Therefore, if she is confused, tired or overwhelmed, her body will produce more of cortisol (the stress hormone) which consequently decreases the production of testosterone.

Testosterone is a critical component of your sexual desire. Even if you don't have as much testosterone as your husband, you must have enough of it to stimulate sexual desire in your body. Testosterone also initiates blood flow that causes your vagina to become sensitive and more likely to orgasm.

Confirming this theory is the Director of the Woman's Health Clinic at the Mayo Clinic, Dr. Stephene S. Faubian. According to her, the balance of brain chemicals is what mainly influences a woman's libido. Dopamine and norepinephrine increase your sexual desire, while testosterone, opioids, and serotonin inhibit your desire

Did you know: Research shows that even when a woman's body is turned on, she won't recognize it if she is not emotionally open to the idea of making love.  

The importance of mindfulness

Sex therapists indicate that mindfulness exercises like meditation, focused breathing, and yoga help to alter the balance of the brain chemicals in a good way. Mindfulness reduces stress hormones which have been proven to cause low libido. A study that was published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior indicated that women who suffered from sexual dysfunction significantly boosted their sexual responsiveness once they were trained in mindfulness.

Another research that was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine indicated that women who practiced an hour of yoga each day increased their average scores on sexual desire, lubrication, arousal, orgasms, and overall sexual fulfillment.

2. Solve your marital issues promptly

Marital experts indicate that for many women, low sex drive is intimately linked to their romantic relationships. If a woman is feeling neglected, taken for granted, or is angry with her husband, her sexual desire will be eaten away.

According to Professor Virginia Sadock, a renowned sex therapist at NYU, many women are scared to admit that their relationship is the cause of their desire issues. They are afraid that this admission would mean that their marriage is in trouble.  

However, Sadock indicates that the marital issues that affect a woman’s libido are not the divorce level problems but rather a compilation of small and very fixable issues that pile up over time.

The therapist says that many women are simply too overloaded: too many responsibilities, too much work, too little help and inadequate acknowledgment from their partners:

  • Identify whether there are any issues about your marriage that are bothering you and possibly affecting your sexual drive
  • Next, talk to your husband – but not in an accusatory way. Avoid phrases like: ‘You make feel horrible when…….., you turn me off when….’
  • Assure your husband that you find him attractive and you are interested in rekindling your sex life.
  • Let your husband know how much his affection matters to you and how much his appreciation for the things that you do for the family makes you feel valued and sexy.
  • Inform your husband that you need to feel that he appreciates and cares for you all the time; not only when he wants sex
  • Ensure that you and your husband regularly spend some time together   to keep strengthening your bond

3. Exercise

You may wonder what exercise has to do with sex, but remember, blood flows to your genitals the same way it flows to your heart. Exercise increases blood flow, boosts your hormones and endorphins: testosterone, adrenaline, serotonin, and boosts your feel-good neurotransmitters. All these processes go a long way to increase your libido.

Exercise will also help you to lose weight, which decreases abdominal fat, increases muscle tone, boosts stamina- creating better and stronger orgasms.

Question is: what is holding your back from exercising?

A great way to start an excercise routine is to make it stupidly simple and consistent. For example, put on your gym clothes everyday. It sounds too simple and easy to work right?

But after a few days you will be ‘someone who wears their gym clothes' and it would seem silly not to do some form of exercise… This technique builds your identity as ‘someone who exercises', which is a very large part of the battle that goes unnoticed by many people.

4. Load up on aphrodisiac foods

Cultures around the world have used some herbs and foods as aphrodisiacs for centuries.

Some aphrodisiacs stimulate the nerves in your genitals; others increase the level of nitric oxide, which increases your blood flow to your vagina; while others increase the feel-good chemicals in your brain.

Some of the foods and herbs that are used as aphrodisiacs include:

  • Chinese ginseng
  • Schizandra
  • Rhodiola
  • Dark Chocolate
  • Cayenne
  • Nutmeg
  • Walnuts
  • Asparagus
  • Maca
  • Pine nuts

5. Keep things new and fresh

Routine has its place in a relationship, but new sexual experiences will increase your libido. Science indicates that new experiences help your hypothalamus to increase dopamine in anticipation of an incredible outcome. Dopamine has a significant effect on your sexual desire. The more the dopamine is injected into your brain, the more your sexual desire will rise.  

So, how do you get the dopamine surge?  

Try new things with your husband: exploring new places and trying new activities together will increase the amount of dopamine in your brain. Remember, the new experiences do not have to be extravagant:

  • Explore a new park
  • Try a new hiking trail
  • Sample a new restaurant

These are accessible experiences that are not only affordable but deeply rewarding.

Try a new sex position

Trying new sex positions may be just what you need to increase your libido. You may even find a new favorite position that will enhance your sexual experience in ways that you have never imagined.   

Did you know: There are more than 240 sex positions.

Try as many positions as you can. The process will not just be fun for you and your husband, but you will greatly enhance your bond.

At the end of the night

A healthy libido is worth every effort: the payoff extends far beyond the bedroom.

 Improving your sexual desire has a massive impact on your physical wellbeing: decreased blood pressure, and a healthy immune system.

Improving your sexual desire will also boost your emotional wellbeing: a sense of intimacy and belonging. Besides, a vibrant sexual life will enhance the emotional connection with your husband. Increasing your libido may take a little bit of effort, but it is deeply gratifying.

