TO PREPARE US FOR the workforce we have school, tertiary education, training, professional on-going development, and even mentorships
But when it comes to marriage, there isn't really any formal preparation… apart from some trial and error, and advice from our peers
So when things go bad or even just change, we often don't know what to do
And find ourselves in these loops that just go around and around and get nowhere
Expert advice can help break the loop and change your marriage for the better
But what do you do when you can't get your partner to agree to see a marriage counselor?
The good news is that you can take the fate of your marriage into your own hands…
Books and programs from experts:
Many counselors, psychologists, therapists, and other relationship experts write books about saving and fixing marriages. Are they right for you?
Pros and cons of using books and DIY programs
You can use them when your partner doesn’t want to try to save the marriage
They are less expensive than seeing a professional in person (quite a bit so)
You get the best expert information (doesn’t matter if they don’t live near you)
It's an easier and more casual way to start working on your marriage. Without the stress of confrontation, and ‘starting formal counselling'.
No one needs to know that you're marriage is in trouble (not even your husband)
Short Quiz – Should you use a book or program?
Is your husband happy to talk about your marriage situation?
In your opinion, does your husband verbalize his feelings, emotions, and point of view clearly?
Do you know exactly why your marriage is in trouble?
If you answered No to any of these questions, then a book or program is the best place to start.
Books can help provide answers to questions and any loops that you find yourself stuck in. All from the privacy and comfort of your own home, car or favorite coffee shop.
7 Popular Books and Programs
Save the Marriage – Dr. Lee Baucom
22+ years of experience in a book
Dr. Lee Baucom believes that simply having better communication skills is not going to fix your marriage.
In fact, he says that having better communication skills will only make you better at fighting. And that is one of the big issues with traditional marriage counseling, and why the success rates are so low…
His book will show you exactly what you need to do to become a ‘we’ again. And how to change your husband's current perception of you
He addresses marriages all the way from ‘I see problems down the road’ to ‘your husband has left and initiated legal proceedings – no communication’. Well worth the read, even if you are the only one trying to save your marriage.
MY OPINION: A great choice from a trusted source for when only one person is trying to save the marriage. Dr. Baucom also has an optional support group he only offers to people who have read his book (and understand his techniques).
Mend the Marriage – Brad Browning
Simple and easy to follow
Looking for a simple to follow guide for the best chance of saving your marriage?
Brad believes that by changing the way you think about marriage, you can change your marriage. And he has the testimonials to prove it!
Brad’s advice is simple to follow, in fact, he uses his own ABCD system. His book includes a few worksheets that you can work through to help prioritize and understand what’s happening in your relationship.
Included are some special guides on surviving infidelity, managing money and caring for your kids in the midst of a divorce or separation.
MY OPINION: This book contains plenty of good information but is a little light on in the practical side. A good option for the thinkers out there…
Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work – Matthew McKay Ph.D, Patrick Fanning, Kim Paleg Ph.D
A step-by-step guide to the relationship you've always wanted
No one ever said being in a relationship was easy. But if you are prepared to put in the work, this step by step guide teaches you how to work smarter not harder.
Each chapter covers a different vital skill such as communication, better problem coping skills, and healthy ways to resolve conflicts. Most of us have at least the basic skills, or we wouldn't be in a relationship at all. But few go beyond this, which is why so many relationships fail.
In this updated edition is a chapter covering a revolutionary new technique called ACT or Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Designed to help build deeper trust and intimacy, you learn how to own your emotions while at the same time accept your partner's feelings for what they are, no judgment.
By following the steps, you will see the real value in your relationship and how to commit to making it better. Get your copy here
MY OPINION: It's good that each chapter stands alone and works on one issue, but some of the language used is overly technical.
Hope for Your Marriage: Experience God’s Greatest Desires for You and Your Spouse – Clayton & Ashlee Hurst
Stories of wisdom over the ‘instruction manual' approach
Marriage counselors Clayton and Ashlee Hurst share their own struggles in 20 years of marriage. During this time, they have raised three children and have learned that God didn't create marriage as a way to make us all happy, what he created was love.
This faith-based approach to relationships is easy to read and offers a wealth of information. Including how to make the transition from the “honeymoon” phase of your relationship to the “everyday” phase successfully.
Rather than just another book with a list of step by step instructions, Clayton and Ashlee share what they have learned over the years.
The book also contains a foreword by Joel Osteen and highly recommended by many top religious figures. Get your copy here
MY OPINION: This book is easy to read and relate to, but there isn't much in the way of new information.
