The 10 Best Books About Love And Relationships to Help You Understand Your Man

books about love and relationships - Woman reading with man in library

books about love and relationships - Woman reading with man in library

IT'S FUNNY HOW AS MEN we expect our partners to know…

    • What we're thinking
    • How we're feeling
      and
    • What our expectations are

But for some reason… we don't tell our partners

Here to reveal what actually makes us tick are the 10 insightful books below

They'll to turn you from ‘Nun-level-man-knowledge' into a ‘Man-psychic'

Although when you get there, I wouldn't start explaining to your husband what he's going to do next…

Enjoy

1. His Secret Obsession – James Bauer

Discover his single most important drive in life

His Secret Obsession - Digital copies only available

What is the missing ingredient in your marriage? Do you suffer from a lack of communication, romance, or sex?

While all of these issues are very important, James Bauer's breakthrough book, ‘His Secret Obsession‘ reveals the one amazing factor that WILL make a MAJOR difference in your relationship.

If you are tired of your man being cold and standoffish, then this is the one book you need to read! Learn:

  • What men secretly want but will never tell you
  • How to enjoy a deeper more loving relationship
  • How you can get his attention the right way by using some simple conversation starters

Read my in-depth review here or go straight to the website

2. Text the Romance Back – Michael Fiore

How to really capture his attention…

Text the Romance Back - Michael Fiore

Does it seem like you and your significant other have watched the romance in your relationship slowly slip away?

Michael Fiore will show you how to put modern technology to work for you. He explains how texting lends itself to recreating that connected feeling and how you can Text the Romance” back into your relationship.

Discover:

  • Why the way couples communicate makes it the main reason so many marriages fall apart
  • The 8 different types of text messages that he has no choice but to listen to
  • Done-for-you messages that you can send within 5 minutes of receiving your copy of ‘Text the Romance Back

Read a more in-depth review here or get your copy here

3. Devotion System – Amy North

Get your man to recommit….

The Devotion System - Amy North

There's nothing more demoralizing than being in a relationship in which your partner decides he isn't sure what he wants

If you are tired of feeling like your man is waiting to see what the wind might blow in then “The Devotion System” is just what you need

Learn;

  • Why men pull away
  • How to put texting to work to draw him in
  • How to get your man to dream about spending the rest of his life with you

This book is easy to follow and comes with several bonuses. Grab your copy here and rediscover how to keep him devoted to you

There's also a detailed review here.

4. For Women Only- Shaunti Feldhahn

A Christian guide to understanding men

Most men keep their feelings close to their chest. And while he might not want to talk about them, he still wants you to “get” him

In “For Women Only“, best-selling author Shaunti Feldhahn explains men from a Christian viewpoint in a way that's easy to follow and simple to understand.

This book is filled with practical ideas that have helped millions around the world make successful changes to their relationship. Including;

• Why your respect means more to him than your love
• How he feels deep inside about his role as provider
• What it means for a man to be so visually “wired”
• Why sex for him is primarily emotional, not physical
• What he most wishes he could say to you

What are you waiting for? Get your copy and read other reviews here

5. The Male Brain – Louann Brezindine

A scientific look at the male brain

Ever wondered why boys can't sit still and why their interest in the physical side of sex is so strong?

In this breakthrough follow-up to her best-selling book “The Female Brain,” author Louann Brezindine uses easy to understand anecdotes to decode the male mind.

In doing so, she turns scientific gobbledygook into an enjoyable read. Learn:

  • How hormones affect men as they reach puberty
  • The cutting-edge research that overturns everything you thought you knew about the male brain
  • The typical male stereotypes that don't exist anymore

This book is a bit broader than the others, so if you're into a more holistic approach to the subject of men get your copy here

6. What We Guys Really Want, Really – Bryan Bruce

How to make him happy…

In his ‘ultimate guide to the male psychology and sexual behavior', Bryan Bruce delves the reader deep into the male psyche

And the outcome is that it's not as complex as many women think it is. In fact in this book you will learn:

  • The truth behind why men cheat
  • Why they are afraid of committing
  • How men reveal their real selves just by their actions

Based on scientific research, useful and loaded with good advice this book is definitely a primer for those who want to keep their man

The only caveat is that it does make men look a little simple in places. But if you want to keep it simple, then he will thank you for reading this (in his own way that you'll only understand by reading this).

Get your copy here.

7. Texts So Good He Can't Ignore – Bruce Bryans

Texts so good he'll be begging to see you….

Everyone says texting has no feeling, yet in “Texts So Good He Can't Ignore You,” Bruce Bryans teaches you how to use a mans emotions to capture his attention.

He shows you how to make your texts to men stand out from those ones you usually send about picking up some more milk. Learn:

  • How men appraise the texts sent by a woman
  • How to flirt and tease your way to becoming his number one priority
  • Sample texts you can copy and send to get instant results

Bruce will show you how your texts can make him pursue you again like he used to.

When you're ready to make the most out of every text, then your copy for ‘Texts So Good He Can't Ignore' is here

8. The 7 Irresistible Qualities Men Want in A Woman – Bruce Bryans

Learn what it takes to get a man to commit

In his concise book, Bruce Bryans talks about what a “high-quality” man wants in his mate.

To do this, Bruce shows you how to understand what your man is interested. He also covers plenty of other topics including:

  • Learn what it takes to get a man to commit
  • How to keep your man happy
  • What real men find attractive

This book is more opinion than fact and is written primarily for single women, but has enough advice for relationships to be relevant here.

Want to know what the 7 qualities are? Find out here.

9. He Comes Next – Ian Kenner PhD

The thinking woman's guide to pleasuring a man….

In this follow up to his smash hit bestseller “She Comes First,” author Ian Kenner discusses what it takes to turn a man on and keep him turned on

Included is how to get your man to relax and enjoy a full range of stimulation rather than focusing on his erection (or lack thereof) and orgasm (or lack thereof)

Ian goes step-by-step with clear, concise details for every technique he discusses in the book with the goal of teaching you how to give your man the ultimate in sexual pleasure. He also covers:

  • What he wants to tell you about pleasing him, but can't
  • The inside of a man's mind when he is aroused
  • How love and sex are interconnected for men

This book has had some mixed reviews, but overall the information is good. Get your copy and start pleasing him how he wants to be pleased here.