How to Please Your Man in Bed – A Guide to What Men Actually Want

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how to please your man in bed - woman seducing man in bedroom

IN A PERFECT WORLD every woman would know what their man wants in bed. But until then, it is ok to have questions…

  • How can you really satisfy him?
  • What will make him blow his… mind?
  • How can you make him let go and keep from always wanting control?

Spoiler: It’s mostly about your attitude

Many men indicate that they do not enjoy sex because they feel that the women they are with are not equally interested. To discover if this is a problem for you, here are some questions:

  • Do you treat sex with him like a chore that you can’t wait to get over with?
  • Do your sexual encounters have a routine and work as a checklist?
  • Does he see (and hear) any enthusiasm in you?

Your man considers sex a celebration, and he wishes you would enjoy it too.

Do not allow the challenges and pressures of life to push sex to the bottom of your list of priorities.

The ultimate turn on for your guy is seeing you enjoying sex as much as he does. Do not go through the motions, or do it out of obligation, because this is a major turn off. Make your man feel wanted; he has a strong need to be sexually desired by you.

Objectify your man a little, lust after him and let him know how much he turns you on.

After all,

There are immense benefits to sex. For instance, having orgasm releases oxytocin, the bonding hormone. Oxytocin can bring couples closer together, alleviate stress and reduce blood pressure. Who doesn’t need more of that?

Be spontaneous

You can easily fall into a rut: have sex at the same time, at the same place, all the time. Doing something unexpected will drive your man wild.

Surprise him with a wild move

Once in a while, bowl your man with a wild move. Try something erotic that he will not be able to forget soon.

Be naughty

Now and then, shed the good girl image and hold nothing back. Your man will be excited to see this other side of you. For instance, you can introduce some toys or even a mirror into the session and see yourselves in action.  It will be hot.

how to please your man in bed

Take charge

Your man would like you to dominate him once in a while. Have your own version of Shades. For instance, you can tell your man that he can’t touch, move or talk unless you tell him. If he disobeys, he is to be punished. Boss your man a little bit, telling him what to say and how to touch you. Watch him squirm and keep reminding him that you are in control.

Get rough

Sometimes, your man wants to be primal. He wants it rough, and he would be delighted to know that you want it too. Unleash the beast in him and let him know that you are having the time of your life.

Confidence is key

Confidence is the sexiest thing that you could possess. What ruins sex for many women is the insecurity that they have about their bodies.

However, it is always good to remember that your man is with you because he is attracted to you. You are more attractive to your man when you can take your clothes off than when you tell him to switch off the lights.

Your man is a visual creature, and he gets off on seeing you in all your naked glory. If you are too uncomfortable, you can try soft lighting to help you hide the flaws.

However,

The truth is that in all likelihood, your man doesn’t’ notice your little jiggles or the cellulite that you are so consumed with. He is just thrilled to be there with you naked.

Initiate sex once in a while

Once in a while, initiate the sex. Traditionally men initiate sex, but it gets old when he has to initiate every time. Indeed, it might start to feel like you are not attracted to him; like sex for you is an obligation.

So,

Stick your hand down his pants: whisper in his ear how badly you want him, wake him up with your special caresses. Whichever way you decide to initiate sex, you will make your man happy to show him that you want him too.

You don't have to be so to the point either. Just walking around in sexy underwear or putting a show of your latest dresses/clothes can work.

Remember big smile and it will sound weird but it helps to turn around or be preoccupied with something else so you aren't always looking at him. (2 reasons, one is because when you look at him he will feel as though he has to do something. This is pressure which no one wants around sex. The second one is so he can look at you without feeling obliged. i.e. he's choosing to do it himself)

Explore his fantasies

This is the absolute way to pleasure your man in a way that no other woman can. Find out his kinks and fantasies and explore them with him. What does your man dream about? What does he secretly crave? This can be tricky because he wants to share his fantasies with you, but he probably worries that you will judge or shame him.

You, therefore, have to promise your man that you will be open and accepting of his fantasies without judgment. Indeed, your man also longs to know your sexual imaginations.

So, why don’t you make a game of it?

Write out your fantasies and place them in a box. Next time you are feeling up to it, pull one fantasy out. Now, when the fantasy unfolds, you can jump right into fulfilling it. If you need some time to adjust, ask your man what he really loves about the fantasy. You might just find that the fantasy can be enacted in a different scenario that both of you will enjoy.

You will realize that as you explore your fantasies with your man, he will start to open up more about his imaginations. He will be eternally appreciative to you.

The foreplay

Sex experts say that the build-up to sex can be just as much or even more enjoyable than the sex itself. The anticipation, the suspense, and the passion of what’s to come are exhilarating for your man.

The thigh rub

When you are out during a date, or movie or dinner, stroke his thigh with slow movements, moving up towards his groin. Nothing turns your man on like being teased and at the same time knowing that he cannot make love to you there and then. See him get excited and then leave him longing to take you home and whisk you into the bedroom.

The striptease

The sight of you scantily dressed and moving around provocatively will drive your man mad. Select your sexiest lingerie or the one that he loves. Put on some sensual music that will help you strip tease with ease. Go ahead and mesmerize your man.

Touch him

One male organ may be getting all the attention during sex, but your man has other erogenous zones: the chest, the face, inner thighs, and his earlobes.

The results of a study that appeared in the Archives of Sexual Behavior indicated that men care more about cuddling than actually having sex. The study further found that men require three times more touching to create the same amount of dopamine, the feel-good hormone as compared to women.