Marriage: From Surviving to Thriving: Practical Advice on Making Your Marriage Strong – Charles R. Swindoll
A fresh new look at making Christian relationships work today
In an era of change where gender roles are changing, author Chuck Swindoll, pastor, and Bible teacher offers a healthy blend of hope and practical advice aimed at helping your marriage work better
With so much change in the world and roles within the family in a constant state of flux, Chuck offers faith-based tips and advice placing God in charge and using His word as the guide to a better more fulfilling marriage
MY OPINION: Christians looking for practical, faith-based advice will enjoy this book. It is heavily Christian and may not be for everyone
How to Save your Christian Marriage – Dr. Lee Baucom
A comprehensive program to follow for Christian marriages
Has your husband decided to throw in the towel?
If this sounds like you then this is the book you are after. Written by a 20+ year qualified marriage counselor, it is specifically for Christians who want to use their faith to help them save their marriage… Even if only you are trying
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Note: This is my review of the Language Of Desire program after getting a copy and reading/listening to it. Others may experience the program differently. I have used the program and my knowledge of other programs in writing this review.
IF YOU ARE READING THIS, IT’S LIKELY that your relationship isn’t exactly where you want it to be…
And the issue at the core is that your husband isn’t as open and honest with you as you’d like. Maybe you feel like he’s keeping things, or simply not telling you what he thinks, and you're tired of being kept ‘out of the loop’ and trying to put things together yourself.
I know as a man that it’s not that I don’t want to share, it’s that I feel like my wife doesn’t really want me to share. The good news is that how to overcome this problem, is in the program.
What is the Language Of Desire in one sentence?
An upfront and honest guide on how to build and strengthen your relationship with your man using intimacy.
The Language Of Desire (LOD)… in More Detail
At its core, LOD is a written and audio program designed to show you how to get your mans attention, keep it, and build a deeper relationship between the two of you.
The how is through sex.
The reason IS NOT that you have to ‘become a slut’ but actually because sex gets a mans attention… pretty much every time. It simply plain works. Your man doesn’t want you to become a slut. But he does want you to worship him among other factors. And due to the kids, the house, our careers and life in general, these factors get forgotten about or neglected in our relationships.
As well as the fact that we don’t really get taught how to build strong relationships, have great sex and increase our levels of intimacy with a partner… the only places that talk about these topics are movies, magazines, celebrity-based websites, and maybe friends…
But none of these are really great teachers.
Enter Felicity Keith
She had enough of what others were telling her because it wasn’t working. So she decided to figure it out for herself. And the Language Of Desire program is her manifesto/little-black-book. Her tell-all guide on what she found, and more importantly, how you can make a difference in your relationship with your man.
One of the best parts of this program is that it cuts the crap. (Which is why I was interested enough to get a copy and review it in the first place).
Simply put there are things that you can do to turn your intimacy around. And this book covers many of them.
It doesn’t cover everything. But if you're looking for something to do to get your intimacy back on the right track, or want something you can do pretty much straight away. This will give you those tools, techniques, and tips.
There’s also the reasons why covered in this program. Why a particular technique works, and what issue you are potentially solving with it. As well as how you can customize what you are doing to really get his attention.
For example, LOD reveals the tricks porn companies use to seduce men and keep them coming back for more. It also discloses exactly how women act in porn and exactly why it turns men on so much.
You will also learn why what you are currently doing is not working, and how your man sees it through his eyes. It’s a great eye opener as your actions may not convey what you are trying to tell him.
There is also a section in this program about how to get what you want. And how to supercharge your intimacy in your relationship, and bring him closer (the science behind that is in the program).
So without further adieu:
Note: If you want to go straight to the pros and cons and my verdict, then keep scrolling down in the review. The next section covers what you actually get in the program.
What’s In Each Module In The Program
Module One: Introduction
Module Two: Become a Sexual Superwoman
Learn to dump your fear over the “slut” label
Determine your sexual boundaries
Discover your growl-inducing Madonna Moan
Module Three: Loving Man’s Best Friend (hint: it’s not his dog)
Understand the secrets of his sex drive
Learn why his penis is so important to him
Rethink pornography (this one is controversial!)
Learn The Porn Destroyer
Module Four: Brain Chemistry and Sex
Explore how desire and sex work with our primitive brain
Using the potent Cuddle Hormone technique
Have fun with Pavlov’s Erection technique
Learn the power of Sexual Singularity
Module Five: Create an Erotic Action Movie
Make him the star of your own sexy movie script
Writing your script step by step
Learn a variety of ways to share your movie with him
Module Six: Desire Intensifiers
Masterfully crank up the sexual heat
Make him pant with desire with the Tease Intensifier
Learn a blow job to blow his mind with the Oral Intensifier
Snap “him” to attention with Verbal Viagra
Module Seven: For the Single Ladies
Use dirty talk effectively when dating
Get him to commit with the Monogamous Male Maximizer
How to go from Friend-Zone to Fantasy Girl
Module Eight: Getting Your Fantasies Met
Planting desire seeds
Have dirty fun with The Lust Mirror technique
Practically read his mind using Erotic Telepathy
Make him your hero with the Romance Rotator
Explore your kinky side with 50 Shades of Experimenting
Module Nine: When “Sex” Isn’t Possible
Getting around life’s sexual obstacle course
Learn how to be dirty from a distance
Use the No Touch Lay to keep things hot
Learn about the Invisible Chastity Belt (it’s more fun than it sounds)
Module Ten: Master Class
What if he’s a cold fish
Fine-tune your technique
Plan out your dirty deeds
Language Of Desire Bonus Content
This 12 page text guide is the body language accompaniment to the Language Of Desire program. The guide includes how to use your body to send signals straight to his subconscious brain, and how to amp up attraction and his attention when your out in a social group together. Caters for both single and those in a relationship.