10. Secret Survey – Michael Fiore

The ultimate guide to understanding men….

Secret Survey - Michael Fiore

Secret Survey by Michael Fiore is the perfect program for any woman who has ever felt lost, confused, even overwhelmed when trying to deal with men

It is a step-by-step, full-length guide to relationships and what you should be doing to make a long-term relationship work

Written for women, this guide is designed to help you better understand the male psyche and to put this knowledge to work for you. Included is:

  • Why you've been lied to by every man you've ever met and what they've lied about
  • What your husband actually thinks about you
  • How to interpret ‘men speak' and the real reason why men are so difficult to understand

Very easy to follow and understand this book covers a lot of questions about the man and men in your life. Get your copy here.

In Summary

Thanks for reading my best books about love and relationships recommendations. They are worth reading and I do keep this list updated. If you have anything to add, you can contact me here.

“Husband Angry All The Time?” How His Pent-up Anger Effects Your Marriage

Angry husband with wife

Husband angry all the time and sitting with wife

LIVING WITH AN ANGRY HUSBAND IS LIKE living at the base of an active volcano.

You are always alert, anticipating the next eruption. You stay in a constant state of hyper-vigilance; always looking for ways to cover for him.

And you spend all your energy keeping his anger from swamping the entire family.

Understanding Anger

Anger is just a form of emotional energy. It is not yelling and screaming. And it is not violence. Anger can be both constructive and destructive.

However, since many people have seen more of unhealthy expressions of anger, they only associate anger with negative things.

Anybody can become angry; that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree, and at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way: that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy. – Aristotle

Healthy versus unhealthy anger in the marriage

Anger the emotion is not bad by itself. It is the choices that one makes in expressing the anger that makes the difference in the health of a marriage.

A spouse who expresses his anger healthily is able to talk about his feelings in a calm manner. Also, he does not try to manipulate the partner’s behavior.

Instead, he expresses himself, makes a request and is willing to accept the answer. When he realizes that his anger is escalating, he takes time out since he recognizes that he will not be logical and rational anymore. He can then revisit the topic at a later time once he has calmed down.

Unhealthy anger, on the other hand, is constant. The person seems ready to snap over little things, is always irritated by the spouse and those around him and he argues for the sake of arguing.

This anger also seeks to control the spouse and is often used as a weapon. It can also be used to punish the partner through things like silent treatment, withholding sex and sabotaging the partner’s efforts.

At the extreme, unhealthy anger is abusive. The abuse can either be verbal: calling names, intimidation, and threats; restricting the partner’s interactions; financial or even physical abuse.

Fact: While other emotions are healed in the presence of love, anger is blind and usually cannot see or receive the care that is being offered.

Anger and the sexless marriage

One cause for lack of intimacy in marriage is anger. If your husband expresses his anger disrespectfully, this will build resentment in you.

Over time, this resentment may evolve to dislike and even hatred for him. And how can you possibly be intimate with someone whom you do not like?

Another way an angry husband expresses himself is through constant criticism of his wife.

Criticism in a marriage is like water dripping on a rock. Slowly, the rock will be eroded. If you are regularly made to feel like you cannot do anything right, that you do not measure up to certain expectations, this will affect the quality of your intimacy.

At some point, you will become resentful and even angry even if you may not admit it. With time, you will find it completely difficult to be intimate with your husband. Sex will either be a chore or the most unpleasant thing that you have to endure in the relationship.

Your husband’s anger will drive you to depression.

A study by the University of Missouri has revealed that angry husbands can cause depression in their wives. In the study, researchers observed video clips of 416 married couples interacting at home.

The study found that husbands’ treatment of their wives dramatically influences their psychological wellness. Criticism and hostility have a lasting effect on the wives' wellbeing. It was further found that the effects of husbands’ anger on the wives continue throughout the marriages.

Anger begets anger: your marriage will produce angry children

Experts say that children learn how to form relationships from their parents through observation and social learning.

Your children will watch you and either learn the skills of problem-solving and conflict resolution; which lead to healthy relationships or distress, anxiety, and aggression; which lead to unhealthy relationships.

Experts indicate that anger is contagious. Unhealthy anger in all forms of its expression: violence and aggression is a learned behavior. This is the reason why children who are brought up in families with violence are more likely to be more aggressive to their own romantic partners.

Children learn to identify with the aggressor since they discover that the parent (in this case the dad) who yells the loudest gets his way. Anger, aggression, and hostility become a way of life.

Evidence also indicates that if children are exposed to prolonged anger and aggression, they may experience brain and hormonal changes due to fear.

They freeze in response to loud voices and anger. Later in life, the effects show up in the form of promiscuity, alcohol and drug abuse, codependency and eating disorders.

Don’t worry that children never listen to you. Worry that they are always watching you. – Robert Fulghum

You will have an unhappy marriage

You were probably bewildered the first time you witnessed your husband’s angry outburst. But with subsequent eruptions, you have realized that your husband does not respect you.

Eventually, you will be put off by his immature and unreasonable behavior, and you will not have the patience to give him any attention. Your relationship will deteriorate.

Also, how can you be happy with someone you are scared of?

How can you:

  • Love him when you resent the way he treats you?
  • Laugh with yelling and angry shouting going on?
  • Want to spend any time that you do not have to spend with someone you resent?

Your marriage will not survive on the thin ice of lost love forever. It will eventually crumble under the pressure of anger.

Final thoughts

Anger coping mechanisms are entrenched in an individual, and they cannot change unless your husband makes a strong commitment to handle his anger more healthily. Your husband needs a structured program of anger management to learn how to break this destructive behavior.

Do not even for a minute think that you can change your husband’s anger patterns overnight. After all, he has had many years to practice before meeting you.

Ultimately, remember that you get what you put up with, not what you deserve. If you excuse, forgive and allow your husband’s repeated outbursts, why on earth should you expect him to change?