As a result, caressing, kissing, cuddling and tenderness are more important to your man than you could ever imagine. Put effort into giving your man full body embraces, soothing strokes and kisses for an incredible bonding with him.

Change positions

Nothing kills your sex life like routine. Unfortunately, sex experts indicate that many couples only ever use two to six sex positions.

If you have been together for some time, your man probably craves something different now and then. It is understandable that you have your favorite positions. However, changing positions for different stimulation nourishes your sex life like nothing else could.

Some positions will enable your man go deeper, while some help him to feel other parts of you more efficiently, which he will really love.

Different sex positions are like spices: they give one dish different tastes

Did you know: According to sex experts, there are more than 245 different sex positions

At the end of the night…

Sex can help many stressors in your relationship, but like everything else, you have to put effort.

Further, you must beware of other issues in your relationship that may affect your love life: unresolved issues, anger, and resentment.

Ensure you quickly solve your problems, and whatever you do, do not use sex as a weapon – this will only cause more damage to your relationship.

Thanks for reading this guide on how to please your man in bed

“My Husband Doesn’t Want Sex” – What to Do When He Withdraws from Intimacy

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  • Has your husband stopped loving you?
  • Is there another woman?
  • What happened to his sexual desire?  
  • Does he really care?

These thoughts can go round and round in your head when your husband withdraws sexually. But although you may feel alone, you are not the only one this happens to. This story repeats itself in many bedrooms all over the world.

The myth that men want to have sex all the time is simply not accurate

According to experts, almost all marriages go through periods when the husband experiences lower sex drive than his wife.

A study that appeared in the Live Science Magazine revealed that 14.4 per cent of the men surveyed indicated having experienced lack of sexual desire lasting two or more months within the previous year. Another research showed that 15% to 16% of men lose interest in sex at some point in their lives.

Contrary to popular belief, men and women are not that different concerning sexuality and desire. Experts say that in marriage, it is about 50 / 50. 50% of the time, the wife demands sex more than the husband while 50% of the time, the husband wants sex and the wife doesn’t.

Why doesn’t your husband want to have sex with you?

According to the sex therapists, lack of sex is a symptom, not the root of problems in your marriage. It is truly not about sex. Sex does not happen in a vacuum; it occurs within the quality and context of your relationship. Therefore, emotional disconnection, stress, communication problems, and health issues: all these will affect your husband’s ability and willingness to have sex with you.

Some of the reasons why your husband may not be having sex with you include:

He is depressed and not feeling like he wants to have sex

Your husband’s sex drive is wrapped up in his concept of manhood. When he feels like a man, he will want to make love. On the other hand, if he feels like he has lost his masculinity, he won’t. So, the question begs, what does it take for your husband to not feel like a man? When:

  • Your husband is not making any progress at his workplace
  • He feels like he is not achieving his dreams and goals
  • He feels like he is letting you down
  • There is extreme tension in your marriage, and he feels like he doesn’t have a solution

All these can radically decrease your husband’s interest in sex. A man whose masculinity is scarred will definitely have his sexual desire affected.

Your husband is struggling to connect with you on an emotional level

This may be news to you if you believe that only women need to bond emotionally to take pleasure in sex. If you have been emotionally distant from your husband because of pressures at work or other commitments, you may have made him feel unloved and neglected. Your husband should never feel unappreciated or as if you are merely tolerating him: He will find it hard to be intimate with you.

He is no longer attracted to you

If there has been a lot of negative energy in your relationship, your husband might desire you less. Are you always nagging your husband, criticizing him and putting him down? Evaluate your treatment of your husband and see whether you could be doing anything to drive him away.

The same will happen if your husband feels like you have lost respect for him. No matter how long the two of you have been married; your husband still needs to feel that he is a hero to you.

Experts also indicate that weight gain and changes in your appearance might affect your husband’s attraction to you. The problem isn’t love; it is sex.

He may be having an affair

If you have done all you can to revive your husband’s interest in making love and still been unsuccessful, an extramarital affair probably explains it.

A man who has transferred his desire elsewhere will not desire to have sex with you. He may not even be having an affair but he is probably involved with pornography, or he is having an affair with himself; engaging in too much masturbation. All these things can definitely contribute to your husband feeling less concerned about engaging in sex with you.

Low sex drive

Your husband could be dealing with low libido. Physical issues like underlying sicknesses and low testosterone will undoubtedly cause low sex drive. The good thing with this issue is that it is easy to fix as long as your husband visits a doctor. So, what can you do to rekindle the intimacy with your husband?

Acknowledge that there is a problem

The first thing that you must do is raise the issue with your husband. How you bring up the subject with your husband will significantly determine your success in solving the problem. Your husband, like many other men, will find it hard to talk about his loss of desire for sex.

Experts indicate that masculinity and virility are intimately connected. Your husband will, therefore, be uncomfortable with self-disclosure. Remember, if he especially has a low sex drive, he is terrified even to think that he doesn’t desire sex, let alone admit it.

This topic might be embarrassing and even humiliating for your husband, so how you communicate with him is very crucial.

If he is no longer attracted to you

If your husband just doesn’t desire to have sex with you anymore, this is the clearest indication of underlying issues in your relationship. Do you and your husband have unresolved issues? Is your emotional connection what it used to be when you first got married? Does your husband still feel respected and admired by you? Is he still attracted to you? How is the communication with your husband?

Express genuine desire to know what the problem is and show your willingness to work with your husband to make your relationship fulfilling to both of you once again.