Some good insights, some general knowledge, and plenty of techniques. This quick read is at the very least a good reminder of how to subtly get the message across and keep his attention squarely fixed on you.The techniques are kind of blunt so discretion is advised while practising them in public. Overall a good addition as there is something here for every woman.
Good Girl's Guide to Texting Dirty
This 15 page text guide includes 200 text messages to help you get over your creative block when it comes to getting things started with your man. The texts involve one liners, all the way through to intimate stories and private conversations over text. There are some introductory information here as well if your wondering which type of message you should pick.
A lot of templated text messages. This will help even the more subdued and shy get the message across. There are different types of messages including direct and indirect here, something for everyone. A great way for both of you to start the day.
Unstoppable Confidence with Michael Griswold
This 90 minute audio (with transcription) is an interview with the relationship coach Michael Griswold (interviewed by Michael Fiore.) It covers:
The one most desirable trait that men find in a woman (it isn’t what you think it is)
The two things (Michael G thinks) a woman needs to do to get a man to fall in love with her
The three types of women Michael sees when doing his relationship work
… Along with many other areas of interest
This 90 minute conversation includes some new insights and different ways of looking at different relationship dynamics. It is quite casual (almost like a conversation) and a lot is covered. This isn’t going to suit everyone. The particular information along with how it is delivered isn’t for everyone, but it’s good to listen to get a difference in opinion.
It’s important to note that Michael G is covering information that is different from the main program, and this bonus doesn’t add to LOD, it gives a different perspective.
The Language Of Desire Program – What you will learn:
The powerful little secret that will make your man addicted to you and re-energize the intimacy in your marriage
How to protect your relationship and create a bond so strong other women won't be able to make your man stray
What you can do to get his erection on a string for you to control
The phrase you can use to start a open and honest conversation with him, if he’s always telling you what he's really thinking
What you can text to him right now that will have him thinking about you all day and very excited to see you when you get home
One thing men hate about relationships with particular women, and how you can avoid it
How you can get and keep his attention while he is engrossed in something else
How to build a portfolio of experiences he loves in your relationship that will bond you two forever
How to subtly change your relationship from more like roommates to lovers again
How to grow your connection and his confidence in your relationship
Why men hate nagging, how to identify it and a simple technique to fix it
Why your man might be sexually repressed and how you can help him get in touch with his inner stag – binding him to you forever
The 6 fantasy themes and how to identify how your man fantasies about sex when your not around
How to make your man become more attentive and romantic
Why your sex life isn’t what it used to be, and how to get it back on track
How you can turn a mundane situation, into an intimate one
How to keep him thinking about you, even when he’s hundreds of miles away
The best way to use your past intimate experiences, to create new future experiences
What to do when he doesn’t respond to your advances the way he used to
The vital elements of planning your intimate time with your man
And quite a bit more!
A Quick Note on ‘Who is Felicity Keith?’
The LanguageOfDesire.com says that Felicity Keith is a regular woman who, after a relationship shock has taken the time to learn about relationships, men and women and what they want.
Although I haven’t spoken to Felicity directly, she reads the audio version of the program. She also uses email to ‘check in’ after you get the program to see how you are doing and deliver a few more pointers.
PROS and CONS
This program is Felicity’s experience. While going through the program, she will drop in stories or bits and pieces about her life which I think make the program more relatable.
It’s easy to tell from the program that she is quite experienced in this area, and has knowledge. Because of this, she breaks things down really well and makes them quite easys to understand and follow. She doesn’t hold back either, it’s quite a comprehensive program.
Plenty of done for you
There are tasks that you need to do in this program, but as far as wanting to get started straight away there is plenty templates and done-for-you samples that you can use to get started.
You could literally be texting or telling him something you learned 20 minutes after getting your copy. As a man, these techniques would work on me. So you will be sure to get a rise out of him.
Plenty of exercises
They will take work. About 2 weeks i reckon
They will stretch your comfort zone in a good way. Even if you just work on one or two of them to begin with.