What you can  do

Make your husband ineffective in getting what he wants through anger. He has to learn that shouting, threatening and withdrawing will not get him what he wants.

If you give in to his anger, you will never get him to give up using anger as a manipulating tool. Be firm in your refusal; do not have any discussion about it.

Refusing to argue helps to put the issue to rest quickly so that you can both move on to other things. The next time you see him, be friendly and pretend like nothing ever happened. He will know how to treat you better, anger issues or not.

Thanks for reading this article on the effects on your marriage of when your husband angry all the time. You can contact me here if you have a question or query.

7 Things Every Husband Desires From His Wife… But Will Never Ask

Ways to Make a Man Feel Deeply Attached To You - Let him know you appreciate what he is doing

things every husband desires from his wife - Let him know you appreciate what he is doing

HOW AWESOME WOULD IT BE TO have your dream guy desire you and only you forever? To never fear that he will be attracted to other women while he is in a relationship with you…

While attracting his attention is one thing, getting him to develop a deep emotional attachment to you is another.

Why emotional attachment?

Emotional attachment is what will make a guy want to spend the rest of his life with you. It is what will make him go out of his way to make you happy.

Indeed, it is this attachment that will motivate your man to yearn to spend as much quality time with you as possible. It is because of emotional intimacy that your man will be blind to the miniskirts and push-up bras all around him, and come home to you every night.

It’s when he chooses you because he feels something he cannot get with anyone else. It’s on another level to physical attraction, commonalities or even compatibility. And it’s the level you want to be on to keep your dream guy coming back to you.

So how do you play at this level? Here are the 7 rungs to the emotional attachment ladder you need to climb to get there

things every husband desires from his wife - Make time for him

1. Believe that love can last forever

There is nothing as painful as losing your man to someone else. While statistics on the success of relationships are not encouraging, research shows that many couples are still deeply in love after decades together. Scientists say that love can last – much more than we give it credit for.

Indeed, research in neuroscience has proven that intense romantic love can last a lifetime. It is, therefore, possible to not only get into a great relationship with your dream man, but it is also possible to nurture a fulfilling, long-lasting relationship. The secret is in creating a deep emotional intimacy with him.

2. Change your mindset

Many women work hard to attract the men of their dreams, but deep down they do not believe that they can experience long-lasting relationships. Your mindset is critical to the success of your relationship.

Consider the following beliefs that some of us hamper:

  • A man will always look for something more outside the relationship.
  • It is not going to work out, men always leave.
  • A man will always feel attraction for other women. 80% of long-term relationships fail anyway.
  • One woman cannot meet all the needs of a man.

These kinds of negative thoughts will sabotage your relationship even before it has started. If you bring fear, doubt, and reservation to your relationship, you will never form a deep emotional attachment to your partner.

Your mindset will determine the fate of your relationship. To develop a deep attachment to your man, you have to come from a position of power and faith.

Here is an interesting fact:

As a woman, you are always influencing your partner. No matter what is happening around you, you can fulfill a man so much that he is so attracted to you that he does not notice any other woman. Haven’t you heard of men who have stuck to their wives like glue for life, completely in love?

You must have enough be confidence in yourself to believe that you can be enough for one man; forever. Once you have this confidence, you will attract commitment and devotion from your man.

You have no idea how much influence you have on your man when you dare to acknowledge that you already have it within you to be more than enough for your man for life.

3. Worship your man in the bedroom

To make a man feel deeply attracted to you, make him feel like your personal sex deity. Men love sex because it boosts their ego. For a man, sex is not just a physical activity.

Fact: A man who is in a serious relationship equates sex with love. It is his way of connecting with you. During sex, the bonding hormone: dopamine is released. During those intimate moments, oxytocin is also produced. Oxytocin is responsible for increasing a man’s attraction for you.

If you know your man well enough, you can keep these bonding chemicals flowing in his brain:

  • Discover your man’s sexual triggers and how to push his buttons to make him obsessed with you. Be open with your sexual affection.
  • Touch and caress your man lovingly and tenderly whenever an opportunity arises. This soothes him and invites him into an emotional connection.
  • Learn how to receive your man’s touch. Whenever your man touches you, relax into it like butter on a hot blade. Melt in his warmth.
  • Don’t be afraid to initiate sex. This excites your man and shows him that you want him as much as he wants you.

4. Become his haven

Through the passage of time, men have been elevated to close to perfection status: The ‘knight in shining armor syndrome.’ The man is expected to be strong, complete and whole in all the areas of his life. This has put tremendous pressure on many men. Many women attach a person to their man that he cannot possibly live up to.

The man has been denied the opportunity to have weaknesses, to cry, to fail, to be human. What unrealistic expectations many women have for their men! The truth is, like any other human being, your man needs a soft place to fall.

  • Offer him emotional and physical safety. Has he had a bad day? The moment he gets home, he should feel that he is walking into his haven. In your presence, he is not judged, and he feels protected from the world. Your emotional bond will never be broken.
  • Give him space to let his emotions out. The more your man can be himself around you, the more emotionally attached he will become.
  • Keep your man’s secrets. When he knows that he can come to you and share whatever is in his mind, you will become his confidant; his best friend. If he truly feels in his heart that he can trust you, he will never feel the need to stray away. He will genuinely let his guard down and become even more attached to you.

Teach your man that you have his back, that he can trust you like no other person on this planet. You will form an emotional bond that no one and nothing can break.

Rather than feel terribly disappointed when your man falls short, ask yourself, ‘how better you can support him?’

5. Build his adrenaline

Boredom can be a massive obstacle to emotional connection. You will form a stronger emotional bond if you keep things interesting. Research shows that couples who experience strong emotional attachment are those who enjoy participating in challenging and new activities.

In a relationship, you will sometimes get into those grey areas where nothing exciting is going on. Shaking things up now and then with something exciting is a good idea. When you get your man’s heart pumping, it tricks his brain into thinking that his excitement is arousal at being with you. This creates a deeper connection with you.

Remember: it is not how much time you spend together. It is how you spend the time that will increase your emotional attachment. And it does not have to be something elaborate. Seek out simple mentally challenging ways to break and spice up your daily routines.