If he is experiencing low libido

If your husband lets out that he is having a physical issue like erectile dysfunction, do not panic or overreact. Making a big deal out of your husband’s problem will make him even more nervous about his performance. He may eventually shut down.

Ban sex for a while

This measure may sound counterproductive, but as you and your husband seek a solution to the problem, you should try some non-sexy things: Taking baths together, giving each other massages. This will take the pressure off your husband as he actively seeks for a solution to the problem.

Your husband carries a heavy burden

Whatever the reason for the decrease in sexual desire, your husband is already carrying a heavy load and probably feels as alone in his pain as you.

The anger, pain, and confusion you feel for your husband’s inability or unwillingness to meet your needs for love and sexual fulfilment cannot compare with the burden of inadequacy that your husband carries.

He yearns to be a competent husband. His sense of accomplishment and confidence is tied to his ability to perform in all areas, including sexually.

You are not the victim

As such, when approaching your husband, start from a place of curiosity instead of blame. Let him know that you love him and you want your marriage to work. Let him feel that you are a team and you will get through the problem together.

Your reassurance, acceptance, affirmation and comfort will significantly speed up your husband’s recovery process. Be gentle and empathetic with your husband and let him know that you are willing to work with him through whatever the issue is.

Which is the Best Bedroom Toy For You? Answer These Yes/No QUIZ Questions to Discover Your Preference

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Best Bedroom Toys - Woman in bed alone with vibrator

WHAT'S THE FIRST THING THAT COMES TO MIND when you think of bedroom toys?

Some women are quite casual about them. While others put theirs in the back of a drawer only call on it when needed… (And never to be seen by hubby)

No matter where you sit on this scale, there is plenty of discreetly-shipped choices available to you

And to make your next choice the right one, I've put together 5 sets of Yes/No quiz questions. Answer YES to at least 2 of them and then discover what toys suit you and your situation… Enjoy

Are You a Discreet User?

  • Is your husband uncomfortable with you using a bedroom toy?
  • Do you only like to please yourself in private?
  • Do you need something that is small enough you could carry with you?

If you answered yes to these questions then you are a discreet bedroom toy user

You don't want to be defined by it or identified with it, but you want something that will get you ‘cover your mouth excited'…

And comes in a very discreet box that no one will know what's in it

There is a version of a small toy known as a ‘bullet' that is discreet for when you've got some precious alone time. They are small and quiet so you can even use them when hubby is snoring and you're awake.

The Umania Bullet – small and compact

The Umania Bullet

This bullet is small but has an incredibly powerful vibration. And with a simple one button that leaves you in full control of the 10-speed modes

Because it's only 3-inches in length, it is easy to hide and store. It's short size also means it can be used in different positions for stimulating different zones

This bullet is made with ABS it's easy to clean, and users say that it's quiet which doesn't wake anyone up, and lets you focus on what you're trying to focus on

Your husband, the neighbors and anyone in the room next door will be none the wiser

The perfect compliment to some precious alone time, click or touch this link to find out more

Are You a Too Busy for Long Sessions?

  • Do you ever feel the need for ‘the release' but are too tired at the end of a long day?
  • Is ‘me' time ever on your todo list?
  • Do you sometimes want to fit one in but aren't sure you have the time?

If only you could tell your libido that you've got responsibilities, places to be and important things to do…

But where would be the fun in that?

Instead, to crush that craving you need something that can give you the release that you are after, in a timely and effective manner. (Your boss would be proud)

Because in your case the build-up can last a lot longer than the main act, you also need something you can rely on…

So without further ado let me introduce you to the solution of your dreams… (Apart from your husband of course)

He's;

  • 6.3 inches long
  • Can stimulate you all over your body
  • Doesn't smell or leave a mess
  • Is whisper quiet
  • And can take you from Zero to ‘O' in 2 minutes flat…?

He also doesn't snore and fits in the bottom drawer after you have finished with him

Orlena ‘Suction' Vibrator

Orlena ‘Suction' Vibrator

When you want to feel your toes curl but you're too tight for time or exhausted to move then the Orlena ‘Sucking' Vibrator is up for the challenge

The Orlena's reputation for speed is due to its special suction vacuum technology, which is touch-free and works at 5 different intensities

When placed on the finger it doesn't feel like much but gives an intense feeling of suction, that when put on the right place will take you straight to ‘riding the wave'

It also works as a more standard vibrator with 8 different powerful vibration modes

It's easy to clean and waterproof so you can even use it in the bath… not that you ever get time for baths…

So Mrs Busy, it's finally time to set up a meeting between you and your new best friend. Find him here along with discreet delivery options

Are You a Novice User?

  • Would you consider yourself a novice when it comes to exploring yourself?
  • Is masturbation a subject that you don't really want to know too much about…?
  • Do you shy away from sharing about personal topics with your friends?
  • Do you think about you and your vagina as two separate entities…?

You were probably one of those girls that really paid attention at school… So it's unfortunate that they don't really discuss this subject there

You may also think that it's unfortunate that your libido isn't going to magically go away either… But it's going to be a happy time learning to live with it

For anyone, (but particularly someone who is a self-confessed novice) your first buy should be a straight out vibrator. Nothing flash, something that you can use, get comfortable with and get a feel for easily

Look for something that can give you stimulation on the clitoris as well as traditional penetration and rubbing of the G-spot. Other important points include something that is easy to clean, and quiet (so you can focus on whatever you want to focus on without disruption.)