I like having the audio program to listen to in the car and when I can't read. But the quality is poor. It sounds like Felicity (who also reads the program) is on the other end of a phone line. Also the audio files aren’t ordered when you download it. So if you want to listen to the whole thing in order, you will need to organize it yourself before putting it in your car.
The program comes in a PDF. But there isn’t much logical flow, and i found myself getting confused at which point i was in the program. Especially at the start. Even when following the pdf i felt a little lost. The modules seem to be independent, which is good, but when first going through it i didn’t like it.
This program is not for the easily offended or women who simply don’t want to go into depth about sex and changing how you look at your relationship in the bedroom.
The program centres itself around sex. The program delves into some of the rauncher aspects of life. This may be an issue for some readers. The program is quite explicit in it’s language. Felicity doesn’t hold back in what to say and do. Some of the ideas and techniques might also be a bit much for some.
Overall (My Opinion)
Felicity, is well versed and you can tell her experience when going through the program. She answers the most common questions in FAQ sections along the way. There is also a customer support email that you can use to ask any questions you might have. Felicity talks about comments, although i cannot see where to leave any (i assume email customer support)
There is plenty of ideas, techniques, tips, stories and samples in this program. In this way it is a good way to get started. It is also a good way to get into things.
What some people may not like is that it does cover a lot of sexual stuff. You may not be comfortable with some of the stuff (some would be weird for me), but the program does give a wide selection, there will be a few things here that you will want to try.
There is a good mix between theory and action here. You can understand why it works and there are some examples and guides on what to do next. Step by step.
This program isn’t going to fix all your problems. But there is a lot of tools in here to help a intimacy starved relationship.
Mr Recommendation (after having gone through the program)
Something important to note is that the Language Of Desire is mostly about meeting his needs. There is a section in the program about getting your needs met. But i think generally, The theory i think behind it is, if you make him happy, he will make you happy.
So, if your after something that is focused on making you happy then there could be two things.. Either this isn’t the program for you, or you will have to be patient and see what your man does after you follow the program.
This program will educate you to become a better partner, and lover. While reading and listening, there were at least a few points that I did not know, or had misconceptions about particular things that LOD helped me identify.
Overall i do recommend this program. I would think that after this program the quality of your relationship will improve.
I think it’s likely that you will take at least 2-3 things away from it and use them on your man. He will be happily surprised and going through the program and understanding what he wants will lead your relationship with him on a new trajectory.
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NOT UNDERSTANDING WHAT MEN ARE DOING AND WHY, can leave you very frustrated…. Sometimes enough to give up on men altogether!
But when you do understand him, and you understand him enough to start influencing his behavior, for the betterment of you, him and your relationship… That’s where being in a relationship really comes into its own. And in comes the fun and joy of sharing your life with someone.
The His Secret Obsession program attempts to bridge women and men together, through education of his behavior and motivations.
What is it in one sentence?
This is a guide to help women be in control of their relationships with men. By working with men's primal drives and instincts rather than against them.
His Secret Obsession (HSO) Summary
The course is mostly text and audio versions of that text. There are 2 extras which are video.
Main course (&Bonuses):
Text – Yes
Audio – Yes
Video – No
Text – Yes
Audio – Yes
Video – Yes
Who is HSO for?
Who is it for
This program is aimed at women who have a relationship with a man or at least have a potential suitor. However, single women will find the theory in this program very useful for future relationships.
What is it all about? (Overview)
Do you feel confused sometimes at the actions of men (or a particular man)?
Do you wonder why they seem to make the choices that they make and why do they care so much about some things but not about others?
If so, this program can really help. It covers men's motives for life and how as a woman, you can use them to your advantage, and to help make a better relationship
He as the ‘hero’, and you in control.
It breaks down his primary primal drive. The one that comes before all the rest. The fact that he needs to feel as though he is a hero…
This program shows you how to make him the hero, so you get what you want.
The best part is that the concept is simple and easy to understand. That’s the real beauty of it. It isn’t all basic exercises that a lot of programs like this can be, there is good quality new information available.
It’s straight to the point, with quite a few examples and analogies which help explain the different points.
For those people who really want to know those 12 words, (from the video) I won't reveal them here, but what they are and why they worked in that situation is fully explained in detail
There are also example phrases that can be used, but the author really teaches you how to fish, rather than just tossing you one. You may need to read or listen to the content a few times in my opinion, to get your head around it. You will also need to practice a little bit to get the hang of it.
The main program (His Secret Obsession) is broken up into two main parts
How the Hero Instinct Works (The Theory)
How to Use the Signals (The Practical)
The practical section in the program is still theory-laden, but does give enough to get you started on how to use the theory to help your relationships with your man or men in general
I think that this is a key pro, is that this program can help anyone who is having relationships with men. Whether it be personal relationships, or with men at work, in a social circle or whenever.