6. Be supportive of his time alone

According to author Deborah Tannen, suffocating a man by denying him some free time is the fastest way to kill a relationship. A man needs breathing room in a relationship for his hobbies, his friends and to tail away on his projects so that he can feel fulfilled.

Dr. Rick Nauert says that giving a man space is especially important if he is under stress. He needs time to concentrate, reflect and figure out the next step.

  • If you can learn to sense when your man needs a break, all the better. Always set a time when your man will be back and make plans for later. You will always have more to talk about.
  • Smile when he says he is off to his man cave; give him a kiss. Your man will always feel seen, heard and treasured.

Finally,

7. Always make him feel like he is your hero

Men want to be needed. He wants to feel like he adds to your life something that you cannot get anywhere else.

Have your man do things for you. Even if you can open that jar by yourself, having him open it will make him feel great about himself and more connected to you. Your man needs you to need him in your life. Period.

Praise your guy for all his accomplishments. You need to be his number one fan. He will want to excel in everything including your relationship. The emotional intimacy will grow because he knows he will always get a pat on his back.

Express gratitude for all the things he does for you. He does not make an effort to make you happy for no reason. Do not just be grateful for the nice things that he does for you, but for all his sacrifices out there to make you happy.

Affirm your man: Let him know that you believe that he can do whatever he puts his mind to because of all the fantastic qualities that he possesses. Men have tender egos. A man needs frequent reassurance about himself: his attractiveness, his career path and his efficacy as a partner. So let your praise loose.

Fact: The more your praise his positives, the more you will see them.

Remember, creating a deep connection with your man is all about engaging and connecting with him on ways that stimulate him. Focus your attention on your man now and then and ask yourself how you can make him feel special. If you do this it will help you will effortlessly thrive in your relationship.

If you want to know more about how men work, then I recommend you watch this short video on how men view commitment and relationships. It is an eye-opener.

Thanks for reading my guide on things every husband desires from his wife. If you have any comments queries or questions you can contact me here.

“My Husband Wants a Divorce but Still Sleeps With Me…” – The PROS and CONS of Sex with Undecided Husbands

Husband sleeping while wife wonders what she should do when he has asked for divorce but still keeps sleeping with her

Husband sleeping while wife wonders what she should do when he has asked for divorce but still keeps sleeping with her

HAS YOUR HUSBAND ASKED YOU for a divorce but says that he will miss you and doesn’t want to give you up? Does he keep sending you mixed signals? Does he go as far as wanting to make love with you? You are frustrated and very confused.

Are you wondering ‘What does he really want?’ Because when you decide to divorce your spouse, aren’t you letting them go in every sense of the word?

Contrary to what you may think, many spouses have reported continuing having sex with their soon to be ex-spouses for a variety of reasons. After all, sex with your almost sex is familiar, probably comforting and the absurdity and the naughtiness makes it all too hot.

Why your soon to be ex-husband wants to have sex with you

  • Your husband could be finding sex with you familiar and convenient, even though you are separated. He knows what he is getting. He may not be ready to date, but he still gets his needs met in the comfort of your home.
  • Being intimate could be part of the grieving process for him: the funeral sex. Sex at this stage could really be a way for him to grieve, heal and say goodbye to you.
  • Again, it could be because of the looming divorce, things are much nicer and calmer. There is no fighting, and the pressure is off. You have gotten some me-time, you are taking care of yourself and you have probably started working out. You're looking much better than you have looked in a long time and he has noticed. He is attracted to you all over again.
  • It could also be that your husband is conflicted about the looming divorce. This can especially be the case when he sees how much you are hurting. Having sex with you could be his way of comforting you.
  • Your husband could be finding it hard to turn off his feelings for you. Just because he wants to divorce you does not necessarily mean that he no longer loves you or that he doesn’t wish that things were different. He is probably only dissatisfied with the marriage he has with you at present, but he does not know how to fix things. Feelings do not just disappear just because the marriage is in trouble.

My Husband Wants a Divorce but Still Sleeps With Me - Women thinking what to do, weighing up pros and cons

Sex: To have it or not

The little window of time between the separation and divorce is very significant; a lot of important things can happen. It is also when a definite decision will be made to either save or kill the marriage. Many times, you will be willing to do whatever you need to do to keep your family together: including having sex with your spouse.

This is completely honorable considering how much you desire to save your marriage. However, it is highly advisable that you should have sex with your eyes wide open (no pun intended).

Why you should make love with your separated husband

Many times, a marriage could be in trouble despite the fact that the spouses love each other. The love is there, but the ability to make a healthy and fulfilling marriage is not.

Your husband may therefore still have loving feelings towards you only that he does not know how to make your marriage more fulfilling. If you perceive this to the case, then, by all means, go ahead and sleep with your husband. During sex, oxytocin is produced. Oxytocin is also produced during touching and kissing with the highest amounts being released during orgasm.

Oxytocin is a powerful hormone that plays a significant role in bonding spouses together. Having sex may, therefore, set both of you on a journey back to closeness.

Of course, sex alone will not fix your marriage since there is something that is keeping the feelings between the two of you from being sufficient to make your husband stay. You must, therefore, work through whatever the issues might be:

  • A conflict that keeps cropping up
  • Lack of intimacy and therefore drifting apart
  • Communication breakdown
  • Money issues

As you work through your problems, sex will help your feelings to once again take the center stage, followed by the commitment to your marriage.

The big question is, is your husband honest when he says that he still loves you?

Reasons to not have sex with your separated husband

Do you want to save your marriage or just let go? Do you still love your partner? Is your marriage worth saving? Is there any chance of saving your marriage? Only you can answer these questions.

If you have no desire to save your marriage, having sex with your husband is probably a bad idea. Having sex with your husband will not only slow down your healing process but severely compromise your efforts to move on.

Having sex with your husband is also inadvisable if he is involved with another person sexually. Even if you saved this marriage, you would have given your husband the message that you are willing to be intimate with him even when you know he is concurrently having sexual relations with someone else. Is this the message you want to send?