G Spot Rabbit Vibrator
G Spot Rabbit Vibrator

Option 1: PALOQUETH G Spot Rabbit Vibrator

This vibrator covers most bases and will have your heart racing in no time…

The main reason I feel this is a great choice for novices is that the rabbit (the bit with what looks like two ears) is for direct clitoral stimulation, which is a very common and simple way to climax

As well as that, all the standard features apply here:

  • It's whisper quiet
  • 9 vibration modes
  • Easy to use
  • Easy to clean
  • Waterproof

And the angle of the shaft is ergonomically designed to hit your pleasure zone… over and over and over again

It also comes delivered in a very discreet box so not even the delivery man will know what's inside

To book your next special meeting with this special toy click or tap here

Option 2: Don't want another vibrator?

If you are a little more adventurous, you can start playing around with another erogenous zone.

This can add more pleasure and fun if you already have a trusty vibrator and you are a little curious to try something else.

If you are up for it you can try an anal trainer kit. The are four phalluses that come in different sizes so you can see where you belong and are easy to clean

My advice is to buy extra lube, only a sachet comes with the box

Are You Looking to Use Your Toy With a Partner?

  • Are you looking to help bring the ‘magic' back?
  • Is your intimacy time too ‘comfortable?'
  • Does your partner enjoy watching and/or using your bedroom toy?

Men are very visual creatures, so there's no better way to get his attention than to let him watch you

And after you have his attention, the right sex toy can help you encourage some participation…

You only need to make sure that the game is staged so that both parties are getting what they want

As a man, I can tell you that he will want to feel as though he is the one giving you the pleasure that you love, and not so much the toy

So if you are comfortable with giving him complete control, you can start off with something like this…

Thigh Cuffs


Option 1: Rachel's Pleasure Thigh Cuffs

Show him how vulnerable you are without his help with these thigh cuffs

They simply cuff your hands to your thighs which leaves you helpless and in quite a compromising position. (It won't take too long before he figures it out…)

Reasonably priced, well made and the thigh cuffs leave you in an easy position to hold (you don't have to be a yoga queen)

It's also a position that he will like and won't be able to resist

Get your set of these and bring the excitement back to your alone time. See delivery options here.

The only downside to these is that the one size fits all is kind of small. More voluptuous girls may want to try this instead

Option 2: Wearable Bluetooth Vibrator

If you really want to put him in charge, then this little gizmo is for you

All you need to do is put it on, give him the control and let him start the fun

Wearable Bluetooth Vibrator

This can work in the bedroom, around the house, or if you are really adventurous when you are both out in public

You'll enjoy the sensation and he will enjoy having control and giving you what you want

The 32-foot range means you won't know when it's coming and the 9 speeds will keep you guessing… until you get home

The sound is just under 40dB so it's not library quiet but subtle enough for dinner at a restaurant or a night on the town

Discover what the two of you can get away with when you put your naughty minds together. The wearable Bluetooth vibrator is here when you are ready for it

Are You Looking for More Than a Toy?

  • Do you own a drawer full of bedroom toys?
  • Does your interest extend beyond vibrators?
  • Are you looking for a new experience?

One of the most fun things to do is introduce new ways for you and your partner to enjoy each other

It can be hard, (no pun intended) but introducing new things is one way you can get a bit of that spark and passion back that you had when you first met

And if you have used toys to the point where they all seem the same then the good news is that there are other ways to spice things up…

Sex Swing

2nd Generation Sex Swing

If you are looking for a new thrill then this heavy duty, 2nd generation sex swing will help you reach new positions, angles, and spots that you never thought possible

Built around a steel frame and rated to 600lbs, there is now no excuse for slowing down

At first glance, it does look a little awkward. However, reviewers say that once you're set up an in a position the padding on the straps make it pretty comfortable and easy to relax

Great for those of us whose body can't catch up to our imaginations

2-year warranty on parts and available in a few colors, it will take some setting up but if you're looking for a new experience then this should get hubby's seal of approval. Here is everything you need to start that new experience

After it's all over

I hope that you have found something that suits your lifestyle. Thanks for reading this article on finding the best bedroom toys for yourself. If you have any questions, contact me here.

Language Of Desire Review – What’s Really In It and Is It Right For You & Your Relationship?

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Note: This is my review of the Language Of Desire program after getting a copy and reading/listening to it. Others may experience the program differently. I have used the program and my knowledge of other programs in writing this review.

IF YOU ARE READING THIS, IT’S LIKELY that your relationship isn’t exactly where you want it to be…

And the issue at the core is that your husband isn’t as open and honest with you as you’d like. Maybe you feel like he’s keeping things, or simply not telling you what he thinks, and you're tired of being kept ‘out of the loop’ and trying to put things together yourself.

I know as a man that it’s not that I don’t want to share, it’s that I feel like my wife doesn’t really want me to share. The good news is that how to overcome this problem, is in the program.

What is the Language Of Desire in one sentence?

An upfront and honest guide on how to build and strengthen your relationship with your man using intimacy.

The Language Of Desire (LOD)… in More Detail

At its core, LOD is a written and audio program designed to show you how to get your mans attention, keep it, and build a deeper relationship between the two of you.

The how is through sex.

The reason IS NOT that you have to ‘become a slut’ but actually because sex gets a mans attention… pretty much every time. It simply plain works. Your man doesn’t want you to become a slut. But he does want you to worship him among other factors. And due to the kids, the house, our careers and life in general, these factors get forgotten about or neglected in our relationships.