Part 2 has real-life applications and examples. These are generally the phenomena found in our psychology that is what helps form relationships. James (the author) identifies it and shows you how it works and how you can put it to work for yourself.
My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article
What you will learn
How every man sees himself and how you fit into that vision
The three things every man craves, and how they explain all of his actions
The three phases of a man's life and how to tell if he is ready to settle down or not (and you can do if he says he isn’t when he actually could be)
How to know if your man is happy in your relationship and how to increase his participation in it
How to ‘train’ a man to get him to do more of what you want
How to spark a mans interest
Questions you can ask him that will have him lavishing more attention on you
How to open your man up to you for better communication and connection in your relationship
How to get him out of his comfort zone
How he wants you to ask him for assistance – it will help grow your relationship
What’s in it
His Secret Obsession PDF and Audio Program
A 184 page eBook
The Secret to Unlocking the Hero Instinct
Part 1: How the Hero Instinct Works
Module 1: The Secret Longing of Every Man
Module 2: The Unspoken Desire He’ll Never Admit
Module 3: Make Him See the Light
Module 4: The Fascination Trigger
Module 5: Why Men Say, “I’m just not ready”
Module 6: How Your Desires Can Fascinate Him
Module 7: The Secret Currency of Happy Relationships
Module 8: Rocket Fuel: How to Build Relationship Momentum Fast
Module 9: How to become His Secret Obsession
Module 10: Get Deeper Intimacy by Revealing More
Module 11: Three Things That Can Go Wrong (and how to fix them)
Part II: How to Use the Signals
Module 12: “The Private Island” Signal
Module 13: The “X-ray Question”
Module 14: The Glimpse Phrase
Module 15: The Secret “Currency” Of Happy Relationships
Module 16: The “I Owe You” Signal
Module 17: The “Damsel in Distress” Signal
One More Thing…
Text Message Formulas – Extra Training
My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article
Text Message Formulas
This bonus is about how to generate interest when you're not around. How you can use texting along with your new knowledge about the male mind to get his attention (among other things).
This isn’t just a massive list of texts you can use to start conversations. More like some sample text messages along with why they work. There’s also a simple formula you can follow to help when first starting. You may need some practice at this.
What’s in it:
How “Curiosity Phrases” Can Keep Him Engaged
How to Create Curiosity Triggers When You’re Apart
Texting Your Life Story
7 Day Quick Start Action Guide
The entire HSO course has a lot of information in it, it can seem like a whirlwind when you first start reading. This quick start guide will help you identify where you are at (there is a quiz in there to help) and give you some simple steps to focus. The ideas are to help build your confidence and show you some results.
A simple to follow 7-day guide and a good way to start implementing the knowledge in the program.
My thoughts of the program along with the pros and cons are towards the end of the article
(The following extras are available at an extra cost to the program)
87 Pages (& Audio)
Is your current relationship feeling a little… stale? Has the honeymoon well untruly warn off? Does your man seem to want to spend time doing other things like playing games, or time with friends?
If this sounds like your relationship then this 87-page guide will take your hand, and lead you through desire in your relationship. Included is how to find your common desires, and how to make him feel like achieving those desires is his new most important goal (or latest game).
There are a few good points including how to keep him interested in moving the relationship forward. Worth a read or a listen. Will make you with some of the relevant research and studies were done in the area of happiness and relationships.
What's in it:
Introduction: The elements of an endless honeymoon
Section 1: Make your wish lists
Section 2: How to get him addicted to making you happy
Section 3: The secrets of the endless honeymoon
Section 4: Making honeymoon mentality with reality
Section 5: Shortcut tips and tricks to making an endless honeymoon
Section 6: Making it work in the current phase of your relationship
88 Pages (& Audio)
This guide centers around 9 ideas/techniques that you can use to help encourage his strong feelings toward you in your relationship. At first, it reads like a guide for the first 3 months of a relationship but these techniques can be used at any time in a relationship.
There is research, that you may have heard of, along with some that you likely haven’t. And it is all related to relationships. There are also good examples to follow, and bad ones to avoid.
Some theory on what happens when two people first meet with a focus on psychology and decoding body language. There are also some different ways to look at particular concepts around meeting someone, including flirting and developing confidence.
Chapter 1: Signal interest
Chapter 2: Flirt
Chapter 3: Get your hearts pumping
Chapter 4: Engage in intimate self-disclosure
Chapter 5: Condition through association
Chapter 6: Trigger a ‘Yes’ mindset
Chapter 7: Make him work for you
Chapter 8: Thrive
Chapter 9: Develop a special type of confidence
The Reverse Attraction Technique
18 Pages (& Audio)
Want to know how to get a guy to open up to you like an old friend? This guide will show you how to manipulate your own interest level to flip a switch that pulls guys toward you like a magnet.