Also, it is almost impossible to compete with an illicit lover. Illicit love is very exciting: the exaggeration of the emotions and the thrill of doing something forbidden. You will find it hard to match up to your husband’s illicit sex when you are emotionally drained by your impending divorce.

If your husband has truly decided to end your marriage, the bonding and closeness that sex brings might set you up for disappointment. If he insists on moving on, having sex with him will set you up for more misery by creating within yourself false hope.

Final thoughts

So, what do we say about having sex with your husband even after he has asked for you for a divorce? The decision is yours.

Just a small word of caution, though. Do not allow sex with your partner to go on for too long if he is not deciding to get back together with you. You will be stuck in ‘Limbo land,' and it won’t be good for you.

Also, bear in mind that there is no such thing as meaningless sex with someone whom you still have feelings for. And you can never call it casual when you are embroiled in the inherent misery of a looming divorce.

Many women have experienced the pain and confusion that inevitably accompanies sex with a soon to be ex. If it is clear you are headed for a divorce, put on the breaks.

Give yourself and your marriage some space. You have many decisions to make and negotiations to settle. You need to navigate the divorce with a clear mind. Love yourself enough to allow yourself time and distance to move on.

Thanks for reading. If you were asking ‘my husband wants a divorce but still sleeps with me' I hope this has gone some way to answering your questions.

If you have a question, query or comment, you can get in contact with me here

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His Secret Obsession Review – My Honest Opinion Including 3 PROS and 3 CONS

His Secret Obsession - Files downloaded on computer

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NOT UNDERSTANDING WHAT MEN ARE DOING AND WHY, can leave you very frustrated…. Sometimes enough to give up on men altogether!

But when you do understand him, and you understand him enough to start influencing his behavior, for the betterment of you, him and your relationship… That’s where being in a relationship really comes into its own. And in comes the fun and joy of sharing your life with someone.

The His Secret Obsession program attempts to bridge women and men together, through education of his behavior and motivations.

His Secret Obsession - Files downloaded on computer
The His Secret Obsession files downloaded onto my computer

What is it in one sentence?

This is a guide to help women be in control of their relationships with men. By working with men's primal drives and instincts rather than against them.

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His Secret Obsession (HSO) Summary

The course is mostly text and audio versions of that text. There are 2 extras which are video.

Main course (&Bonuses):

  • Text – Yes
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – No

Extras

  • Text – Yes
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – Yes

Who is HSO for?

  • Who is it for
  • Married
  • Engaged
  • Dating
  • Single

This program is aimed at women who have a relationship with a man or at least have a potential suitor. However, single women will find the theory in this program very useful for future relationships.

What is it all about? (Overview)

Do you feel confused sometimes at the actions of men (or a particular man)?

Do you wonder why they seem to make the choices that they make and why do they care so much about some things but not about others?

If so, this program can really help. It covers men's motives for life and how as a woman, you can use them to your advantage, and to help make a better relationship

He as the ‘hero’, and you in control.

It breaks down his primary primal drive. The one that comes before all the rest. The fact that he needs to feel as though he is a hero…

This program shows you how to make him the hero, so you get what you want.

The best part is that the concept is simple and easy to understand. That’s the real beauty of it. It isn’t all basic exercises that a lot of programs like this can be, there is good quality new information available.

It’s straight to the point, with quite a few examples and analogies which help explain the different points.

For those people who really want to know those 12 words, (from the video) I won't reveal them here, but what they are and why they worked in that situation is fully explained in detail

There are also example phrases that can be used, but the author really teaches you how to fish, rather than just tossing you one. You may need to read or listen to the content a few times in my opinion, to get your head around it. You will also need to practice a little bit to get the hang of it.

 

The main program (His Secret Obsession) is broken up into two main parts

  1. How the Hero Instinct Works (The Theory)
  2. How to Use the Signals (The Practical)

The practical section in the program is still theory-laden, but does give enough to get you started on how to use the theory to help your relationships with your man or men in general

I think that this is a key pro, is that this program can help anyone who is having relationships with men. Whether it be personal relationships, or with men at work, in a social circle or whenever.

Part 2 has real-life applications and examples. These are generally the phenomena found in our psychology that is what helps form relationships. James (the author) identifies it and shows you how it works and how you can put it to work for yourself.

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

What you will learn

  • How every man sees himself and how you fit into that vision
  • The three things every man craves, and how they explain all of his actions
  • The three phases of a man's life and how to tell if he is ready to settle down or not (and you can do if he says he isn’t when he actually could be)
  • How to know if your man is happy in your relationship and how to increase his participation in it
  • How to ‘train’ a man to get him to do more of what you want
  • How to spark a mans interest
  • Questions you can ask him that will have him lavishing more attention on you
  • How to open your man up to you for better communication and connection in your relationship
  • How to get him out of his comfort zone
  • How he wants you to ask him for assistance – it will help grow your relationship

What’s in it

His Secret Obsession PDF and Audio Program

A 184 page eBook

Modules:

  • The Secret to Unlocking the Hero Instinct
  • Part 1: How the Hero Instinct Works
  • Module 1: The Secret Longing of Every Man
  • Module 2: The Unspoken Desire He’ll Never Admit
  • Module 3: Make Him See the Light
  • Module 4: The Fascination Trigger
  • Module 5: Why Men Say, “I’m just not ready”
  • Module 6: How Your Desires Can Fascinate Him
  • Module 7: The Secret Currency of Happy Relationships
  • Module 8: Rocket Fuel: How to Build Relationship Momentum Fast
  • Module 9: How to become His Secret Obsession
  • Module 10: Get Deeper Intimacy by Revealing More
  • Module 11: Three Things That Can Go Wrong (and how to fix them)
  • Part II: How to Use the Signals
  • Module 12: “The Private Island” Signal
  • Module 13: The “X-ray Question”
  • Module 14: The Glimpse Phrase
  • Module 15: The Secret “Currency” Of Happy Relationships
  • Module 16: The “I Owe You” Signal
  • Module 17: The “Damsel in Distress” Signal
  • One More Thing…
  • Text Message Formulas – Extra Training

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

Bonuses

Text Message Formulas

Overview:

This bonus is about how to generate interest when you're not around. How you can use texting along with your new knowledge about the male mind to get his attention (among other things).