As well as the fact that we don’t really get taught how to build strong relationships, have great sex and increase our levels of intimacy with a partner… the only places that talk about these topics are movies, magazines, celebrity-based websites, and maybe friends…

But none of these are really great teachers.

Felicity Keith is the author of the Language Of Desire

Enter Felicity Keith

She had enough of what others were telling her because it wasn’t working. So she decided to figure it out for herself. And the Language Of Desire program is her manifesto/little-black-book. Her tell-all guide on what she found, and more importantly, how you can make a difference in your relationship with your man.

One of the best parts of this program is that it cuts the crap. (Which is why I was interested enough to get a copy and review it in the first place).

Simply put there are things that you can do to turn your intimacy around. And this book covers many of them.

It doesn’t cover everything. But if you're looking for something to do to get your intimacy back on the right track, or want something you can do pretty much straight away. This will give you those tools, techniques, and tips.

There’s also the reasons why covered in this program. Why a particular technique works, and what issue you are potentially solving with it. As well as how you can customize what you are doing to really get his attention.

For example, LOD reveals the tricks porn companies use to seduce men and keep them coming back for more. It also discloses exactly how women act in porn and exactly why it turns men on so much.

You will also learn why what you are currently doing is not working, and how your man sees it through his eyes. It’s a great eye opener as your actions may not convey what you are trying to tell him.

There is also a section in this program about how to get what you want. And how to supercharge your intimacy in your relationship, and bring him closer (the science behind that is in the program).

So without further adieu:

Note: If you want to go straight to the pros and cons and my verdict, then keep scrolling down in the review. The next section covers what you actually get in the program.

Language of Desire - Pack
Although there are packs and boxes shown here, the Language Of Desire is a digital download only.

What’s In Each Module In The Program

Module One: Introduction

Module Two: Become a Sexual Superwoman

  •     Learn to dump your fear over the “slut” label
  •     Determine your sexual boundaries
  •     Discover your growl-inducing Madonna Moan

Module Three: Loving Man’s Best Friend (hint: it’s not his dog)

  •     Understand the secrets of his sex drive
  •     Learn why his penis is so important to him
  •     Rethink pornography (this one is controversial!)
  •     Learn The Porn Destroyer

Module Four: Brain Chemistry and Sex

  •     Explore how desire and sex work with our primitive brain
  •     Using the potent Cuddle Hormone technique
  •     Have fun with Pavlov’s Erection technique
  •     Learn the power of Sexual Singularity

Module Five: Create an Erotic Action Movie

  •     Make him the star of your own sexy movie script
  •     Writing your script step by step
  •     Learn a variety of ways to share your movie with him

Module Six: Desire Intensifiers

  •     Masterfully crank up the sexual heat
  •     Make him pant with desire with the Tease Intensifier
  •     Learn a blow job to blow his mind with the Oral Intensifier
  •     Snap “him” to attention with Verbal Viagra

Module Seven: For the Single Ladies

  •     Use dirty talk effectively when dating
  •     Get him to commit with the Monogamous Male Maximizer
  •     How to go from Friend-Zone to Fantasy Girl

Module Eight: Getting Your Fantasies Met

  •     Planting desire seeds
  •     Have dirty fun with The Lust Mirror technique
  •     Practically read his mind using Erotic Telepathy
  •     Make him your hero with the Romance Rotator
  •     Explore your kinky side with 50 Shades of Experimenting

Module Nine: When “Sex” Isn’t Possible

  •     Getting around life’s sexual obstacle course
  •     Learn how to be dirty from a distance
  •     Use the No Touch Lay to keep things hot
  •     Learn about the Invisible Chastity Belt (it’s more fun than it sounds)

Module Ten: Master Class

  •     What if he’s a cold fish
  •     Overcome objections
  •     Fine-tune your technique
  •     Plan out your dirty deeds

Language Of Desire Bonus Content

Silent Seduction

Summary

This 12 page text guide is the body language accompaniment to the Language Of Desire program. The guide includes how to use your body to send signals straight to his subconscious brain, and how to amp up attraction and his attention when your out in a social group together. Caters for both single and those in a relationship.

My Opinion

Some good insights, some general knowledge, and plenty of techniques. This quick read is at the very least a good reminder of how to subtly get the message across and keep his attention squarely fixed on you.The techniques are kind of blunt so discretion is advised while practising them in public. Overall a good addition as there is something here for every woman.

Good Girl's Guide to Texting Dirty

Summary

This 15 page text guide includes 200 text messages to help you get over your creative block when it comes to getting things started with your man. The texts involve one liners, all the way through to intimate stories and private conversations over text. There are some introductory information here as well if your wondering which type of message you should pick.

My Opinion

A lot of templated text messages. This will help even the more subdued and shy get the message across. There are different types of messages including direct and indirect here, something for everyone. A great way for both of you to start the day.

Unstoppable Confidence with Michael Griswold

Summary

This 90 minute audio (with transcription) is an interview with the relationship coach Michael Griswold (interviewed by Michael Fiore.) It covers:

  • The one most desirable trait that men find in a woman (it isn’t what you think it is)
  • The two things (Michael G thinks) a woman needs to do to get a man to fall in love with her
  • The three types of women Michael sees when doing his relationship work

… Along with many other areas of interest

My opinion

This 90 minute conversation includes some new insights and different ways of looking at different relationship dynamics. It is quite casual (almost like a conversation) and a lot is covered. This isn’t going to suit everyone. The particular information along with how it is delivered isn’t for everyone, but it’s good to listen to get a difference in opinion.