This concise guide will show you how he will talk himself into having feelings for you. It’s a bit of reverse psychology that may seem a little counter-intuitive. But as a man, I can tell you that it works.
The Fairytale Method
16 Pages (& Audio)
Do you have short relationships with men? Burning bright but not for very long? This short guide gives you a technique to create deeper emotional bonds and identify where you may be going wrong.
A quick guide to inviting your guy to have a relationship where he feels comfortable to share his emotions and generally open up.
Instant Authentic Connection
61 Pages (& Audio)
Want a shortcut to a deep connection with a man? This guide explains how we create deep connections and how to ‘create windows of opportunity’ to create a longer lasting and more authentic connection with your partner.
More about creating emotional bonds. Might be a little far-fetched or a bit hard to follow for some. Think of it as a little more ‘advanced’.
What’s in it:
Section 1: The two mindsets that make the difference
Section 2: Shortcuts to an authentic connection
Section 3: Enemies of authenticity
Get a Guy to Commit: A Method for Increasing Attraction While Setting Standards for Your Relationship
13 Pages (& Audio)
This short guide is to help you identify, set and enforce boundaries with your guy. This is very important in a lasting relationship and shouldn’t be skipped. It talks about when the best time to have these conversations is, and how to get your man to open up about what he really wants also.
This guide is dedicated to those single women or those who are in a new relationship mostly. A few rules to follow when setting rules and boundaries for a new relationship.
The Win-Win Negotiation System
7 Pages (& Audio)
Is there a lot of silent treatment, frustration, and disagreement in your relationship? This system contains a quick to use guide based off of a principle created by one of the most prominent social psychologists.
A good rule for any negotiation. Personally, I hadn’t heard of this before. Requires some time so it’s more for the larger aspects of a relationship or something that has caused some angst between you and your man.
The Curiosity Effect
84 Pages (& Audio)
Curiosity is something that we are exposed to all the time. It’s a hint of what something is about but not the full story. This guide shows you how you can use this trait to your advantage, in attracting his interest.
What’s in it:
Section 1: The power of curiosity
Section 2: The simple (yet powerful) rules of curiosity
Section 3: The first curiosity pattern – story
Section 4: The second curiosity pattern – intermittent rewards through games
Section 5: Win his approach with curiosity
Section 6: Know when to be curious about him
Section 7: Reverse the number one threat to long-term relationships
Conclusion: Own his curiosity, you will own his heart
This guide is not as simple to follow as some of the other ones. The concept is sound but you may need a few listens and some practice to understand it fully after you have read/listened to this. You may also feel like a marketer when you are trying it out, which doesn’t feel natural.
Emotional Imprint Method
47 Pages (& Audio)
Relationships involve growth and change. So how do you keep on top of that and prioritize your relationship above all else? This guide will show you how to find things that work in your relationship, and use them to help create a stronger bond.
This is a pretty common sense guide to keeping a relationship fun. I didn’t really get any new nuggets of information here, but it’s always good to be reminded of the basics whilst in your car on the way to work.
Unlock Your Charisma
41 Pages (& Audio)
Think good looks are the only thing that will turn a man’s head? The truth is that to turn heads and have an aura, you need some charisma. This guide covers how others create charisma and how you can create some for yourself too.
Some will find this a little woo-woo. If you're turned off by visualizing, affirmations and positive thinking then you might want to skip this.
Why Men Pull Away
13 Pages (& Audio)
Ever wondered if there was a way to influence his desire? This guide covers why men pull away (it’s sometimes biological and sometimes psychological) and what you need to know to successfully deal with the situation.
A good insight from this short guide. Worth a listen.
Awakening Your Feminine Intuition
10 modules (Approx 90 Pages & Audio)
Learn how to tap into your intuition at a moment's notice when facing a difficult and unique relationship scenario. Plus, you will feel far more confident about your relationship decisions. You will also learn how to tap into a deep well of creativity and insights that will dazzle any man you set your sights on.
This bonus is about trying to tap into ‘intuition' which is mostly about a concept in cognitive science referred to in Daniel Kanehman's book ‘thinking fast and slow'. I think some might find it a little out there also. It wasn't for me.
The Irresistable Vibe
Discover a simple technique you can use to shine with an irresistible vibe. Learn how fulfilling life can be when you’re blessed with true and enthusiastic connections with people everywhere you go.
By now the course is starting to get some familiarity to it. The idea behind this one is a little more abstract than some of the other content also. So some may feel like it's a bit out there to begin with.
The PROS and CONS of His Secret Obsession
This isn’t simply doing exercises or dreaming about ‘the way you want things to be'.
This program provides new insights that show the reasons behind why men do what they do and explain their actions.
Once this is fully understood then it’s easy to in effect, become an artist with it. Be able to get what you want while giving him what he wants. A win-win.