My thoughts:

This isn’t just a massive list of texts you can use to start conversations. More like some sample text messages along with why they work. There’s also a simple formula you can follow to help when first starting. You may need some practice at this.

What’s in it:

  • Why Texting?
  • How “Curiosity Phrases” Can Keep Him Engaged
  • How to Create Curiosity Triggers When You’re Apart
  • Texting Your Life Story

7 Day Quick Start Action Guide

15 Pages

Overview:

The entire HSO course has a lot of information in it, it can seem like a whirlwind when you first start reading. This quick start guide will help you identify where you are at (there is a quiz in there to help) and give you some simple steps to focus. The ideas are to help build your confidence and show you some results.

My thoughts:

A simple to follow 7-day guide and a good way to start implementing the knowledge in the program.

My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article

Extras

(The following extras are available at an extra cost to the program)

Endless Honeymoon

87 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Is your current relationship feeling a little… stale? Has the honeymoon well untruly warn off? Does your man seem to want to spend time doing other things like playing games, or time with friends?

If this sounds like your relationship then this 87-page guide will take your hand, and lead you through desire in your relationship. Included is how to find your common desires, and how to make him feel like achieving those desires is his new most important goal (or latest game).

My thoughts:

There are a few good points including how to keep him interested in moving the relationship forward. Worth a read or a listen. Will make you with some of the relevant research and studies were done in the area of happiness and relationships.

What's in it:

  • Introduction: The elements of an endless honeymoon
  • Section 1: Make your wish lists
  • Section 2: How to get him addicted to making you happy
  • Section 3: The secrets of the endless honeymoon
  • Section 4: Making honeymoon mentality with reality
  • Section 5: Shortcut tips and tricks to making an endless honeymoon
  • Section 6: Making it work in the current phase of your relationship

Love(Attraction) Triggers

88 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

This guide centers around 9 ideas/techniques that you can use to help encourage his strong feelings toward you in your relationship. At first, it reads like a guide for the first 3 months of a relationship but these techniques can be used at any time in a relationship.

There is research, that you may have heard of, along with some that you likely haven’t. And it is all related to relationships. There are also good examples to follow, and bad ones to avoid.

My thoughts:

Some theory on what happens when two people first meet with a focus on psychology and decoding body language. There are also some different ways to look at particular concepts around meeting someone, including flirting and developing confidence.

  • Chapter 1: Signal interest
  • Chapter 2: Flirt
  • Chapter 3: Get your hearts pumping
  • Chapter 4: Engage in intimate self-disclosure
  • Chapter 5: Condition through association
  • Chapter 6: Trigger a ‘Yes’ mindset
  • Chapter 7: Make him work for you
  • Chapter 8: Thrive
  • Chapter 9: Develop a special type of confidence

The Reverse Attraction Technique

18 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Want to know how to get a guy to open up to you like an old friend? This guide will show you how to manipulate your own interest level to flip a switch that pulls guys toward you like a magnet.

My thoughts:

This concise guide will show you how he will talk himself into having feelings for you. It’s a bit of reverse psychology that may seem a little counter-intuitive. But as a man, I can tell you that it works.

The Fairytale Method

16 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Do you have short relationships with men? Burning bright but not for very long? This short guide gives you a technique to create deeper emotional bonds and identify where you may be going wrong.

My thoughts:

A quick guide to inviting your guy to have a relationship where he feels comfortable to share his emotions and generally open up.

Instant Authentic Connection

61 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Want a shortcut to a deep connection with a man? This guide explains how we create deep connections and how to ‘create windows of opportunity’ to create a longer lasting and more authentic connection with your partner.

My thoughts:

More about creating emotional bonds. Might be a little far-fetched or a bit hard to follow for some. Think of it as a little more ‘advanced’.

What’s in it:

  • Section 1: The two mindsets that make the difference
  • Section 2: Shortcuts to an authentic connection
  • Section 3: Enemies of authenticity

Get a Guy to Commit: A Method for Increasing Attraction While Setting Standards for Your Relationship

13 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

This short guide is to help you identify, set and enforce boundaries with your guy. This is very important in a lasting relationship and shouldn’t be skipped. It talks about when the best time to have these conversations is, and how to get your man to open up about what he really wants also.

My thoughts:

This guide is dedicated to those single women or those who are in a new relationship mostly. A few rules to follow when setting rules and boundaries for a new relationship.

The Win-Win Negotiation System

7 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Is there a lot of silent treatment, frustration, and disagreement in your relationship? This system contains a quick to use guide based off of a principle created by one of the most prominent social psychologists.

My thoughts:

A good rule for any negotiation. Personally, I hadn’t heard of this before. Requires some time so it’s more for the larger aspects of a relationship or something that has caused some angst between you and your man.

The Curiosity Effect

84 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Curiosity is something that we are exposed to all the time. It’s a hint of what something is about but not the full story. This guide shows you how you can use this trait to your advantage, in attracting his interest.

What’s in it:

  • Section 1: The power of curiosity
  • Section 2: The simple (yet powerful) rules of curiosity
  • Section 3: The first curiosity pattern – story
  • Section 4: The second curiosity pattern – intermittent rewards through games
  • Section 5: Win his approach with curiosity
  • Section 6: Know when to be curious about him
  • Section 7: Reverse the number one threat to long-term relationships
  • Conclusion: Own his curiosity, you will own his heart

My thoughts:

This guide is not as simple to follow as some of the other ones. The concept is sound but you may need a few listens and some practice to understand it fully after you have read/listened to this. You may also feel like a marketer when you are trying it out, which doesn’t feel natural.

Emotional Imprint Method

47 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Relationships involve growth and change. So how do you keep on top of that and prioritize your relationship above all else? This guide will show you how to find things that work in your relationship, and use them to help create a stronger bond.

My thoughts:

This is a pretty common sense guide to keeping a relationship fun. I didn’t really get any new nuggets of information here, but it’s always good to be reminded of the basics whilst in your car on the way to work.