It’s important to note that Michael G is covering information that is different from the main program, and this bonus doesn’t add to LOD, it gives a different perspective.

The Language Of Desire Program – What you will learn:

  • The powerful little secret that will make your man addicted to you and re-energize the intimacy in your marriage
  • How to protect your relationship and create a bond so strong other women won't be able to make your man stray
  • What you can do to get his erection on a string for you to control
  • The phrase you can use to start a open and honest conversation with him, if he’s always telling you what he's really thinking
  • What you can text to him right now that will have him thinking about you all day and very excited to see you when you get home
  • One thing men hate about relationships with particular women, and how you can avoid it
  • How you can get and keep his attention while he is engrossed in something else
  • How to build a portfolio of experiences he loves in your relationship that will bond you two forever
  • How to subtly change your relationship from more like roommates to lovers again
  • How to grow your connection and his confidence in your relationship
  • Why men hate nagging, how to identify it and a simple technique to fix it
  • Why your man might be sexually repressed and how you can help him get in touch with his inner stag – binding him to you forever
  • The 6 fantasy themes and how to identify how your man fantasies about sex when your not around
  • How to make your man become more attentive and romantic
  • Why your sex life isn’t what it used to be, and how to get it back on track
  • How you can turn a mundane situation, into an intimate one
  • How to keep him thinking about you, even when he’s hundreds of miles away
  • The best way to use your past intimate experiences, to create new future experiences
  • What to do when he doesn’t respond to your advances the way he used to
  • The vital elements of planning your intimate time with your man
  • And quite a bit more!

Felicity Keith is the author of the Language Of Desire

A Quick Note on ‘Who is Felicity Keith?’

The LanguageOfDesire.com says that Felicity Keith is a regular woman who, after a relationship shock has taken the time to learn about relationships, men and women and what they want.

Although I haven’t spoken to Felicity directly, she reads the audio version of the program. She also uses email to ‘check in’ after you get the program to see how you are doing and deliver a few more pointers.

PROS and CONS

PROS

Real

This program is Felicity’s experience. While going through the program, she will drop in stories or bits and pieces about her life which I think make the program more relatable.

It’s easy to tell from the program that she is quite experienced in this area, and has knowledge. Because of this, she breaks things down really well and makes them quite easys to understand and follow. She doesn’t hold back either, it’s quite a comprehensive program.

Plenty of done for you

There are tasks that you need to do in this  program, but as far as wanting to get started straight away there is plenty templates and done-for-you samples that you can use to get started.

You could literally be texting or telling him something you learned 20 minutes after getting your copy. As a man, these techniques would work on me. So you will be sure to get a rise out of him.

Plenty of exercises

They will take work. About 2 weeks i reckon

They will stretch your comfort zone in a good way. Even if you just work on one or two of them to begin with.

CONS

Audio

I like having the audio program to listen to in the car and when I can't read. But the quality is poor. It sounds like Felicity (who also reads the program) is on the other end of a phone line. Also the audio files aren’t ordered when you download it. So if you want to listen to the whole thing in order, you will need to organize it yourself before putting it in your car.

Layout

The program comes in a PDF. But there isn’t much logical flow, and i found myself getting confused at which point i was in the program. Especially at the start. Even when following the pdf i felt a little lost. The modules seem to be independent, which is good, but when first going through it i didn’t like it.

Explicit Content

This program is not for the easily offended or women who simply don’t want to go into depth about sex and changing how you look at your relationship in the bedroom.

The program centres itself around sex. The program delves into some of the rauncher aspects of life. This may be an issue for some readers. The program is quite explicit in it’s language. Felicity doesn’t hold back in what to say and do. Some of the ideas and techniques might also be a bit much for some.

Overall (My Opinion)

Felicity, is well versed and you can tell her experience when going through the program. She answers the most common questions in FAQ sections along the way. There is also a customer support email that you can use to ask any questions you might have. Felicity talks about comments, although i cannot see where to leave any (i assume email customer support)

There is plenty of ideas, techniques, tips, stories and samples in this program. In this way it is a good way to get started. It is also a good way to get into things.

What some people may not like is that it does cover a lot of sexual stuff. You may not be comfortable with some of the stuff (some would be weird for me), but the program does give a wide selection, there will be a few things here that you will want to try.

There is a good mix between theory and action here. You can understand why it works and there are some examples and guides on what to do next. Step by step.

This program isn’t going to fix all your problems. But there is a lot of tools in here to help a intimacy starved relationship.

Mr Recommendation (after having gone through the program)

Something important to note is that the Language Of Desire is mostly about meeting his needs. There is a section in the program about getting your needs met. But i think generally, The theory i think behind it is, if you make him happy, he will make you happy.

So, if your after something that is focused on making you happy then there could be two things.. Either this isn’t the program for you, or you will have to be patient and see what your man does after you follow the program.

This program will educate you to become a better partner, and lover. While reading and listening, there were at least a few points that I did not know, or had misconceptions about particular things that LOD helped me identify.

Overall i do recommend this program. I would think that after this program the quality of your relationship will improve.

I think it’s likely that you will take at least 2-3 things away from it and use them on your man. He will be happily surprised and going through the program and understanding what he wants will lead your relationship with him on a new trajectory.

You can get your copy here

And if you have any further questions about the program, you can ask them here and I will get back to you.