(As a man, when I read this and listened to it I found myself nodding my head in agreement. Although I hadn’t thought of my life like this before, I found it to deliver some honest truths that I didn’t even realize of myself.)
Easy to Follow
The analogies, stories, and examples are simple to understand and make clear the point being made. There’s no second-guessing or what if’s. The program is clear.
In the extras part, there is some video but the main part of the course doesn’t have a video section. If you find video the best way to learn (over text and audio) then there isn’t an option for you.
The author is a bit rude sometimes
Although the content is good, there are parts in this course which I felt treat the reader like a fool. In particular one section where ‘some readers just won’t get this part’… I didn’t like.
Price of extras
I thought the price of the extras was a little bit too expensive. They are good but they aren’t that good. (Note – if you want the extras for less money after you purchase the main program, you can reject them twice before being offered a more favorable price.)
What I think of HSO
Firstly I wasn't sure exactly what to expect after watching the video. If you are in the same boat as I was then here is what to expect
There is plenty of theory in this. Plenty of ideas, research and new insights into your future relationships with men.
The program is very polished and has been through the theory. It’s easy to follow and with the audio program, you can listen to it a few times to have it really sink into your head.
I thought it was enjoyable, easy to follow and helpful. The best part though was the insight. Being able to classify men by one or two simple statements (as their schema) is important.
The extras also compliment the main course which gives you a few more tools to use.
As a man, as soon as I started reading about ‘the hero instinct’ i could see it in my life. I thought about my actions and my priorities in life, and they do revolve around this drive. In a sentence, me trying to prove my worth, and me being drawn to things around the ideas of heroes and striving towards my goals.
I could also see how my wife was fitting into this. Where I felt like she was helping me, and where I felt there was friction.
After going through the program, I think that it’s important to get your head around this concept if you have or are planning to have a serious, long-term relationship with a man.
Understanding how he works, what his motivations are and what he needs to be happy (although he probably doesn't understand it himself) is a massive leap forward towards having better relationships with men.
NOTE: Below is my review of Text the Romance Back by Michael Fiore. I have tried many different relationship programs and I bring some of that experience to this review also. You can see some of my other reviews here. This article contains affiliate links.
IT'S NOT EASY WHEN we feel like we are missing something when it comes to the relationships in our lives..
Because we never really get sat down and talked to about relationships, even though they are one of the most important parts of our lives
So it can seem like divine intervention when someone tells us they can resolve the relationship issues we are facing
Stuff like reconnecting with our partner, bringing the romance back and even getting the state of our relationship back to when we first met our partner
You are probably asking ‘Who is Michael Fiore and how does he propose to get the romance back in my relationship?'
And have other questions like…
What exactly do i get?
What happens after you go through the program?
What are the pros and cons?
What does someone who has been through the program actually think of it?
If so, then this review is written to answer those and other questions. So without any further stalling…
The Theory Behind Text the Romance Back (TRB) (How it Works)
You may not realize that your communication with your partner is not always… letting itself to romance and passion
It happens slowly but we do take each other for granted and our communication reflects that
We might only talk to our partners and tell them i need to go to the shops after work to get bread, do you want anything’ type texts, calls, emails, instant messangers
And although it doesn’t sound like much, it starts to erode your relationship
It’s very much like a breakdown of ‘how to flirt’ and packaged for people in relationships who may have lost the art. Or more correctly, life got in the way and keeps getting in the way.
So when you talked it was to make each other feel good. Not so much trying to do the chores or run errands or do all the ‘necessary things’
This program is a nice ‘relationship reset button', to take you back to when you first met and fell in love. And you didn’t depend on each other, instead you thought about each other but didn’t need each other
Text the romance back (in summary)
Text – Yes (PDF and online membership portal)
Audio – Yes
Video – No (available in extras)
I like myself worksheet
Facebook message secrets
The program is the same for men and women.
Wbo is it for?
It’s really for anyone aged 25+. More particularly those in a relationship but not necessarily. The only time i'd say that that isn't applicable is if your relationship is in more serious trouble. If you don't think that your man will answer texts from you then TRB won't help and it's time to get some more serious help.
What is it in one sentence
Text message techniques to bring back the love, romance, and connection back into your life.
What’s it All About (a Plain English Summary)
Text the Romance Back (TRB) is a system based around 8 different text message techniques.
The system runs for 4 weeks where you have 2 different techniques for texting every week.
The texts start tentatively and simply get his attention, and work their way up from there. (or down depending on how you look at it)
In fact the first week of texting techniques is stuff you can use with your friends and work colleagues if you simply changed words like ‘life’ to ‘team’ or ‘business’
You do also get access to quite a few ‘done for you’ text messages which helps get you started as well as helps you know what to do so u can come up with your own
In fact most of the program is the theory behind why the messages work, when they are best used and what to do if you don’t get a response.