Unlock Your Charisma

41 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Think good looks are the only thing that will turn a man’s head? The truth is that to turn heads and have an aura, you need some charisma. This guide covers how others create charisma and how you can create some for yourself too.

My thoughts:

Some will find this a little woo-woo. If you're turned off by visualizing, affirmations and positive thinking then you might want to skip this.

Why Men Pull Away

13 Pages (& Audio)

Overview:

Ever wondered if there was a way to influence his desire? This guide covers why men pull away (it’s sometimes biological and sometimes psychological) and what you need to know to successfully deal with the situation.

My thoughts:

A good insight from this short guide. Worth a listen.

Awakening Your Feminine Intuition

10 modules (Approx 90 Pages & Audio)

Overview:

Learn how to tap into your intuition at a moment's notice when facing a difficult and unique relationship scenario. Plus, you will feel far more confident about your relationship decisions. You will also learn how to tap into a deep well of creativity and insights that will dazzle any man you set your sights on.

My Thoughts:

This bonus is about trying to tap into ‘intuition' which is mostly about a concept in cognitive science referred to in Daniel Kanehman's book ‘thinking fast and slow'. I think some might find it a little out there also. It wasn't for me.

 The Irresistable Vibe

Overview:

Discover a simple technique you can use to shine with an irresistible vibe. Learn how fulfilling life can be when you’re blessed with true and enthusiastic connections with people everywhere you go.

My thoughts:

By now the course is starting to get some familiarity to it. The idea behind this one is a little more abstract than some of the other content also.  So some may feel like it's a bit out there to begin with.

The PROS and CONS of His Secret Obsession

PROS

Insights

This isn’t simply doing exercises or dreaming about ‘the way you want things to be'.

This program provides new insights that show the reasons behind why men do what they do and explain their actions.

Once this is fully understood then it’s easy to in effect, become an artist with it. Be able to get what you want while giving him what he wants. A win-win.

(As a man, when I read this and listened to it I found myself nodding my head in agreement. Although I hadn’t thought of my life like this before, I found it to deliver some honest truths that I didn’t even realize of myself.)

Easy to Follow

The analogies, stories, and examples are simple to understand and make clear the point being made. There’s no second-guessing or what if’s. The program is clear.

CONS

No video

In the extras part, there is some video but the main part of the course doesn’t have a video section. If you find video the best way to learn (over text and audio) then there isn’t an option for you.

The author is a bit rude sometimes

Although the content is good, there are parts in this course which I felt treat the reader like a fool. In particular one section where ‘some readers just won’t get this part’… I didn’t like.

Price of extras

I thought the price of the extras was a little bit too expensive. They are good but they aren’t that good. (Note – if you want the extras for less money after you purchase the main program, you can reject them twice before being offered a more favorable price.)

What I think of HSO

Firstly I wasn't sure exactly what to expect after watching the video. If you are in the same boat as I was then here is what to expect

  1. There is plenty of theory in this. Plenty of ideas, research and new insights into your future relationships with men.
  2. The program is very polished and has been through the theory. It’s easy to follow and with the audio program, you can listen to it a few times to have it really sink into your head.
  3. I thought it was enjoyable, easy to follow and helpful. The best part though was the insight. Being able to classify men by one or two simple statements (as their schema) is important.
  4. The extras also compliment the main course which gives you a few more tools to use.

As a man, as soon as I started reading about ‘the hero instinct’ i could see it in my life. I thought about my actions and my priorities in life, and they do revolve around this drive. In a sentence, me trying to prove my worth, and me being drawn to things around the ideas of heroes and striving towards my goals.

I could also see how my wife was fitting into this. Where I felt like she was helping me, and where I felt there was friction.

After going through the program, I think that it’s important to get your head around this concept if you have or are planning to have a serious, long-term relationship with a man.

Understanding how he works, what his motivations are and what he needs to be happy (although he probably doesn't understand it himself) is a massive leap forward towards having better relationships with men.

This program is worth the price of a date, and I recommend it. You can get your copy here.

 

Thanks for reading my His Secret Obsession review. If you have any questions you'd like to ask me or anything else about the program, you can contact me here.

Text the Romance Back Review – The PROS and CONS

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NOTE: Below is my review of Text the Romance Back by Michael Fiore. I have tried many different relationship programs and I bring some of that experience to this review also. You can see some of my other reviews here. This article contains affiliate links.

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IT'S NOT EASY WHEN we feel like we are missing something when it comes to the relationships in our lives..

Because we never really get sat down and talked to about relationships, even though they are one of the most important parts of our lives

So it can seem like divine intervention when someone tells us they can resolve the relationship issues we are facing

Stuff like reconnecting with our partner, bringing the romance back and even getting the state of our relationship back to when we first met our partner

After watching the video on texttheromanceback.com it's right to feel a little cautious

You are probably asking ‘Who is Michael Fiore and how does he propose to get the romance back in my relationship?'

And have other questions like…

  • What exactly do i get?
  • What happens after you go through the program?
  • What are the pros and cons?
  • What does someone who has been through the program actually think of it?

If so, then this review is written to answer those and other questions. So without any further stalling…

The Theory Behind Text the Romance Back (TRB) (How it Works)

You may not realize that your communication with your partner is not always… letting itself to romance and passion

It happens slowly but we do take each other for granted and our communication reflects that

We might only talk to our partners and tell them i need to go to the shops after work to get bread, do you want anything’ type texts, calls, emails, instant messangers

And although it doesn’t sound like much, it starts to erode your relationship

Enter TRB

It’s very much like a breakdown of ‘how to flirt’ and packaged for people in relationships who may have lost the art. Or more correctly, life got in the way and keeps getting in the way.

So when you talked it was to make each other feel good. Not so much trying to do the chores or run errands or do all the ‘necessary things’

This program is a nice ‘relationship reset button', to take you back to when you first met and fell in love. And you didn’t depend on each other, instead you thought about each other but didn’t need each other

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Text the romance back (in summary)

  • Text – Yes (PDF and online membership portal)
  • Audio – Yes
  • Video – No (available in extras)

Bonuses

  • I like myself worksheet
  • FAQ
  • Facebook message secrets

Important Notes

The program is the same for men and women.