Thanks for reading my Language Of Desire Review.

“My Husband Wants a Divorce but Still Sleeps With Me…” – The PROS and CONS of Sex with Undecided Husbands

Husband sleeping while wife wonders what she should do when he has asked for divorce but still keeps sleeping with her

Husband sleeping while wife wonders what she should do when he has asked for divorce but still keeps sleeping with her

HAS YOUR HUSBAND ASKED YOU for a divorce but says that he will miss you and doesn’t want to give you up? Does he keep sending you mixed signals? Does he go as far as wanting to make love with you? You are frustrated and very confused.

Are you wondering ‘What does he really want?’ Because when you decide to divorce your spouse, aren’t you letting them go in every sense of the word?

Contrary to what you may think, many spouses have reported continuing having sex with their soon to be ex-spouses for a variety of reasons. After all, sex with your almost sex is familiar, probably comforting and the absurdity and the naughtiness makes it all too hot.

Why your soon to be ex-husband wants to have sex with you

  • Your husband could be finding sex with you familiar and convenient, even though you are separated. He knows what he is getting. He may not be ready to date, but he still gets his needs met in the comfort of your home.
  • Being intimate could be part of the grieving process for him: the funeral sex. Sex at this stage could really be a way for him to grieve, heal and say goodbye to you.
  • Again, it could be because of the looming divorce, things are much nicer and calmer. There is no fighting, and the pressure is off. You have gotten some me-time, you are taking care of yourself and you have probably started working out. You're looking much better than you have looked in a long time and he has noticed. He is attracted to you all over again.
  • It could also be that your husband is conflicted about the looming divorce. This can especially be the case when he sees how much you are hurting. Having sex with you could be his way of comforting you.
  • Your husband could be finding it hard to turn off his feelings for you. Just because he wants to divorce you does not necessarily mean that he no longer loves you or that he doesn’t wish that things were different. He is probably only dissatisfied with the marriage he has with you at present, but he does not know how to fix things. Feelings do not just disappear just because the marriage is in trouble.

My Husband Wants a Divorce but Still Sleeps With Me - Women thinking what to do, weighing up pros and cons

Sex: To have it or not

The little window of time between the separation and divorce is very significant; a lot of important things can happen. It is also when a definite decision will be made to either save or kill the marriage. Many times, you will be willing to do whatever you need to do to keep your family together: including having sex with your spouse.

This is completely honorable considering how much you desire to save your marriage. However, it is highly advisable that you should have sex with your eyes wide open (no pun intended).

Why you should make love with your separated husband

Many times, a marriage could be in trouble despite the fact that the spouses love each other. The love is there, but the ability to make a healthy and fulfilling marriage is not.

Your husband may therefore still have loving feelings towards you only that he does not know how to make your marriage more fulfilling. If you perceive this to the case, then, by all means, go ahead and sleep with your husband. During sex, oxytocin is produced. Oxytocin is also produced during touching and kissing with the highest amounts being released during orgasm.

Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that plays a significant role in bonding spouses together. Having sex may, therefore, set both of you on a journey back to closeness.

Of course, sex alone will not fix your marriage since there is something that is keeping the feelings between the two of you from being sufficient to make your husband stay. You must, therefore, work through whatever the issues might be:

  • A conflict that keeps cropping up
  • Lack of intimacy and therefore drifting apart
  • Communication breakdown
  • Money issues

As you work through your problems, sex will help your feelings to once again take the center stage, followed by the commitment to your marriage.

The big question is, is your husband honest when he says that he still loves you?

Reasons to not have sex with your separated husband

Do you want to save your marriage or just let go? Do you still love your partner? Is your marriage worth saving? Is there any chance of saving your marriage? Only you can answer these questions.

If you have no desire to save your marriage, having sex with your husband is probably a bad idea. Having sex with your husband will not only slow down your healing process but severely compromise your efforts to move on.

Having sex with your husband is also inadvisable if he is involved with another person sexually. Even if you saved this marriage, you would have given your husband the message that you are willing to be intimate with him even when you know he is concurrently having sexual relations with someone else. Is this the message you want to send?

Also, it is almost impossible to compete with an illicit lover. Illicit love is very exciting: the exaggeration of the emotions and the thrill of doing something forbidden. You will find it hard to match up to your husband’s illicit sex when you are emotionally drained by your impending divorce.

If your husband has truly decided to end your marriage, the bonding and closeness that sex brings might set you up for disappointment. If he insists on moving on, having sex with him will set you up for more misery by creating within yourself false hope.

Final thoughts

So, what do we say about having sex with your husband even after he has asked for you for a divorce? The decision is yours.

Just a small word of caution, though. Do not allow sex with your partner to go on for too long if he is not deciding to get back together with you. You will be stuck in ‘Limbo land,' and it won’t be good for you.

Also, bear in mind that there is no such thing as meaningless sex with someone whom you still have feelings for. And you can never call it casual when you are embroiled in the inherent misery of a looming divorce.

Many women have experienced the pain and confusion that inevitably accompanies sex with a soon to be ex. If it is clear you are headed for a divorce, put on the breaks.

Give yourself and your marriage some space. You have many decisions to make and negotiations to settle. You need to navigate the divorce with a clear mind. Love yourself enough to allow yourself time and distance to move on.

Thanks for reading. If you were asking ‘my husband wants a divorce but still sleeps with me' I hope this has gone some way to answering your questions.

If you have a question, query or comment, you can get in contact with me here

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