At the start of the program there are 6 core concepts that detail more general love and life principles. Tenants that will help you if you need some guidance with love and relationships overall.
There’s also a few points on what to do if you don’t text (you prefer email, instant messenger or in person) and how the messages can still work for you.
A few points on Michael Fiore
If you’ve never heard of him before then… your like most people. He has appeared on some television shows and other mainstream media but he’s not Oprah either.
I guess the thing that stands out the most about him is that he brings his personality to what he does. And i can understand how some people may get turned off by the side tangent stories, along with the over the top detail in his descriptions and the faster-than-normal rate at which he talks.
Personally i like the personality that he brings… generally.
The stories are relevant and it does make the TRB feel more personal than other products/books I have gone through. Although sometimes the side tangents can get distracting.
Although whether you like him or not, his insights are good and are worth listening to. I don’t think there is any doubt that Michael knows what he is talking about when it comes to relationships.
Simple to follow
I don’t say this lightly. But the program is easy to follow. It’s clear what the ideas are, the actions that you take are also clear and spelled out (literally in case of the ‘done for you texts’).
I like the fact that it’s organised well, that there is a plan to follow and it is simple to follow
Easy to read
I didn’t find this program talking to me about concepts that were over my head or hard to understand.. In fact it was easy to read and although i went through the entire program before i sent a text, then
Taking action is simple
Seeing as there are text messages you can copy and paste taking action is so simple. After you have sent a few of the ones on there then you can start making your own. Mike tells you how to come up with your own, and what will and wont work.
Hard to download everything
It’s easy to download the book, but getting the audios was a bit of a pain. Finding them all and downloading them one at a time, then unzipping them. It’s a pain
Also finding some of the bonuses was a bit of a pain. You need to find them in the members section in the actual book. So if you aren’t reading it online then you need to look for them. Just for the record:
The ‘I like myself game’ worksheet is in the core concepts section
Audio is a little hard to follow:
Michael himself reads the audio version, which is great .It’s always better when the author reads the audio version as you can get a different insight that doesn’t come when an actor does it.
The audio version of the program is read by Michael Fiore and is a bit too fast. The words come thick and fast. However if you’ve already read it or you listen to it a couple of times you do get a better picture of what he is getting at.
Also you will need the text version to copy the texts from.
Your not going to get to the bottom of your more serious relationship problems
Text the Romance Back is a great way to initiate communication with your partner. But it's not therapy or any serious kind of relationship fix. If you can't talk to each other, this isn't going to help.
The TRB program, read by Michael Fiore as mentioned above.
I like myself worksheet:
A quick guide/technique to improve your self esteem. I like it because although it is a little ‘cheesy', it's quick, comprehensive, and easy to do. It also has a use in the TRB program to help you find content for your text messages.
Crib sheet (done for you texts/messages):
A sheet of done for you text messages. A great place to start. Don't be afraid to simply write these down as you see them and send.
Not only do they help you start, but writing them out yourself gives you the feel for how to write more personalized messages in future.
This is simply previous customers questions answered. Worth a browse. You do get access to a customer service email when you get into the members area of TRB, so you can ask any questions that aren't answered here.
Facebook Romance Secrets:
I couldn't find this bonus inside the program. I am not exactly sure how to access it.
How to kiss a man and make him fall in love
Kissing often gets overlooked in the later stages of a relationship, but it is still an important way to connect with your partner. In fact it’s one way you can communicate if some of the other ways you are talking are not working so well. There is three main sections to this extra report.
Why kissing is important (it’s history and place in human culture)
The steps of a great kiss (a kiss broken down into 8 steps)
Kissing techniques – (like a kissing playbook)
There’s quite a bit of content in here for a short report, and some may like the fact that there will be some trial and error with this. There aren’t any pictures/video which in this case is a good and bad thing.
At the very least you will take away a couple of ideas for use in your relationship. There are plenty of ideas in this guide. The 8 steps also provides a platform for more ways to ‘change things up’ and maybe even control the physical side of your relationship better.
There are also some simple truths here, but no shocking suprises.
You will learn:
Why kissing is so important (it’s in our genes),
What happens to a man when he gets kissed ‘the right way
The theory behind kissing
Is finding a good kisser the key to finding a great guy? The answer will surprise you
Secrets around kissing
Ideas around kissing.
My Text the Romance Back Conclusion:
This program is not a fixall for your relationship. It isn’t going to be a magic pill that will fix everything. However, what it does do is give you a framework to build your relationship back up again. Back to when you were thinking of each other during the day, and showing more appreciation and affection for each other.
It’s a simple way to re engage your partner on a romantic and passionate level. I think it’s worth the price and that is why i am happy to recommend it.