Wbo is it for?

It’s really for anyone aged 25+. More particularly those in a relationship but not necessarily. The only time i'd say that that isn't applicable is if your relationship is in more serious trouble. If you don't think that your man will answer texts from you then TRB won't help and it's time to get some more serious help.

What is it in one sentence

Text message techniques to bring back the love, romance, and connection back into your life.

What’s it All About (a Plain English Summary)

Text the Romance Back (TRB) is a system based around 8 different text message techniques.

The system runs for 4 weeks where you have 2 different techniques for texting every week.

The texts start tentatively and simply get his attention, and work their way up from there. (or down depending on how you look at it)

In fact the first week of texting techniques is stuff you can use with your friends and work colleagues if you simply changed words like ‘life’ to ‘team’ or ‘business’

You do also get access to quite a few ‘done for you’ text messages which helps get you started as well as helps you know what to do so u can come up with your own

In fact most of the program is the theory behind why the messages work, when they are best used and what to do if you don’t get a response.

At the start of the program there are 6 core concepts that detail more general love and life principles. Tenants that will help you if you need some guidance with love and relationships overall.

There’s also a few points on what to do if you don’t text (you prefer email, instant messenger or in person) and how the messages can still work for you.

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Here is Michael Fiore on the Rachel Ray show. You can click the image to see the video

A few points on Michael Fiore

If you’ve never heard of him before then… your like most people. He has appeared on some television shows and other mainstream media but he’s not Oprah either.

I guess the thing that stands out the most about him is that he brings his personality to what he does. And i can understand how some people may get turned off by the side tangent stories, along with the over the top detail in his descriptions and the faster-than-normal rate at which he talks.

Personally i like the personality that he brings… generally.

The stories are relevant and it does make the TRB feel more personal than other products/books I have gone through. Although sometimes the side tangents can get distracting.

Although whether you like him or not, his insights are good and are worth listening to. I don’t think there is any doubt that Michael knows what he is talking about when it comes to relationships.

Pros:

Simple to follow

I don’t say this lightly. But the program is easy to follow. It’s clear what the ideas are, the actions that you take are also clear and spelled out (literally in case of the ‘done for you texts’).

I like the fact that it’s organised well, that there is a plan to follow and it is simple to follow

Easy to read

I didn’t find this program talking to me about concepts that were over my head or hard to understand.. In fact it was easy to read and although i went through the entire program before i sent a text, then

Taking action is simple

Seeing as there are text messages you can copy and paste taking action is so simple. After you have sent a few of the ones on there then you can start making your own. Mike tells you how to come up with your own, and what will and wont work.

Cons:

Hard to download everything

It’s easy to download the book, but getting the audios was a bit of a pain. Finding them all and downloading them one at a time, then unzipping them. It’s a pain

Also finding some of the bonuses was a bit of a pain. You need to find them in the members section in the actual book. So if you aren’t reading it online then you need to look for them. Just for the record:

The ‘I like myself game’ worksheet is in the core concepts section

Audio is a little hard to follow:

Michael himself reads the audio version, which is great .It’s always better when the author reads the audio version as you can get a different insight that doesn’t come when an actor does it.

The audio version of the program is read by Michael Fiore and is a bit too fast. The words come thick and fast. However if you’ve already read it or you listen to it a couple of times you do get a better picture of what he is getting at.

Also you will need the text version to copy the texts from.

Your not going to get to the bottom of your more serious relationship problems

Text the Romance Back is a great way to initiate communication with your partner. But it's not therapy or any serious kind of relationship fix. If you can't talk to each other, this isn't going to help.

Bonuses:

Audio program:

The TRB program, read by Michael Fiore as mentioned above.

I like myself worksheet:

A quick guide/technique to improve your self esteem. I like it because although it is a little ‘cheesy', it's quick, comprehensive, and easy to do. It also has a use in the TRB program to help you find content for your text messages.

Crib sheet (done for you texts/messages):

A sheet of done for you text messages. A great place to start. Don't be afraid to simply write these down as you see them and send.

Not only do they help you start, but writing them out yourself gives you the feel for how to write more personalized messages in future.

TRB FAQ:

This is simply previous customers questions answered. Worth a browse. You do get access to a customer service email when you get into the members area of TRB, so you can ask any questions that aren't answered here.

Facebook Romance Secrets:

I couldn't find this bonus inside the program. I am not exactly sure how to access it.

Extras:

How to kiss a man and make him fall in love

Overview:

Kissing often gets overlooked in the later stages of a relationship, but it is still an important way to connect with your partner. In fact it’s one way you can communicate if some of the other ways you are talking are not working so well. There is three main sections to this extra report.

Why kissing is important (it’s history and place in human culture)

The steps of a great kiss (a kiss broken down into 8 steps)

Kissing techniques – (like a kissing playbook)

My thoughts:

There’s quite a bit of content in here for a short report, and some may like the fact that there will be some trial and error with this. There aren’t any pictures/video which in this case is a good and bad thing.

At the very least you will take away a couple of ideas for use in your relationship. There are plenty of ideas in this guide. The 8 steps also provides a platform for more ways to ‘change things up’ and maybe even control the physical side of your relationship better.

There are also some simple truths here, but no shocking suprises.

You will learn:

  • Why kissing is so important (it’s in our genes),
  • What happens to a man when he gets kissed ‘the right way
  • The theory behind kissing
  • Is finding a good kisser the key to finding a great guy? The answer will surprise you
  • Secrets around kissing
  • Ideas around kissing.

My Text the Romance Back Conclusion:

This program is not a fixall for your relationship. It isn’t going to be a magic pill that will fix everything. However, what it does do is give you a framework to build your relationship back up again. Back to when you were thinking of each other during the day, and showing more appreciation and affection for each other.

It’s a simple way to re engage your partner on a romantic and passionate level. I think it’s worth the price and that is why i am happy to recommend it.

You can get your copy here

Iif you want to ask me a question you can do so here.